To be cheesed off with 'childfree' bragging

[lunaboona]

Childless ( by choice ) or 'childfree' and that's what she refers to herself as , forever sharing quotes about how lucky she is to travel / have money / drink cocktails whenever she wants , she'll never be a boring house wife etc AIBU to find this annoying and slightly insulting? As I juggle the house / my job and 2 'brats ' 😣🙄🤔

I'm totally on side with any woman that makes that choice , I respect that and in no way think women should be expected to or pressured into having children , I would defend anyone being challenged for making a decision not to have children as it's up to them, and no one should question them but what annoys the shit out of me is the superior attitude almost laughing at those of us up to our eyeballs in washing and crappy nappies 😕

Who are you talking about?

You're taking this personally. Why? Are the quotes meant for you?

She sounds insecure but it seems like you think shes right, because why else would this even bother you.

Just ignore her then, you sound really bitter.

YAB a bit U as I think it is hard for childfree people when all their mates are no longer available for going out/chat/shopping and people fill their FB and Insta posts with pictures of their amazing off-spring. So I think fair play.

People who post memes and quotes on social media are trying desperately to make themselves feel better the only way they know how. It’s not about you.

Tbh I would assume that somebody making such a big deal about not having children is overcompensating and us actually not happy about it. Most people I know who don't have children just don't mention not having them iyswim.

It's a friend of mine , who I do love dearly but the constant insta quotes are getting up my nose -the way she feels sorry for people for the choice they made to have children and how lucky she feels to be free.

I don't think you're getting it

I think you're taking it all too personally. if you don't like what she posts on social media (and she does sound like a self absorbed twit), just block her.

She's suggesting that people with kids are boring / sad / have no life -which I think is unfair

Just unfollow her. You do sound a bit bitter. I think probably you're not, but then don't let it get to you. You have different priorities in life. Work around it, if you can, or take a break from the friendship and tell her why.

I agree with Mona Lisa, I have neighbours who have no children but are a) happy and b) completely lovely people who never rub my 'boring and vanilla' life with my son and husband but on the other hand I have a former friend who constantly says that parents are all shit people with shit kids and her furbabies are more precious than diamonds... If you're happy op do you really care what this person thinks?

Agree with MonaLisa, if someone is so very vocal about being 'childfree' I would hazard a guess that they've probably had a hard time coming to terms with that state and probably need your sympathy. Don't grudge then their luxuries. I wouldn't swap my babies for all the cocktails and holidays in the world.

I think you're being a bit unreasonable actually. She's probably sick to death of everybody else posting (presume we are talking social media) about how wonderful their dh/dc are and how great family life is so is making a point. Or she's overcompensating as she would love the life of dh/dc but is making the most of what she has. I for one am jealous tbh

If that’s the way you think she views you, call her out on it, tell her that if she feels your life isn’t good enough for her then here’s your coat, love!

Is she outright saying that? Maybe she's envious? It's the same as mums posting saying how amazing it is to be a mum and constant mummy/baby/child posts and memes. That can come across to childless women as having their faces rubbed in it.

She's suggesting that people with kids are boring / sad / have no life -which I think is unfair

Well, she's got me bang to rights! 😂

There is a woman at work with a mug "Greatest Dog Mum" . I think it is the saddest thing I have ever seen

Any #blessed bragging posts do my head in -maybe I should just come off social media all together as it's literally all pissing me off

Tbh I would assume that somebody making such a big deal about not having children is overcompensating and us actually not happy about it. Most people I know who don't have children just don't mention not having them iyswim.

I'd agree with this, actually. if you must respond, just say "Good for you. But I feel incredibly lucky to have my children." She doesn't sound like someone I'd want to be friends with, to be honest.

I don't like people who brag about their children and I don't like people who brag about their child-free life either. So I don't follow such people on social media.

I do follow people who mention their children and others who have no children but they don't brag about their lifestyles. Incidentally I know from meeting them and talking to them their lifestyles are better than the braggers.

*who never rub my boring and vanilla life with my son and husband in my face

I think you're being unreasonable - there's a good chance her FB is awash with parents posting pictures ad nauseam of their little darlings, telling the world how their babies are their whole world, etc. Mine certainly is. So what if she's chosen a different pathway and is proud of that?

I've seen this from the other angle. A friend of mine doesn't have children and yet a number of our mutual friends continually post memes about how life is richer with children, life wasn't worth living until they had Children etc etc. We all have choices in life and no ones choices are any better or more worthy than anyone else's. I do think social media has a lot to answer for as people seem to need to prove how great their lives are, when everyone is pretty much plodding through.