Today is my mums birthday. Nothing was planned so I text my stepdad and arranged for us all to meet in the garden of their local (including some friends and siblings.)
Shes a brilliant Mum, we always try to get something special for birthdays. I had messaged all my siblings previously asking if they wanted to go in on a day out. It was stupidly far in advance but we have to do it this way to make sure everyone is free etc. I did it on Facebook messenger... my younger brother and his girlfriend said yes so we arranged breakfast, escape room, golf lunch thing, bus tour and dinner.
Tonight we met and gave her the present.:. She loved it and we were really pleased.
My older brother said ‘thanks so much, you’re all going and you didn’t invite us.’
I said ‘I did... I always do’ (panto, booked in April to get front row, theatre tickets a year in advance for availability etc) ‘you always either don’t reply or say you don’t think that far ahead.’
He kept making comments, I should have risen above it. I didn’t 
I kept saying ‘I did invite you. I always invite you!’
I said to my husband ‘don’t we always?’ And he rolled his eyes, as he doesn’t like to get involved. I just wanted him to stick up for me and he was on the original message and knows I did.
My brother said ‘I’m going to arrange a big day out, and invite everyone but you.’
Not my husband, other brother or friend that were all there and coming... just me. He kept digging at me.
I went round the other side of the table to ask my husband for the keys to just go home. My brother said something like ‘youre A fucking liar’ and I threw my drink at him
There was an inch left and I missed but I’m a child and I should’ve just left it. I so wanted my mum to have a nice night. Obviously he retaliated by throwing an entire drink at me and I walked out.
I ruined my mums birthday and I feel the most terrible I’ve ever felt. I saw red... I’ve messaged her a grovelling apology, but (fair enough).. no reply.
Ugh... I hate myself.
I’ve text and text and my husband is so pissed at me. He pulled on our drive... I got out and shit the door and he drove off.
Why can’t I just be a bloody adult and say nothing.