To be cheesed off with 'childfree' bragging

[lunaboona]

Childless ( by choice ) or 'childfree' and that's what she refers to herself as , forever sharing quotes about how lucky she is to travel / have money / drink cocktails whenever she wants , she'll never be a boring house wife etc AIBU to find this annoying and slightly insulting? As I juggle the house / my job and 2 'brats ' 😣🙄🤔

I'm totally on side with any woman that makes that choice , I respect that and in no way think women should be expected to or pressured into having children , I would defend anyone being challenged for making a decision not to have children as it's up to them, and no one should question them but what annoys the shit out of me is the superior attitude almost laughing at those of us up to our eyeballs in washing and crappy nappies 😕

Also agree with what mona said - it could be she actually would love kids.

Cross post with everyone!!

People constantly brag about thier kids so let her have a brag about not having kids x

Sounds like you’ve both got your insecurities TBH.

I’m not remotely bothered by all the ‘bragging’ my friends who have chosen to have children plaster all over social media.... which is the flip side of this. I’m happy for them that they are happy. I’m happy for myself to not have children and they were all very lovely and tolerant when I went through a phase of constantly posting about my new cats
Take it at face value and be happy for her that she is enjoying the life she has chosen.

Depends really. If she's doing it in response to comments about how kids are the only thing that make life worth living or being asked when she is going to have a baby for the millionth time then fair play to her. If she has just randomly decided to make nasty comments about parents and their 'brats' then she's a twat.

I quite admire her. She has every right to say what she wants on her own social media.

If you're unhappy about something so trivial, perhaps ask yourself why?

My FB feed (for example) is a whole mix of endless baby/child pics and endless holiday pics from those whose kids have grown up.

Good luck to them all. If it pissed me off for some reason, I know where the block button is.

Are you sure it's you though? Maybe she us doing it because a lot of family/friends have done the whole 'so when are you having kids?' thing so often that it's pissed her off. It's still very rude of her but if it is hither you I suggest you talk to her about it. At least that way you will at least know whether she has just had a hard time or is actually just unpleasant. Or even worse. She could be doing it as a home not realising that people are taking it seriously.

Read between the lines. No one truly happy about something bangs on constantly about how great it is.

She sounds like she desperately wants kids and doesn't/can't have them to me. Totally overcompensating and not offensive imo.

Now what could be offensive is calling people who have dc 'breeders' like the twat earlier in the thread. What a horrible turn of phrase.

I don't understand why her saying these things means she wants/wanted kids?? Why presume that she couldn't possibly think that her life is great as it is. There are a huge number of women who don't want kids, and according to many this number is set to rise.

She feels sorry for me that I'm so tied down, and my life revolves around the kids , where as I'm perfectly happy with the choices I made and love my life

Do you realise how many parents on her social media post about nothing other than their children? About how lucky they are etc? It happens a ton on my social media and I don't get bitter about it at all. But I love my child free life too. You sound defensive and jealous.

Have to say, I find it massively insulting that some people are suggesting this woman must be harbouring some secret desire to have children which for whatever reason cannot be fulfilled.
Have a word with yourself and perhaps understand some of us genuinely don't want your life, thanks. Fair play if it's what suits you, but for some it would be hell.

You're taking this too personally. It's really unlikely to be directed at you.

She feels sorry for me that I'm so tied down, and my life revolves around the kids , where as I'm perfectly happy with the choices I made and love my life

So why the thread then?

I'm really properly happy with my life and this sort of thing wouldn't get more than an eye-roll from me.

You're brooding on it for some reason?

lunaboona

So what if she feels sorry for you? If you're happy, smile to yourself and move on. Life is too short.

I feel quite sorry for people who live their whole lives through hashtags and social media. Whether they have kids or not tbh.

If you’re the kind of person who needs to make other people feel like shit to make yourself feel good there’s something definitely missing from your life.

I’d pity her OP, not get pissed off.

How am I jealous ? I've said it's annoying me that a friend is constantly bragging about how much better her 'childfree' life is than people that have had kids

Have to say, I find it massively insulting that some people are suggesting this woman must be harbouring some secret desire to have children which for whatever reason cannot be fulfilled.
Have a word with yourself and perhaps understand some of us genuinely don't want your life

Yeah, this.

YABVU unless you're also sick of parents and grandparents posting photos and statuses about their children or grandchildren and about family life.

I agree that the poor woman has had enough of people bragging about their dcs.

I dislike it and I have dcs - heaven knows how I'd feel if I had none. It's not only tiresome but rude .

What is this boasting that seems to have taken over people? They were always around (and usually confined to the Round Robin Christmas letter) but now social media seems to have encouraged very un-British behaviour. We were always known for being self-deprecating in a humorous way. Now every other person you meet (and especially online) sees bragging as an Olympic sport, whatever the subject.

wishing - because you'd just post how your life is great, look at my holidays, my days out, my [insert whatever]. Annoying but there you go.

Posting all that and then how that's because you don't have kids, and wouldn't want them and how parents lives must be shit...come on, really? Protesting way too much and very sad imo.

I'd say she's over compensating as she feels she's missing out!

Why do you give a shit? You're too busy loving your life, remember? Honestly, don't give it a second thought.

Do you realise how many parents on her social media post about nothing other than their children?

Yeah, wait til the start of September.

It's National 'Post a photo of your school kid standing against the front door' Week

But this is ONE PERSON. One person with an agenda. Unless your FB feed is a constant stream of similar posts from everyone you know who doesn't have kids, then I think you can quietly put her on permanent snooze and never have to be bothered by it again.

Most people I know who don't have kids just... don't post baby pics. That's the only difference.