To Not Make An Effort on DP and DSC holiday return

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My partner of 3 years is taking his 2 children on holiday next week for 2 weeks.
The children stay with us EOW and during the holidays.
I’m not invited. It has never been discussed he just booked it.
They all arrive back on a Thursday evening and the DCs (15 & 17) will be here until the Monday.
The expectation is that I will have food shopped, made beds etc for their return.
AIBU to just leave it & let them order take away ?

I would text once “I’m not prepared to have you ruin my holiday, we’ll speak when I get home.”

This ^ 100%

Don’t fall for his bullshit.

Be strong. Good back & move out.

You will not regret it.

For heaven's sake, just dump the twat.

‘Another night on holiday ends shitty‘

‘Well stop texting me with such utter bollox darling‘

Then switch your phone off.

Order Lasagne somewhere and send a pic
Or is that too petty?
He needs to sort it out
He should be planning a weekend doing something he knows you want to do or go

Tell him he can plan his move elsewhere.

He's camping in your head and your phone. Give yourself some space.

Ignore his messages. Send him photoes of your fun things ( foot in pool with wine in the background sounds good.
When you get home, it will be time to LTB. ( Rarely say that) You are his servant, he does not want you to share his life. Don't go home until the kids have gone back to their mother, so he can sort them. Onward and upwards.

@CharltonLido73 - please let me know if I owe you royalities - I just copy & pasted.

Phone off - very late cocktail in hand

OP. Fuck him off when you get back.
You have no chance of a life with him in it, he is a manipulative arsewipe. Meant kindly

Ok
Fuck off

^my favourite reply I've ever seen anywhere. Ever

Just dropping in to cheer you on and say please keep up your strong resolve!
(and leave him!!!!!!!)

Enjoy that cocktail 🍸.

Raise a glass to yourself, onwards and upwards and all that.

You gotta hand it to him. He really keeps his eye on the prize: getting you to cook and look after him and his dc's.

Pity he's too thick to realise that you have to pay into the system first...

Oh god yes, PLEASE go and order lasagne in a restaurant tomorrow and send him the picture.

Interesting that he saw his arse about you being on holiday. Why would it matter to him? Surely he couldn’t possibly want you to just be moping around for the week?

Dickhead. He’s shown his true colours.

Really looking forward to some home cooking over the weekend

Who said this?

The DCs have requested lasagna

Assume he said this.

Bearing in mind I’m a great cook but Dolmio is my friend for lasagna.

Who said this?

This is crazy

Cheering you on here OP

Well done op

Switch your phone off op
Or just temp block him.

Dont let him
Ruin your holoday.

Dont rush back.

Dont start cookimg for
Him.

Nice one!👏👏
Don’t give in and have a lovely holiday.

Hmm you left the quote marks on that last reply. If he copied and pasted that into google would this thread show up?

Watch out now, he'll sense you pulling away and will probably start hoovering.

May be worth spending a small amount of your holiday time on reading up so that you know what's happening if/when he starts love-bombing you. Here's something to start with outofthefog.website/top-100-trait-blog/2015/11/4/hoovering

I don't understand the logistics. Were you supposed to have made lasagne in Croatia and sent it home for them to eat? Or were you supposed to change your plans on Friday night or return home early to cook a lasagne to very specific specifications? Do he make this special lasagne. If so he's just after the nick of time in freezing one ready to eat when he gets home.
Fucking big brush his during everything under the carpet with. Wtaf.

I mean it's fine if it would, so he can see what a fucking imbecile he is.

He really believes that a vague promise of a mini break is enough to have you stepping smartly back into line as household skivvy doesn’t he?

I think you need to be busy elsewhere until at least Sunday.