Next door neighbour having a baby

[eggsinonebasket]

I probably am being U. I think I just need to vent. I’m in a semi detached house and the party wall is so bloody thin can hear everything. My next door neighbour is a woman with one DC and she’s just told me in passing that she’s pregnant. I’m already dreading the noise this will entail at night and feel quite stressed about being woken up by a baby then having to get up and go to work, I have a teenager who will be needing sleep for exams soon. She is a noisy enough neighbour already and I feel shit that it’s going to get 100000x worse when this baby is born. I’ve just started a new relationship with someone who is in a highly professional job, I was hoping he’d be able to start staying over at mine but with a screaming child next door who would want to? I’m privately renting and could move but there aren’t many affordable houses to rent in this area and I need to be close for my child’s school. I’m just dreading this already, I’ve lived beneath a newborn before in a flat and it was horrific. I know I’m being ridiculously U

Yeah yabu..... They're not babies forever OP

Do you wear earplugs?

You are, but better to moan about it here than to your neighbour, because that would make you a massive twat.

My babies don’t cry at night, we co sleep so they don’t get chance before they’re fed. You might be lucky x

What’s a “highly professional job” and why is that relevant? I think moving is your main option.

Surely noise is something you expect when you've chosen to live in a semi-detached?

Well, at least you know you are being ridiculously unreasonable.

Lol YABU. I hope you congratulated NDN and didn't grimace at them when they told you their happy news

Presumably you had neighbours when your son was a newborn or indeed when you were one? I think YABU however I also understand that the news of the pregnancy hasn't got you jumping for joy. If you're not prepared to move though then really you are just whinging and not looking for solutions

Can you move in with your new partner , congratulations to your n.d.n. on her second beautiful baby. Why don't you and your dc wear earplugs to help block out any noise.

You have a teenager... Which means other people had to put up with your child's screaming. But I guess that was ok because it wasn't your problem...

Babies don't usually cry 24 hours a day OP calm down.

White noise machines.
Life changers.

@etsiketsi you have to have much more delicate eardrums to get one so lve heard.

Newborns really aren’t very loud. The issue comes if it’s an older child that doesn’t want to go to bed as they can make a racket!! As long as your bed isn’t right on the party wall I doubt you’d hear anything anyway.

Hang rugs on the walls.

No one is this self absorbed surely!!

Move then.

Deeper issues here, is my guess.

Well, your options are;

1. Move
2. Don't move and cross your fingers that the baby is a quiet baby - both mine were, they slept and they drank and they slept and drank, round and round.

I feel for you, nobody knows how bad it is to live in a house with paper thin walls until you've lived in one. At my DF's house you can hear the neighbours putting dishes in the drying rack it's that bad.

But it was ok because your baby never cried right?

But someone with a less professional job would be fine with it?!

If it's already bothering you this much, you're either going to have to find coping strategies or move.