Anyone on mumsnet actually like their MIL..?

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I do
I have noticed that MIL’s get a bad rep on MN...anyone got any positives about their other half’s mother...?

Nah.

Well I do but would never admit it to her.

We insult each other regularly but it's all tongue in cheek.

Just don't tell me my wife looks like her!!!!

Yes I like her, love her even but the relationship is weird. I can't trust her with my DC as she has no common sense (recently gave DS 22 months a ring pull to play with as a key for a his train - ended up having to fish it out of his throat) She is an alcoholic and this really upsets DH. She lives 15 minutes away yet my eldest DC is 10 & neither of them have ever been inside her home as she hasn't allowed us to visit. So not the normal situation where you can just drop in & see her. I actually wonder what she's hiding 🤔

I haven't got one. She died before I met DH. We apparently have very similar views though.

Mines great. We’re not bffs and that suits us both. She’s kind and generous and loves dc and obviously Dh and she and I get on well but no forced intimacy. Perfect.

I always feel so sad I never got to meet DHs mum. She died when he was a teenager, but he often tells me we'd have got on really well and are similar. He's had a lifetime of missing her, and I feel like I've missed out on part of him too. I find it very saddening to read a lot of the posts on here to be honest.

I LOOOOOOOVE mine! She's amazing. Don't know what I will do when she is gone!

I loved my MIL , sadly she passed away 10 years ago and we miss her very much . As a mother of 4 boys myself, I worry that I won't have a special relationship with my grandchildren when they eventually come along .

me,been with my oh since 1999 and shes like a 2nd mother,never had a problem as a mother in law or as a interfering grandmother but im very gobby,strong and a dont mess with me kind of person

Mine's great, I probably get on better with her than with my mum, but have to add that both sets of parents are 5 hour drive away in opposite directions. Mine came to stay when DD2 was due and drove me to hospital while DH rushed over from work.

Totally love mine. She gives me better advice than my mum.

I absolutely love mine - she's amazing

Her and DS adore each other

Yes, she's lovely. We have very little in common (though she is strong and independent feminist which I love). She's also bloody useless but unintentionally so. She's always been very respectful of me though. And has defended me and my position as wife on an occasion to DH, which I thought was wonderful. DFIL has done the same too! More than my mother's done that's for sure!

No

For all her scattiness and incessant talking, I loved mine to bits. Not all mil are made equal, though. There are some people in this world that I wouldn't piss on if they were on fire, many more whose company I would find excruciating and some of those people happen to be some poor sod's mil.

I really like mine; she's lovely and the DC love her too.

We happily do stuff together without anyone else and text quite regularly as well if we haven't seen each other to talk.

They are happy to have the DC as much as we want them to as well (though we don't like to take the piss, so don't ask too often if we can help it!).

It could be far worse, TBH!

Yes, I do.

Most of the time yes. But like anyone she is human and has flaws. She (and siI, mostly) have peeved me off this week.

I loved my MIL - she was a lovely person. She died of pancreatic cancer, and I still miss her so much.

Nope. I'm NC and DH is close to doing the same. Horrible horrible fallout and FiL has just given up on life to be honest. We don't know what else to do. Her need to be right and "win" is greater than her love and compassion for her own children and grandchildren. Devastating.

I love mine, she is kind and thoughtful. She never treads on my toes or be anything other than DDS nanna. They'll take her for weekends away so that DH and I can have some alone time, that's on top of one whole week a year enabling the two of us to go on couples holidays.

What's even more special about this is she isn't even biologically related to DD, DH is DDS step-dad

My MIL is quite nice. We don’t have a lot in common but she is polite and friendly.

No. Vile woman.
Didn't go to her funeral. Even my ex didnt want to.

I adore mine. She's the kindest, most selfless person I've ever met, we are very lucky to have her.
She turns up at our house all the time and drives me mad sometimes but her heart is in the right place.

I love my MIL, she had a horrible MIL herself so is incredibly considerate, and taught my husband how to cook and look after himself which I am very grateful for. She also works very hard and competes in a sport I am interested in in her spare time so great role model for me and our DC

I love mine dearly. I have far more patience with her than dh does. Yes she drives me a bit batty now and then but so does my own mum!