To Not Make An Effort on DP and DSC holiday return

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My partner of 3 years is taking his 2 children on holiday next week for 2 weeks.
The children stay with us EOW and during the holidays.
I’m not invited. It has never been discussed he just booked it.
They all arrive back on a Thursday evening and the DCs (15 & 17) will be here until the Monday.
The expectation is that I will have food shopped, made beds etc for their return.
AIBU to just leave it & let them order take away ?

Yay, good for you, have a fantastic time!

Enjoy!

Hope you have a lovely time OP!

Can you give yourself an extra night or two away somehow? I feel he really needs to have to look after himself and his children on his own for a bit longer.

Must admit, given you are back so late I would have an extra last night in a hotel/travel lodge if possible. Or you know that you will get back home late, and end up making up the beds.
Hope you have a lovely holiday.

Judging by his last message I think I’ll be giving myself a few extra days - he’s shattered after driving and I didn’t have enough ‘spring’ in my voice.

Not my problem you are shattered - your choice of holiday but cheers 🍸

Wow he's a keeper! Have fab holiday, then rethink 😀

Extra days op or he will be eating take away that first night back expecting you cooking after that!

Good grief!! You don't have enough "spring in your voice"??!!

Watch me leave you, you fucker, and then see how much bloody 'spring' I've got!!

Why are you going back to him? I am all for you going off on your holidays and all that but he has zero respect for you or your relationship. I would be looking at a permanent break from him, not just a week away.

He sounds so fucking miserable....

I agree, I would not arrive home the same day as him - give yourself a few extra days somewhere. Do you have any friends you could visit in UK?

How do you see things panning out long term though?

It sounds like he despises you

I think you definitely need to extend your trip by a few days. Right now you're due back the evening he is? In which case he'll just expect you to pick up the slack. I think it's very important that you're not there to do their holiday washing and cooking for them. Get back at least after his dc have gone home. The point is that HE should do all that shit.

And fgs if he asks when you'll be back please tell him he's killing your holiday mood. He's such a downer. He doesn't have enough spring in his voice. He's such a downer and is wallowing. Don't tell him when you're home.

Spend the holiday relaxing and thinking about your twerp-free life from now on.

He really doesn't like you very much does he!

He sounds like a total twat.

Stay in ahotel on your return

Oh I misunderstood too, I thought you were going away on the morning as he came back in the afternoon. Definitely don't get back the same day as him as he will just expect you to do everything. Give him a few days so he has to do his own washing. Or better still don't go back at all!

I misunderstood too. I agree to not go back on the same day.

No not the same day!

He sounds like a twat!
Maybe you could stay in a nice airport hotel for a few days on your return, or extend your stay. I certainly wouldn't be rushing back to him the same day he gets home.
Send him a post card from Croatia, it might beat you home 😂
I just wish I could join you ! :)

I hope you have fun on your wanker free holiday Ice.

Definitely book a day or two more. Otherwise you’ll be picking up the slack.

At what point are you planning on telling him?

Have a great time! Can we just check though.... You are leaving him.properly when you get back aren't you?

Why do you keep ignoring people asking what your plan is and why you're with him?

Just at the moment I would hope OP is having too good a time on holiday to post on here.