I love you when you're being a good girl

[Fedupoflife12]

Said by my dp of 7.5 years today after I said "I love you".

We've had a pretty terrible year and that just makes me think. WTF?

A good girl? Like a child...

Yuck.

Creepy and controlling.

What was the context? What had you done, in his fucked up eyes, to be 'good'?

That would be a dealbreaker for me. I couldn't have sex with a man who called me a good girl.

This is horrible. Not only speaking to you like you're a toddler but is he also saying that when things aren't going well, he doesn't love you?

Is the relationship worth holding on to if things are this bad?

WTH?

Is it possible that he’s Trying to be affectionate but instead sounds like a pervert?

Sorry, I had to tell DH to stop referring to me as his baby... it made me heave.

Unless you are role playing in bed that’s really wierd! If you see what I mean. Cheeky fucker

I'm thinking this too. We had a bit of a fall out Friday night, but nothing too serious.

I just think, even when we argue I still love him. He can't love me if it's so easy to turn on and off

Grim.

FFS indeed.... That's just rubbish. Why do you have to be 'a good girl'? does he throw his toys out the pram if you behave like an adult instead? It's things like this that have the potential to become the final nail in the coffin...

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What the actual hell. Run like the wind. Conditional love and porn-y language... double double triple yuck. Run for it.

I was expecting this to have been said to a child!

That’s really weird! Eww.

Can you imagine him as a father?

Oh no he didn't? That's gross and disgusting. Get rid.

Grim

Basically any instance of me getting upset about something is apparently me misbehaving...like a child.

Not helping me around the house... can't love me can he, because I get fed up and call him lazy.

Undermining me to ds(6)... I tell him he shouldn't... can't love me then can he, because I argue with him.

So being a "Good girl" I'm guessing is having no opinion and doing as I''m told.

If someone offered you the chance to leave him, would you do it?

I use the term 'good girl' - to my dog!

Do you sit for treats too?

So good girl= under control. Be a bad girl and get yourself a decent bloke that respects you.

Yuck.
Do you have a curl, right in the middle of your forehead?

Eww gross.

I had an ex who used to refer to arguments in a way that suggested I was misbehaving. It was so utterly frustrating. So glad he's an ex.

I read the title and thought maybe someone had said that to a dc it’s a horrendous thing to say to a child or an adult. What a complete arsehole.

So basically he’ll love you if you do exactly what he wants run for the hills OP

Unless you are role playing in bed that’s really wierd!

It's also weird if you are role playing in bed

Gross.

Absolutely cringingly awful.

He would not be my partner another day

“I love you only when you’re doing exactly what I want”
Said no marriage vows ever.