Next door neighbour having a baby

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I probably am being U. I think I just need to vent. I’m in a semi detached house and the party wall is so bloody thin can hear everything. My next door neighbour is a woman with one DC and she’s just told me in passing that she’s pregnant. I’m already dreading the noise this will entail at night and feel quite stressed about being woken up by a baby then having to get up and go to work, I have a teenager who will be needing sleep for exams soon. She is a noisy enough neighbour already and I feel shit that it’s going to get 100000x worse when this baby is born. I’ve just started a new relationship with someone who is in a highly professional job, I was hoping he’d be able to start staying over at mine but with a screaming child next door who would want to? I’m privately renting and could move but there aren’t many affordable houses to rent in this area and I need to be close for my child’s school. I’m just dreading this already, I’ve lived beneath a newborn before in a flat and it was horrific. I know I’m being ridiculously U

You sound way too precious

Have you explained to your neighbour that your boyfriend has a highly professional job?

Buy ear plugs.

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Oh or get your highly professional boyfriend to knock you up and then your babies can have crying wars.

I would move
We have lived next door to two noisy families
We are a noisy family
But we have good walls

Babies cry. It's what they do. Short of gaffer taping their gobs shut (NOT advocating this folks, before someone takes me seriously!) there's nothing you can do about it.
In a house with thin walls here where you can hear the next door neighbour sneeze loudly sometimes (yes, seriously.) Move if it'll affect you that badly.

Move in with your Highly Professional boyfriend. Bet he can accommodate you all, and still has room for a pony.

Move house?

But if you can hear your NDNs baby crying she'll hear you having a highly professional shag no doubt

Living in a place seemingly made of egg boxes I do feel for you. But not many choices here other than moving to a detached house or a retirement complex. It could be worse though. My DD has a 2 year old and is expecting twins.

Babies don't necessarily cry for prolonged periods of time.

yabu you have a child yourself.

Are you anxious in general OP? Sounds like you're worrying a bit prematurely right now?

OP, I think a lot of the PPs are being very unfair to you. I’d guess they’ve never had to live in a property with paper thin walls.
Interrupted sleep and a screaming baby can be exhausting and stressful, particularly if your teen is trying to study for and sit important exams. I’m autistic, and get freaked out by noise - I have to leave shops that play loud music, for example.
Your options may be limited by budget- it’s facetious of the PPs who tell you to move to a detached house - but maybe you could look at some acoustic panels on the dividing wall to muffle the racket, or check out rent prices locally to see if a move is affordable, or could you consider moving in with your DP, at least during your DD’s exam period?
I sympathise entirely. Repeated noise and lack of sleep can make people suicidal. It’s even used as a torture technique!

I really want to know what the boyfriend does.

I thought you meant your neighbour was actually giving birth next door and you could hear...

YABU.

You need to get over yourself, or buy a detached with the salary from your highly professional job.

Sorry, just move in with the Boyd.

But if you can hear your NDNs baby crying she'll hear you having a highly professional shag no doubt

Oh jeez, don't. That's just brought back memories of previous neighbour who's thankfully now moved!
One side complained that our baby cried during the night. (Yes, that's what they DO. What do you want me to do about it? I wanted him to shut the fuck up and let me sleep too! )
I could completely hear the new girlfriend when she moved in, as during the day she was Janice from friends with her annoying laugh and screeching, and 2am in the morning when his work van pulled up outside and the front door went your heart sank if you were still awake as you knew within the next 10 minutes it'd be "Yes, YES, YES! AHHHHHHHH" in a sing song voice.
Could barely look him in the eye the days after lol.
SO tempted to say shut the fuck up, I don't need to hear your warbling when I'm trying to sleep

i live in a terraced house par for the course id love to move but cant

YABU. I'm childless (so not "used to" kids' noise). We have thin walls and a family behind said thin walls, and very little kids noise - especially when babies! The oldest one can be normal-kid-loud when playing or being tired/cranky, but really not much, and nothing drastic. I've never woken up to their children crying, and even if I've happened to hear a bit of a cry when I'm awake at night, it's just been followed by sounds of parent getting up and crying stopping.

Honestly, the loudest human sounds coming through the walls is the mum singing...

Trying to guess the job of op. Op babies of highly professionals also cry. If your boyfriend uses the baby next door...hes not that into you. You know yabu so i wont say thing else

I feel for you.
I've had the same issue. My ndn had two babies very close together so my ds has had two years of disturbed sleep because his bedroom is on the adjoining wall.
To be fair my ndn is very aware that the babies haven't been great sleepers and that they disturb us, however that doesn't really help us much!

Sorry but im 😂at this. If you cant stand noise go and stay in the middle of nowhere and you will get all the quiet you want