Bride changing surname 1 week before wedding?

[Ambs81]

I spotted this week that my future SIL has already updated her social media profiles to her married surname 9 days before their wedding.
I guess she's excited but it just seems strange, surely people will be presuming she's married now?
I left it a couple of weeks, and had updated bank etc before I did facebook.
AIBU to think she's acting like a bunny boiler?

I think you need to take a long hard look at yourself OP.

Hope you feel better soon.

YABU.

Actually it is not illegal to call yourself by any name you want.

You can actually apply for a passport in your new married name prior to the wedding with it's starting date the day of the wedding.

Why do you care anyway?

Each to their own.

Poor future SIL if she has a lifetime of this to come!

I can't believe in 2018 a women would be so desperate to be seen as married by social media networks of friends and family they'd preemptively make that update.

How do you even know that's what it is? I always said I would never change my name, then I met my husband and my opinion changed. Maybe changing her name is just a part of how much she loves her soon to be husband?

You're not coming across well at all OP.

Bold quote fail sorry

Look, the only person who should have anything to say about this is the other person getting married. It really has nothing to do with you.

OP you seem massively overinvested. I didn’t changed my name on marriage. You and many women have. Each to their own. Even though it is, as you have observed, 2018.

She’s going to be your sister in law. I think you’re setting yourself up for future drama unless you can chill out and back off :)

I fail to see how it makes her a bunny boiler?
You sound really sour OP

We all understand that you don't like your future SIL and no one can change that. You aren't coming across great though here, you seem nasty, sneering at her just because she's excited about getting married to the person she's in love with.

I feel like you need to watch Fatal Attraction again if you think this makes her a bunny boiler.

I never changed my surname with my previous marriage but did immediately with my now husband and I liked my maiden name too. It all had to do with how I felt about each of them.

I feel sorry for your future SIL, that she has someone like you looking down their nose at her.

You are being mean and you come across as jealous. What someone chooses to do it up to them.
She is excited about getting married, she is being super organized,. And how dare you look down your nose at someone for changing their name for marriage ; it is their choice. Some double barrel, some change, some don't. It is everyone's choice.

Get a grip, OP

People can call themselves whatever they like whenever, provided they're not doing it for the purposes of deception, and it's not really any weirder to change one's name before a wedding than after. You being this invested in it isn't a good look.

You can't change your bank and passport until you get your marriage cert, on the day of the wedding.

This is wrong. I got my passport in my future married name by asking the vicar to sign a form that he was marrying me on X date. That way I could book my honeymoon in my new married name and not have an issue with the passport.

Who pissed on your chips!!!

Your poor sil. I hope your disdain for her isn't as obvious irl as it is on here.

Does she know you dislike her? I’d have been so upset if I found out my future SIL was slagging me off on a public forum just before I married her brother.

YABU

it doesn’t affect you or anyone else in the slightest, and is just harmless excitement

My “stepmum” has my dads surname as one of her surnames of fb, even though they’re not married and no plans to get married. I see it as a sign of commitment to my dad and his family, which she’s been a part of for the last 20 years.

You can't change your bank and passport until you get your marriage cert, on the day of the wedding.

Actually OP you're wrong regarding the passport, you can change it before you just need a special letter from the registera for the passport office, my sister has just done it.

Why are you so upset she's excited to change her name?! Maybe a bit off she's done it early but I can't understand why you're making such a deal out of it. I was excited about taking my husbands second name, what on Earth is wrong with that?! Just because you weren't?

Op, you must eat so many lemons.

Surprised any woman changes her name. Why would you?

As others have said she may have legally already changed her name. She may just be excited. So what? I got married and changed my name. It a woman doesn't want to fine but you are coming across badly judging her.

Trying to decide if OP is wearing white or black to the wedding.

I think it reeks of immaturity and insecurity.

Tbh I have strong opinions and reactions to name changing in general, but ultimately what others do and when is not my business.

Is she your brothers future? You were gutted to have to change your surname and jealous that she's now getting to have it?

You can change your passport before the ceremony

www.gov.uk/changing-passport-information/name-marriage-and-civil-partnership

I just think it's weird - I was a bit gutted to change my surname.

Is it your Brothers wife to be? Is she getting your old surname by any chance?

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