To think my boyfriend charging me for decorating is a bit crazy?

[lucyloo345]

I've been seeing him 9 months and he is a professional painter and decorator.
I need my stairs and hall doing so asked him on his day off if he wouldn't mind helping.
I got quoted £350 from a guy a couple of years ago but couldn't afford it at the time.
My boyfriend says he will do it next Sunday ...tells me to get the paper and paste.
Then he says shall we say £285 ?
Ok ..so I was going to give him something but the fact he is making it like a official job has annoyed me a bit.
Would you be a bit taken back?

@offupop they are my parents not his. he didn't have to do that.

its a few hours work for someone you are supposed to love. he is being an arse.

I would just tell him that you weren’t expecting to pay him as he is your DP and see how he justifies it
My DP fixes my car and does DIY things if needed - just asked him to put a new roof on extension at back of my house
I help him in many other ways
It feels equal and that’s what counts
I will sometimes give him cash if he’s hard up but usually show my appreciation in other ways such as buying him something I know he wants but wouldn’t treat himself to or taking him out

@lucyloo345 any update??

A friend or an uncle is different. He is her boyfriend for Christ sake!

I think its his call.

My partner is a mechanic, he doesn't charge me for fixing my car and he buys the bits to do it. Although in exchange he does get fed and his clothes cleaned

I bet he doesn’t expect his normal customers to go and buy their own materials. Your bf is a cf.

I don't think you should be charged. I work at an accountants and always did my husband and dad's tax returns for them for nothing, as they were not confident doing them themselves. Obviously I would not extend this freebie to anyone else, but partners and parents (and when older I would do my children's if they needed it) yes. My dad comes here and helps with papering/plumbing if we ever need a hand. I thought that's what you did for family.

Ask him whether you should charge him every time you cook for him, let him stay in your house (you pay to stay in a b&b/hotel), run his laundry or iron anything of his.
But seriously, to me it shows that he is not viewing you as his long term partner, do you think he would charge his wife?

Get rid. PDQ

Is his name Jon? 😂 from near Lichfield? 😂

Tell him you’ve got the painters in...... for the rest of your life! No more sex for him

You don't say no to doing his laundry but you say "I did your laundry today, that will be £5 oh and you owe me for the last 30 weeks too so that will be £150. Evening meals another £150. The airport run for your sister = £50 (would be more than that in a taxi.) That comes to £350.

Now, do you want to pay part cash and do the decorating, or would you rather give me £350 right now?"

I would start charging for things you do for him!

Tell him you’ll need to get some other quotes and that you’ll get back to him 😉

This is an actual joke. DP is a plumber and regularly fixes issues for me. If he turned round and said right that'll be £100 please I would laugh him out there door 😂😂😂

Incredible. In fact I think you are crazy that you were going to give him £80! I would have thought more of him if he had just said no, but the fact he was going to charge you has amazed me.

Perhaps when you go to his place and wash up or something you should just charge him an hourly rate for housework.

What a knob.

I think it's fair enough if you don't live together.

Dump him immediately.

I agree total Red flag. And someone else says he sees this as casual, this is true. My boyfriend (we now have a child together) has even come into my work to help out without charging a cent! And I still call him to help out with IT issues as we didn’t have any IT support until this week. Sorry, but this guy is not going to help when the going gets tough or you need a favour. He’d probably charge you if you asked him to take you to the airport one day! (Maybe you should ask that and see his response?!! Haha! That will tell you!)

I haven't been able to read every post but has the OP said whether he contributes to his meals when he's at her house?

I also think this is a very bad sign. Meanness is never attractive and it doesn't go away. That's who he is.

He's happy enough to take advantage of your generosity though. Cunt.

Not good for him to be charging you as if you're a customer. I would understand if he said give me 100 and i will do it since it's his trade, I personally would be questioning this relationship.

To be fair it is his profession and therefore its what pays his bills. If he wasn't a professional I would have thought him billing you would be unreasonable. Since you are friends with benefits, I would be asking for mates rates.

Charge him for sex, cooking for him. Also allowing a total looser to be in your life. Should maybe just cover it. Or tell him he owes you