Party Invites, AIBU to think it’s odd to ask if siblings can come too?

[IAmADancer]

Having a kids birthday party in a few Sundays time and quite a few of the rsvp’s have asked if siblings can come too. Is this a normal thing????? I wasn’t intending on having to cater for extra people! Or am I being really mean.....

MrsAiden it's not odd at all. When I was hosting my kids wanted their friends there, not whichever random kids didn't have siblings/ had two parents available on the day. So I catered in a way that created the highest likelyhood the desired guests would attend to give my kids a special party with their friends.

The idea of inviting scores and scores of children in the hope roughly the number you want turn up and not caring which individual children decline is a very haphazard way of doing a birthday party. Presumably people who do that don't give a toss which kids turn up, whether their child's friends decline due to childcare issues but kids they barely know make up the numbers as long as they have no siblings/ childcare for siblings.

Drop off is best once kids are 4 or 5, then no siblings at all, ever.

As host you want your birthday kid to enjoy their party, and for me ensuring that their friends could attend (not 30 or 50 random kids, just their friends) was key. No idea why you find that odd at all.

I have taken siblings to parties if no childcare but I wouldn't expect them to be fed or to receive a party bag and have warned my child beforehand that they wouldn't get anything.

@Blueskiesandforests These aren’t a load of random children I have just invited off the street. These are kids they spend 11 hours a day with, three days a week!

Normally I would say it’s cheeky but if the children at the party are 3 then it’s usual for a parent to stay and not unusual for that parent to have aother child under 3.