To be cheesed off with 'childfree' bragging

[lunaboona]

Childless ( by choice ) or 'childfree' and that's what she refers to herself as , forever sharing quotes about how lucky she is to travel / have money / drink cocktails whenever she wants , she'll never be a boring house wife etc AIBU to find this annoying and slightly insulting? As I juggle the house / my job and 2 'brats ' 😣🙄🤔

I'm totally on side with any woman that makes that choice , I respect that and in no way think women should be expected to or pressured into having children , I would defend anyone being challenged for making a decision not to have children as it's up to them, and no one should question them but what annoys the shit out of me is the superior attitude almost laughing at those of us up to our eyeballs in washing and crappy nappies 😕

Perhaps she's unhappy. Why feel the need to tell everyone how happy she is with her life choice, unless she's trying to convince herself. Social media is full of this crap and why I left it. I haven't missed it.

The word childless suggests that you are missing something. Like describing a single woman as husbandless. Bad analogy but you get what I mean hopefully.

I don't post shit about how being a mother has made my life , or you never know true love until you're a mother etc . I find sharing quotes and inspirational memes annoying

Then social media is not for you OP. Honestly it feels so good to leave it all behind.

And don't believe all that anyway -I just think people should respect everyone's choice to do whatever the F they want with their life , don't pity me for choosing to have kids

Insta quotes of any kind - about kids, about no kids, about fitness, about health, about friends, about enemies, about relationships and about singledom are all just seeking vaidation. Crack on with your life

Yes time for a break from it !

Why are you so angry? With each subsequent post you're sounding more furious about it. I honestly don't know why you care so much.

And maybe Mumsnet too !
Feeling all a bit judgy in here ☹️

Oh I've blocked loads of lovely friends for a variety of reasons (anyone who has used #blessed or similar) or I just scroll past with a quick flick of the like button without actually reading it. I imagine people to do the same any time I post (3x a year on average).
It's all shite isn't it? But it's largely harmless shite.
Switch off Instagram for a couple of weeks and let your shoulders relax and the school holidays pass.

I'm not angry I think I've just lost the tolerance for peoples bullshit

We're child free through circumstance and now at 41 I wouldn't want a newborn anyway (I like early nights & garden centres now) but I don't bang on about it. I think being happy means not interfering in others lives because your living your own.

She's obviously hitting a nerve with you though and I would block/hide her on social media. It's not worth getting upset over, you love your kids and that's all that matters.

I get that she’s being a twat OP but I don’t see why you’re so angry if you’re happy otherwise?

Not trying to have a go, just trying to understand.

OP you sound very defensive. Time for a social media detox, maybe?

People might be being judgy OP. Its part of mn unfortunately.
Sometimes we all need a detox from social media and internet generally. I never look at facebook myself, i find it Zzzzz and boasty all round.

The majority of people online portray their lives as perfect and I've had enough -so yeah I'll be taking a break from social media, a lot of you have done it on this thread and judged me for having feelings about how a friend brags all the time - oh to be so zen !

When did the word 'childless' become 'childfree'?

Childless implies a child is missing. It's also usually interpreted as meaning that someone couldn't have children. Generally; it's not received as a positive statement.

Childfree is vaguely better...

(I'm childfree or childless at the moment; but only because I'm 28. I do plan to have children, if that matters)

Not giving a shit what other people think of you takes a lot of time and effort OP, took me the best part of 35 years but I got there eventually. It’s very fucking liberating

When did the word 'childless' become 'childfree'?Are children something that we should be liberated from?

I say I'm childfree because I've never wanted kids (& at 44 I'm not expecting that to change now).

Childless means someone who wanted to have kids & couldnt. So very different.

"Have to say, I find it massively insulting that some people are suggesting this woman must be harbouring some secret desire to have children which for whatever reason cannot be fulfilled."

Yes, this.

Using this logic, I will have assume that all my friends posting memes/statuses about how amazing their kids are and how much they love their family time are actually secretly jealous of my childfree life.

People judged you because you got progressively angry over something that was posted by someone on FB. If all of us got so angry, then it would be a terrible world to live in. Either learn to ignore these posts or block them.

Pour yourself something nice OP and .......breathe. I get where you're coming from , it was me a year ago and left FB .Problem solved.

Well I agree with you OP.

Sure you love her so much?
If her life is so wonderful why isn't she out there enjoying it instead of spending so much time bragging on social media? Methinks the lady doth protest too much.
Let it go, ignore her posts.

I'm not angry tho , cheesed off / annoyed but not angry -frustrated that having a moan means I'm judged as being jealous and bitter -when I was just being honest and saying how I felt