Anyone on mumsnet actually like their MIL..?

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I do
I have noticed that MIL’s get a bad rep on MN...anyone got any positives about their other half’s mother...?

Mine is a little crazy, very extrovert and outspoken and has a complete different attitude to bringing up children than me and dh. But she's great, doesn't make a fuss and doesn't intervene. We get on great.

Yup. My MIL is also lovely. She rings me in the morning when it’s cold to check my DCs have vests on

I really like my MIL and certainly more than DH does (but I adore my own mum)

I like my STBX MIL more than my STBXH!

Mine was lovely and the best granny to our DD. Sadly she died when I was pregnant with DS, I wish so much she'd gotten to see him.

My MIL died 25 years ago and I still miss her. She was fabulous- funny and kind and wise.
My poor husband, however, drew the short straw in the MIL lottery!

I love mine - she treats me like another daughter. She loves our boys and the only thing we really disagree about is spoiling them, usually through food (she’s a real feeder, a proper old fashioned farmers wife). I grew up with very self absorbed parents and was sent off to boarding school. To start with I found MIL slightly smothering but then I realised she was actually mothering and loving me - bit of a novelty for a feisty, independent girl in her 20s who had surrounded herself with some pretty strong emotional walls! I loved my FIL too. He died a few years ago (bastard cancer) and I think of him every day ❤️

My in laws are fantastic people, they have been loving and inclusive from the beginning and are so supportive of everything we do.

Yes I do. She's mental and drives me batshit crazy, but I do love her.

Mine feels super entitled to my child. So no, I do not like her. She plays the victim well and uses tears to try to manipulate. Since I’m on to her, none of it works anymore and she is kept at arms length to prevent her from seeping in to our daily lives. My husband deals with her and I deal with my own mom.

I do but I feel like it's been a very long journey to get there. If you'd have asked me 5 years ago when we really really disliked each other I'd have ranted on for pages.
We've both chilled out a bit and now I honestly do like her.

Mine is a kind, thoughtful and generous person who has treated me like a blood relative since the day we met and has never interfered with my marriage or my parenting. I call her Mam and I love her to bits.

My mil is a pain in the arse. She tries to guilt trip us all to do things she wants to do. She's frequently rude and lies to get what she wants. I used to tip toe around but now I face up to her and call her out on it. It's actually made things a bit better.
I also remind myself constantly (and my husband) that she has lots of good points. She brought him and his brother up single handed. They are both amazing men. She loves our kids unconditionally, and will do a bag of ironing if I ask!
So I can't say I really like her, but I do care for her a lot and hope I encourage my husband and kids to do the same.

cryingmess your mil sounds like mine! I too would like to be the sort of mil that she is one day.

Yup!!

Mine is lovely. We don't have a tonne in common, but we've both made a lot of effort to make a real connection, and I now really enjoy her company. She absolutely adores my new little DS, and her and DH are very close - she (and FIL, too, but that wasn't what was asked about!) bring so much to our lives and we're very grateful for and to them.

I love mine. She's amazing. She's 85 this year, sharp as a pin with a wicked sense of humour.

Mine is fine. She helps us out financially quite a lot (I wish we were able to support ourselves and can't wait until we are better off). She is kind. She isn't overbearing or interfering.

I love mine to bits. She’s kind and liberal minded, she adores my kids and thinks of me as her daughter. Obviously there are a few things that annoy me about her and I’m sure visa versa but she’d back me to the hilt and I’d do the same for her.

Yup. Great. I don't understand all that she says though she speaks a non local dialect. Her 4 sons our great as is her daughter, she's got my côté all the way.

ExMIL is good too. But did a shite job on her eldest son! She's a top grandmother and loves my new DH.

She's okay, she loves our daughter and likes looking after her when we go to visit so we can have a break.

That goes a long way to me ignoring all her odd and at times embarrassing behaviour.

Yes, mine is lovely.
We have our disagreements about things, but I’m sure if my own mum was alive I would have disagreements with her too.
We’ve only got one major issue and I’d say we both deal with it in our own way...
My DD loves her though and she comes back in one piece every time my MIL looks after her and that’s the important thing.

Mine is lovely. I'm glad she's my MIL not my mum, but no complaints from this quarter

I do, she's absolutely lovely, very sarcastic and witty though, when i first met her I was never sure when she was being serious and when she wasn't

I love mine she's ace.