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Next door neighbour having a baby

176 replies

eggsinonebasket · 27/07/2018 19:29

I probably am being U. I think I just need to vent. I’m in a semi detached house and the party wall is so bloody thin can hear everything. My next door neighbour is a woman with one DC and she’s just told me in passing that she’s pregnant. I’m already dreading the noise this will entail at night and feel quite stressed about being woken up by a baby then having to get up and go to work, I have a teenager who will be needing sleep for exams soon. She is a noisy enough neighbour already and I feel shit that it’s going to get 100000x worse when this baby is born. I’ve just started a new relationship with someone who is in a highly professional job, I was hoping he’d be able to start staying over at mine but with a screaming child next door who would want to? I’m privately renting and could move but there aren’t many affordable houses to rent in this area and I need to be close for my child’s school. I’m just dreading this already, I’ve lived beneath a newborn before in a flat and it was horrific. I know I’m being ridiculously U Blush

OP posts:
Butterflykissess · 27/07/2018 20:03

Try living under 3 noisy children! would prefer a baby tbh.

EdisonLightBulb · 27/07/2018 20:06

I would imagine she is posting about hoping for peace with her newborn but her neighbour has a new partner and she is dreading hearing them shagging all night.

Alienspaceship · 27/07/2018 20:07

Highly professional job Grin

Dontletthebastardsgrindyoudown · 27/07/2018 20:09

Do the new Mum a favour and move Hmm

buttercup54321 · 27/07/2018 20:13

You are being very unreasonable and self centred.
You could either find somewhere rent or move in with your highly professional partner and he might be able to afford somewhere more select and away from children.
I wonder if your teen every irritated anyone as a baby or ruined their cosy life before they were even born.
Get a grip or move!!!

MortyVicar · 27/07/2018 20:14

I think I get the 'highly professional'. There is a perception (I stress, perception) that professionals have higher standards and like things to be naice - even that they can be snobby. If it's early days in the relationship, the OP isn't very confident in herself and has that perception of the new man, then she may already be worried that she won't measure up and is afraid that a crying baby is going to be a step too far for him and he'll dump her.

OrcinusOrca · 27/07/2018 20:16

YABU. This reminds me of my neighbour recently. She essentially said her heart sank when she saw us move in because we will probably have children given our ages, and it was awful when there were children here before. I didn't tell her that we have been trying and failing for quite a while, but I wanted to tell her to eff off. She is not a quiet neighbour herself whereas she always says she never hears us. This is what you get in non detached houses sadly. Doesn't bother me too much we haven't ever had bad problems tbh.

heavandhell · 27/07/2018 20:17

My walls are paper thin too and when my daughter was a neighbour they said they could never hear her!

LetticeFortescue · 27/07/2018 20:21

Perhaps you could log it with101?

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 27/07/2018 20:21

Buy a detached house.

theycallmebabydriver · 27/07/2018 20:27

raise it with the landlord or environmental health. - who will quite rightly laugh their bollocks off before filing your complaint in the bin

niknac1 · 27/07/2018 20:28

You can get some small squishy earplugs, but you haven’t got a problem yet, I’d just sit tight and wait to see what happens.

KaliforniaDreamz · 27/07/2018 20:29

i gave birth at home and my neighbour thought i was being murdered.

good times.

TheShapeOfEwe · 27/07/2018 20:32

There isn't much you can do except ready yourself and get your DD to do the same

  • get used to earplugs or a white noise machine.

It won't be a baby forever and it might not be a crier.

Tubie · 27/07/2018 20:35

12 hour labour the other night from a lovely home birthing labour for a friend of mine. Now that was interesting in this heat with all windows open. I'm sure the baby won't compete with that volume or expletives!

Thedutchwife · 27/07/2018 20:37

Egg boxes on the wall 👌👌

SirGawain · 27/07/2018 20:41

I was hoping he’d be able to start staying over at mine but with a screaming child next door who would want to?
Given you attitude I wouldn't go near you or your house!

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 27/07/2018 20:45

I am so disappointed this isn't a live labour thread.

LoveInTokyo · 27/07/2018 20:52

Ahaha.

Oh OP. I feel your pain but boy have you chosen the wrong forum to post this on!

Grin
RiddleyW · 27/07/2018 20:53

Have you explained to your neighbour that your boyfriend has a highly professional job?

XingMing · 27/07/2018 20:54

It must be time to move to a detached house then.....

eggsandwich · 27/07/2018 20:54

Just remember your child was a crying baby once and probably noisy at times though you probably don’t remember, and if it’s an issue look into moving.

emsiboob · 27/07/2018 20:54

Oh just move

XingMing · 27/07/2018 20:55

Sorry, Cabbage, hadn't scanned the thread.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 27/07/2018 20:56

How fucking dare she!