WIBU to uninvite my friend

[Kallo]

Name changed for this as it's quite specific.

Last night I was out with a group of mates, at an event where a couple I am friends with were also attending. Let's call them Bob and Margaret.

After the event me and my mates were going for a drink, I invited Bob and Margaret along. Bob was too tired but Margaret wanted to come along so Bob left and she waited with me for the others. Really I prefer Bobs company, although we have always socialised as a three. I decided to encourage Margaret to go home after Bob, and said I would see them in the week. She took the hint and went to catch up with Bob.

About 20 minutes later I got a text from Bob asking me that that was all about, and why I had treated Margaret that way. Margaret didn't contact me

Bob is the more extroverted of the two so I really thought it might be awkward or difficult with just her. She didn't look upset or anything she just said ok. They now don't want to see me for something we had planned this week.

I think I made the right call really and reckon I didn't have much choice, but now I think I have lost my friendship with Bob.

I kind of feel like we're all supposed to affirm how badly Margaret was treated in this scenario, and yes I think she was.

I would probably also think the friend was trying to shag Bob, but I think there may be a different explanation there. I certainly know couples where they come as a package and that's fair enough, but I wouldn't socialise with the OH rather than the friend I can to be with. In one case I'm sure she dislikes me, we're not on the same wavelength, and I cringe at the thought of a night out with her.

Still if it happened I would be decent to her, telling her effectively to piss off because she's not my sort of people wouldn't cross my mind, we might even hit it off, you never know.

So the jilter in this scenario is being U.

Nothing more to add except

Hope Margaret is Ok. OP stay away from this loveky couple. They don't need a "friend" like you.

Yes Sonja, had the OP said she was considering apologising to Margaret it would be something. Rudeness (thankfully) still irks people to a high degree which is why there is a lot of posters. There is still some good in the world eh? ;)

#IamMargaret
#BobsADiamond

You sound a bit of a control
freak.

Kallo, you name changed for this not because it's outing but because you knew you were being hideous and unreasonable and didn't want this to tar your alter ego. You can add coward to the list of awful traits you have.

I don't believe there is a cat in hell's chance that you will salvage this friendship, why would Margaret wish to be in the company of anyone who so openly despises her and why would Bob wish to associate with someone who treated his wife in such an appalling manner. There is no spin you can invent to turn this around.

SonjaDog

I know what you mean. I think the OP is as
unreasonable as the next person but I still think it's pathetic that other posters have to be quite so nasty and offensive about it. It like a competition to see who can be the most scathing.

Maybe Bob didn't want to be the only bloke in a bunch of women (or "monstrous regiment" if they are all like the OP)

Maybe he was knackered but didn't want to spoil Margaret's night.

Maybe he is uncomfortable because the OP openly drools over him and he finds it embarrassing.

Whatever - if this really happened, it was a nasty thing to do. Especially not saying anything in front of Bob, so Margaret was left to go home a lone.

LookAtIt + SonjaDog

An honest question (not a pleasant one I admit) but are you the people that when a child is bullied at school comes back with excuses and 'they have issues'?

Your not unreasonable your just nasty.

Poor girl tried to go out of her comfort zone and you knocked her confidence back to zero well done!!

I think this was a really selfish thing to do.

No, not at all. What has that got to do with anything at all?

Your probably reading all these posts and regretting posting anything at all. That's if you've not given up reading them. Don't feel bad, you did what you thought was best. Nothing worse than babysitting another adult . We have friends like this, ones outgoing the others just downright negative all the time but wants to join in, pulls everyone down to want to jump off a bridge! I'd just explain why you did it and move on. Chin up x

Op gets worse and worse with every post.

You were mean and she knew it. You say you were worried if she’d feel awkward but that’s up to her - not you.

If I was Bob I’d really question whether I’d want to know you.

...you were mean, suck up the consequences of people not wanting to be friends with mean people.

She should definitely explain why she did it, cleanerupper
I’m sure Margaret will be massively advantaged by the knowledge that she’s so tedious she makes people want to jump off a bridge.
She can put this information to good use going forward.
Or maybe she has slightly more emotional intelligence than you?

Yes, no wonder you namechanged. Back to your normal untarnished username afterwards then?

OP, loads if people have asked you if you are interested in Bob, but you've ignored this question so far, so I'll just assume that you blatantly are.

Love how you stated that "they're not married" in one of your updates - no one had asked if they were and it doesn't change the fact that you were a total bitch to Margaret.

Hopefully Margaret won't take it too personally, says more about you than her.

Greyhound lover I'm wetting myself here. Do you seriously think I'd suggest she tell her that?!?! Omfg 😂😂😂. I love this site, it's hilarious. High and mighty, holier than thou attitudes. Get a grip. This site should be called "nasty pieces of shit see how far you can go hiding behind your screen". People post on here and you're all ready to pounce, lambs to the slaughter!!

Personally I have always found it tedious and unreasonable to be expected to automatically be friends with male friends' partners that I have zero in common with.

And it's certainly not because I fancy any of the men.

Socializing with them as a couple is a different matter altogether.

It even got to the point of a couple of the men asking "Can you be nice to X, she doesn't have many friends." I made this mistake of doing this 'to be nice' a few times and before I knew it I was getting invitations to hen parties and all sorts of nonsense.

you were a total bitch to Margaret

Jesus, it's not as if she pulled her hair and pushed her down the steps.

Are you people really that fragile?

Socializing with them as a couple is a different matter altogether.

Yes but would you be narcissistic enough to make that obvious to the partner?

You were horribly rude, no wonder they don't want to see you this week

You were mean and rude and I'm honestly surprised anyone would want to go and hang out with you.