Anyone on mumsnet actually like their MIL..?

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I do
I have noticed that MIL’s get a bad rep on MN...anyone got any positives about their other half’s mother...?

Yes have a much better relationship with her than my own mother, regularly thank the universe that she is my MIL

Yes, my MIL is absolutely lovely. She's incredibly sweet, kind and generous and I luffs her.

I do, but it hasn't always been plain sailing. I had a rocky few years when DC1 was born and she annoyed the living shit out of me - loud, LOUD OTT grandparenting (oh god, the incessant yelling, singing and clapping really drove me mad) but she’s a lot more chilled out these days. Thank god.

My exH’s mum always told me she’d take my side over his if we separated. Until we did, and she couldn’t, which was fair enough (although she warned me off letting him draw me back in with a story about his dad convincing her to give him another chance and then moving away from her family and friends). I appreciated that.
My partner’s mum is a beautiful person and has started telling me she loves me recently (as in, “aww I do love you”, or “bye love you” on the phone. I lost my mum ten years ago and it makes me immensely happy she includes me in her family like that. She’s fab ❤️

My Mum died a while ago. My MIL is the business. She was at the birth of DS1 and a steadying presence. I like her very much.

I did. I thought we were close and that I was part of a second family. Then about four weeks ago when I was suffering horrendous post natal anxiety and struggling with a difficult baby, I found texts between my OH and MIL slagging me off saying I was pathetic for not being able to cope. So now, not so much.

Me! She's such a lovely lady and treats me like one of her own.

She's sadly no longer with us, but mine was ace.

I absolutely adore both parents in law and prefer them in many ways to my parents.

Mind's amazing but unfortunately on her way out in her late 80s

Mine is fantastic, easy to talk to and has been so supportive throughout my pregnancy. My own mum is 200 miles away, so my MIL has been there when I needed someone - she's even coming yo my 30 week scan with me because my husband can't get time off work that day. She and my FIL have told me to ring them as well as my husband when the time comes to head to hospital - they will come straight over and either take me or wait with me until my husband gets back - he works in another hospital and is likely to take an hour to get back to me. Don't know what I'd do without her.

I like my MIL but I would hate to think that in contributing to this thread I was making people who don't get along well with their MILs feel like there's something wrong with them. My mother is similar to a lot of the difficult, controlling MILs you hear about on here and I wouldn't wish one of them on my worst enemy.

I like mine, I'm pretty easy to please. She sure isn't perfect, and was often less than interested in the GCh when they were young and less able to offer achievements to boast to her friends about, but she does actually mean well.

Some DiLs on MN have a tricky time of it with their MiLs, but I also think some DiLs are difficult themselves.

Mines bloody marvellous.

Mine wasn’t always perfect. But she loved my children. SIL doesn’t have children so my children were her only GC. It was endearing seeing someone adore her GC the way she did. I grew to love her dearly because of how much my children meant to her.

My first, I struggled with. She was controlling and demanding. However, in retrospect, I was young and perhaps the "tiny voice" in the back of my head that I was making a mistake was hers...

I divorced her son after 7 years - and learned just how dysfunctional that family was.

My current DH has a mother who I ADORE. My relationship with my mother was... uh... the thing of psychiatric case studies... but my MIL has shown me what family is about. It hasn't been easy, but thanks to the example offered by her and my FiL (who celebrated their 62nd wedding anniversary yesterday) she has shown me that I can do it.

She's superb - I love my in-laws!

Mine had her moments. I loved her though and wish she was still here to drive me a little demented.

Yup, she's a star. I hope I can raise my son like she raised my husband

I didn’t get on with my MIL at first. I thought she was nosey and interfering. I gradually came to realise that I was the problem and was being massively insecure and over sensitive, projecting a lot of my issues with my own mum onto MIL. Now I am very fond of MIL, we are very different people but she has a heart of gold and I am ashamed when I think back to how prickly and passive-aggressive I used to be.

I genuinely care for mine, she is hard work though, my DH was the first to say that, I was quite relieved that he realised it.

Mines ok. I found her standoffish to start with but Dh had come out of an awful relationship where the ex had manipulated everyone to her benefit. MIL was worried about getting close to anyone.

20 years down the line she is fab and treats me as the daughter she never had. She never interferes at all but would drop everything in a heartbeat if we needed her. My children adore her and I have nothing but respect for her.

My SIL on the other hand would give you a completely different story. Mil has babysat every weekend for the last 25 years, paid for the kids first cars, decorated there house, gave them a deposit for a house, etc. SIL says that MIL doesn’t do enough and as she’s ‘sat’ on a load of money she should share it out 😱

Yep I love mine. I don’t speak to my mum and my MIL has been more of a mum to me than my biological one ever was. She helps us out so much and she’s so caring. I’ve been known to have an odd moan about her being a bit overbearing at times but she means well. As far as I know, all my friends get on well with their MILs too.

I love mine dearly. I think I have posted before about what a wonderful woman my MIL is and that I hope my daughter turns out like her paternal grandmother. I much prefer MIL's company and conversation to that of my own mother.

Yes me .She is brillant and I lost my mum in her early 60's so I view my mil as my 2nd mum .She has done things that annoyed me over the 20 odd years I have been married to DH but I would never cause an argument without a jolly good reason and we rarely have got cross with each other . As I am pretty outspoken so I have probably done the same. She will always help out with childcare ,She frequently will say I am too soft but it is a standing joke she is a lot stricter than me .But I adore them both my mil and my fil.