She’s threw away my bloody dinner!!!

[GoJetterGirl]

Just a rant,

I had just sat down to dinner, baby kicks off needing a feed and a cuddle, I got him changed and settled and put into bed, and go downstairs to eat my dinner,

And the MIl has thrown it away!!! She bloody threw my dinner away!!!

2 issues here,

1. it would t be so bad if she had actually washed up, I could almost forgive her if she was generally tidying up,

And 2) she has a mouth, why not ask if I was finished, I make it blatantly clear that I was coming back down to eat once baby was settled!! I even put a plate over the plate iykwim, so it stayed at least a fraction warm...

Gah, what did I expect really (you’ll know what I mean if you’ve read my other threads...

In laws are complete arses. I've read the other threads. Well done OP. Don't let the buggers get you down.

Oh my Lord, I've just remembered the back story.
Even if you'd taken a mallet to her teapot whilst she held it, YWNBU.

pearls & worrid Oh please be quiet, or are you channeling the OPs mil?

Can we have a link to the backstory?

Here are some of OP's previous threads
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3059605-To-ban-the-inlaws-from-coming-anywhere-near-the-hospital

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3080702-To-want-to-totally-exclude-the-inlaws-at-Christmas

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3236361-To-not-make-my-DS-get-dressed-if-he-doesnt-want-to

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3107786-To-wonder-if-the-TILs-are-trying-to-take-the-piss

OP is being amazing in very difficult circumstances. I would certainly have banned them from the house be now.

Who the feck brings their own teapot on family visits?!

My only criticism of you would be that you didn't ram the broken bits of teapot down her throat.

I second @Bluelady
OP I genuinely think I'd have physically attacked one of your PILs by now in your situation - you're doing marvellously and would be well within your rights to tell her to FOTTFSOF (and then some).

There’s a special place in hell for people who get in the way of a hangry mother! Tbh I would have gone nc with them your dh can visit them if he wants.

TheseArePearls so I hope you're feeling suitably ashamed.

No not really. I can't see a reason to be ashamed. Since I posted I have discovered that there were multiple other threads concerning a terminally ill child and PIL with previous for behaving badly.

In isolation and on reading this thread alone - which is all the information I had - the OP was being a bit of a drama llama.

Subsequently, I am still not sure actually. It's clear that having a terminally ill child is a horrific thing to endure as parents. And also as grand parents. It places a huge amount of emotional pressure on everyone. Small things become big things because the really big thing is something that NO-ONE ever wants to look at.

OP. I hope you can find some happiness even in this the darkest of times. Enjoy the hugs and kisses. You are facing the worst thing. I send you love.

It's not a small thing Thesearepearls, she threw her fucking dinner away! 😠 I'm just glad the OP could get something else to eat.

Oh FFS - if someone cleared your dinner away by accident what would you do? I'd explain that I hadn't finished eating and then go and get something to eat. No need for a lot of emoting all over MN for that.

The backstory puts things in a different context - which kind of explains the emotional reaction to an everyday inconvenience.

@Bluelady where the sun shineth not would have been better than down her throat. Love the teapot karma OP, maybe karma will come and get some more of her stuff and she'll fuck off back to hell?

Me Thesearepearls? I'd go fucking nuts. As I said in a pp, DH used to do this, I now say very loudly, "I haven't finished!" before I leave the room. When I'm hungry and have low blood sugar, I don't react very well. And when I'm expecting a plate of cooked food, beans on toast doesn't quite cut it.

My MIL actually ate my meal once.

I was exhausted after yet another sleepless night with three very young children, one a toddler, one a baby. My MIL came over for lunch and I ordered an Indian takeaway for the pair of us. As I sat down to eat I suddenly remembered to my horror that my eldest was on a half day at school and raced off (with the other kids) to get her.

When I came back MIL had left and had eaten all of her lunch and ALL of mine! All the naan bread, everything!! And there was a ton of food. I could've cried I was SO hungry and so tired!

I unfortunately learnt my lesson that day.

Mil didn’t accidentally throw it away, she didn’t clear the rest and wash up, that would be actual help. The plate had another on top to keep it warm ffs.

If it was an accident I’d understand you’re point pearls but it doesn’t sound likely.

Moveablefeast she's got an appetite!

OP hope today was ok. Is MIL still talking about the teapot...?

Hands on plates tonight.

Remembering your previous threads I'm surprised they are allowed in your home at all.

The teapot would not be the only thing broken if that vile woman was my MIL.

I once brought myself a West Cornwall Pasty Company Pork and Apple pasty, it was piping hot so I knew it would stay warm while I fed and settled ds. I looked forward to it the whole time, literally couldn't wait to bite into it. Came to get it and the dog had managed to get my bag down and was eating it, really slowly and really relishing it. Absolutely devastated, I did actually cry.

I haven't read any of OP's previous threads. Thankyou @Lunde for tagging them, I've saved them so can read them later.

But, having not read any of previous, injustice this post, I'd be fuming. Every parent/grandparent knows that parents get up to deal with children mid meal sometimes. She has eyes!!

Why on earth anyone would throw out someone's meal and leave them hungry - full well knowing they hadn't eaten and were just dealing with their child- is beyond me!

You cover the plate and put it aside if you want to clear table (& then you wash up!).

I'm guessing they are visiting / staying with you OP. Your MIL sounds PA.

I'm so glad you got a nicer kebab meal but that's ridiculous you had to.

Strong words are needed. MIL sounds interfering and unhelpful just on your few comments, let alone others.

*just this post I meant.
Injustice post was a Freudian slip!

Oh Jetter

Why on earth have you let this absolute cunt of a “human” into your home?

I hope you’re all as well as you can be xx

YABU only for not smashing the teapot on her head whilst full of tea of course.
Why is she even in your house?

I’d be furious too, husband once did the same when I took a seasick child to the bathroom on holiday on a ferry. We’d booked the nicest dinner, quite expensive, and had only booked one course. When child and I returned a few minutes later, he’d sent my dinner away and that was it. Nothing to eat all evening.