To be disturbed people think fathers rights are priority during a womans labour?

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I’ve seen the discussion pop up loads recently, and I’ve been totally shocked by how many people (especially mothers) genuinely believe that a woman should not have the right to choose who is there witnessing her labour. So just wondering how common this view is, as I feel quite strongly she should have EVERY right.

Mainly regarding the fathers rights - I’ve seen so many people passionately defending the right of the father to ‘experience’ the woman’s labour and her birthing their child. With absolutely no regard for the woman’s wellbeing, the fact stress hormones can stall labour and make it much more painful, the fact there could be complications and the fact that she is in labour and should be treated with as much consideration and respect as possible. But according to many, the fathers rights to be a spectator to her labour come before everything else.

It also seems an argument which gets brought up is the fact she has had sex with him previously and therefore lost the right to have a say over her body anymore. Which I find quite a disgusting viewpoint too - often said in a graphic way by the person using that as a point..

I feel like it’s worth a mention that I have no personal bias - I very much wanted my ex at the birth and felt completely comfortable with it. But the thought that there are many who would have forced me to have him there against my wishes is really disturbing to me.

Obviously this is totally not related to once the child is born - but the labour and birth itself.

AIBU to think it should be the labouring women’s choice who she has with her during the birth, or should fathers have the ‘right’ to be there regardless of the woman’s wishes?

But rummidge. Jeremy Kyle?. Treat him like the daily mail. Only worry if you find yourself agreeing with him,.

I didn't want dp at the birth, or the after birth or exam. He was fine with that.
But midwives kept calling him back in to 'help' as though they weren't capable of boiling a kettle on their own. And they insisted that he cut the cord which we'd decided to leave to the midwives. He said no three times before giving in, I was never asked my opinion. I wonder sometimes if they would have managed if I was single.

Unfortunately the midwives don't always prioritise the mother either.

I remember Jeremy Kyle saying that too. But he has a pretty tenuous grasp of the law- he once berated a woman for not putting her ex on the birth cert despite her saying that the guy didn't turn up so she couldn't and the producers had to correct him when he started ranting at her. He also routinely used to tell fathers to put money away in a bank account if they didn't want to pay maintenance, as if that is a reasonable alternative to providing for your child. (I don't know if he still does, haven't seen it on a few years!)