People who are ALWAYS late

[Mammmoo]

A small someone who manages to get places on time (& yes I have children) AIBU to get pissed off with people who are always late to meet me? I mean surely these people get to work/kids to school on time?

Today we have relations coming to visit. 90 min drive, we do the other way (a lot) and it's a painless journey, we've never encountered traffic issues yet they do...every time. Today I'm making lunch for 1, only now they won't be here until 2 so we can "go ahead and eat if we are hungry."
I know I should make provisions for their being late but everytime I think maybe this time they'll manage to be on time?
They're not the only people I know who do this and it makes me so cross!

I don't like being early because I don't do chatting very well. So if you get there and have to wait you have to chat with the others waiting and somehow waiting to do /get started / go to something is not conducive to relaxed chatting. Or not for me, I am dying to get on with whatever it is you've arranged to do. My brain is not in a 'time on my hands' mode and I feel unrelaxed and fidgety. Hence always arrive at the last minute, I'm not late but there isn't any hanging around time.

im always late... ive missed planes. lost jobs...

I dont tolerate it in friends, unless its an absolute one off like with the buses being late. If its someone whos habitually late then they are gone from my life. I give people 10 minutes when I'm waiting then I just leave, I dont bother telling them or anything.
People are very clearly saying your time is nothing but mine is important.

I've found people don't think about the journey after the drive - ok so where exactly are you parking? Is it pay on foot so will you need change? How long will it realistically take from the car park or station to the venue? That's why I walk through the journey in my head, really think it through, never guess.

I read this piece a little while call and it was a revelation. The 'one more thing' mindset totally applies to me.

gretchenrubin.com/2014/05/are-you-chronically-late-8-tips-for-showing-up-on-time

YANBU agree with you completely! So rude to be late all the time. Why not just leave earlier?

I will rush around and get myself into a real tiz trying my hardest to be on time and feel seriously guilty if I am late. I don’t think some people actually give two shits and think the world will simply wait for them.

Great link Scouse

I learned early in my career that always turning up on time for meetings impresses people, and convinces them you’re professional and in control -even when you’re not-

It’s so easy to do, but it makes a difference.

I have a friend like this. If the train is at 10 she will aim to arrive at the station at 10, no time for parking, ticket buying etc so she misses the train. I was her bridesmaid and my main job was scheduling her so she got to the wedding on time. She was all 'oh the wedding is at 2 (30 mins drive away) so. I'll get the hairdresser to come at 1.' No dear, the hairdresser will be here at 11 and we will be leaving at 1.', she just doesn't get it. Two hours late for afternoon teas when everyone is basically ready to leave but has to stay cos she's just turned up, that sort of thing. She's v v clever, quite senior in her work, just clearly doesn't value this. She'll also saunter casually toward you with no awareness that you've been waiting

I hate lateness i am so rigid in my timings to make sure I'm not late. I start to panic if I think that I will be late to anything. I think lateness is rude and will no longer wait for more than 20 minutes for anyone I'm meeting I'm disabled and manage to be on time I have to plan things so I'm not out too long either as I struggle with fatigue due to my physical issue so if someone is late it means I won't br able to spend as much time as planned doing things. If they think that's rude I don't really care I've managed to get somewhere at an agreed time they should afford me the same courtesy.

Really pisses me off too.
I and mum to 3 DDs (8,10,12 weeks)
And look after my FIL who has dementia and cancer and I have 4 dogs and I do the school runs yet I'm always early or on time for things. If I can manage it why can't anyone else?

I once arranged to meet a friend for an activity in the middle of nowhere so there was no phone signal. I waited an hour past the arranged time then left and did the activity myself. Apparently I was in the wrong for not waiting longer!

I was writing a dissertation with someone. Every morning I got my 2 kids up we were on time. When we came out to the car we were suddenly 10 minutes behind schedule. Then I put new batteries in the clocks in the house and was suddenly on time.

I used to do a 40 minute commute to work. I didn't start til half 9 but I'd leave my house at 7 so I'd miss any traffic and then I'd never be late. Get there early and have a cuppa and breakfast in the car and read my book I used to love it.
I hate lateness, I'm like obsessive with timings if I know I have somewhere to be at say 1pm then I'm flicking my eyes to the clock every 5 minutes it seems then I get so stressed at being so anxious that I just leave early. I can't imagine being so blasé about timings to think everyone around me would wait.

I can't stand being late, I brings me out in hives and I start panicking. This makes me early for almost everything! But when other people are late, it doesn't really bother me. Weird right!?

My DH is always late so I often tell him an earlier start time. My DM on the other hand is pathologically early for everything and I tell her later start times. I am pretty much perfect in every way and just turn up promptly.