My Husband has been taken into custody

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He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

Iv never been involved with DV but a close relative has and SS were involved. She was terrified but actually they supported her, not only with practical things like panic alarms and respite for the children when she needed a little break to deal with everything but also emotional support and reiterating that this wasn't her fault. Removing children is always a last resort, they're not the enemy. I know it's scary but please try and focus on getting better and assist the police in making sure this excuse of a man is punished for hurting you 💐

Op, you didn't let this happen. You have immediately protected your children by getting your mum to step in. You will be reeling from tonight's events, breathe, simply just breathe.....

The police will interview you, take photographs, they will support you, and appoint a domestic violence liaison officer, who will help, they should be able to complete the non-molestation order forms, and get it actioned tomorrow. Hopefully the police will also hold your husband overnight and he'll appear in court tomorrow.

Breathe. Breathe, and breathe some more. Things will move quickly over the next few days, but you are safe, your children are safe. Take each day at a time, and breathe.

Stay strong

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I am so sad to read this happened to you

Many of us have been in this position sadly

So sorry this has happened to you OP. Take one step at a time and focus on keeping you and your children safe. This is not your fault!

I’m so sorry he did this to you, OP . I hope you’re geting some rest.

Cooperate fully with SS and the police, concentrate on recovering physically at least, and hopefully you get to be with your DC again soon.

This man is extremely dangerous. Get yourself and your DC away from him!

So sorry to read what you have gone through, OP. You did all the right things and your DCs are in a safe place.

When they've sorted your shoulder (which is usually mercifully quick, even if it's done when you're awake), and you see the police, make sure that they know that the children are at your mum's and give them that address. It may be possible for either his bail conditions or the non-molestation order to prohibit him from going to her address as well as yours.

Ask for your case to be referred to MARAC if they don't mention it, as this will help you to access all sorts of support and even things like a panic alarm, security improvements etc.

Above all, remember that none of this is your fault. Only your shit of a husband is responsible for this, it's all down to him. And he's a bastard.

Hope you're able to get some sleep soon, and that you and your DCs stay strong.

Try not to be scared of SS OP, they can offer you support at such a difficult time. these are for you x

Social services will help you but you need to show you can protect your children. This has already been said though and I’m sure you’re aware of that. What he has done is nasty but don’t trouble yourself trying to work out why etc you will drive yourself mad. It’s simple, he’s a cunt a no good for you and your kids. Press charges against him and ask for help. If the police, the social or anyone else offers help, take it and get through this. Divorce him and get full custody of your children. I have no idea where to begin but others on this thread have given really good advice. I hope you’re ok. Rest and get yourself well again.

You need a restraining order. Contact Women's Aid too.

SS are there for you. They are there to protect you and protect your children from this piece of sharn you're currently married to. The same with the police, they are there to protect you and make sure he can't hurt you any more. So cooperate with them and take all the help you can get from them. There are two strands of this - protection of you as an adult and protection of your children. The DV people will help immensely and there is plenty of help for you and your children too further down the line, once this first bit is over and the court case is over, to help you all rebuild your lives. Stay strong. You're not alone. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

www.ncdv.org.uk/
Take a look at the National Centre for Domestic Violence link. They can assist with getting non-molestation orders etc. They have lawyers and the service is excellent.

It's not your fault. You've kept your children safe. You are very strong.

Op I just want to add another voice of support and encouragement

Don't be scared of SS and police. They are there to help and protect you and your children.

Thinking of you and offering a virtual hand hold

He did this, not your fault! Huge hugs and hope you feel a tiny bit better in the morning xxx. Stay strong.

Good luck op, hope you can get the fresh start you need x

how have I let this happen to me

You haven’t let this happen: he’s done it and he is the only one responsible for it. He’s a fucking nasty bastard. I hope you’ve spoken to the police. Nail him for violence and assault. Bastard.

Thank you everyone. They sedated me for my arm and put me on a ward As there is no one to accompany me home. I fell asleep for a bit I think. I forgot where I was when I woke up ☹. I have to see a consultant for my cheekbone this morning and if they think it doesn't need surgery I can go home. I'm going to ask that the police come to my mums.

Please don’t be scared of the police. They look big and the uniforms make them look formal and terrifying. However my little sister is a cop - she looks intimidating in her uniform but honestly she is lovely. She is a mum of two, she dyes the end of her hair pink and hides it in a bun for work, she loves to bake and makes birthday kids for kids in her spare time! She helps a lot of families and has supported plenty of women in getting restraining orders. Be honest with the police, they will care about you and want to help. They are normal people with families of their own and a lot of sympathy for you.

As far as SS goes, my sister confirms they are there to help BUT you must not go back to this man or let him back in your life. Don’t reply to any messages from him, call the police if he approaches you.

Good luck!

You poor lady!

Stay at you moms for a few days then maybe see if she can come to yours for s few days.

X

Hi op. I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you!
Hopefully that monster will get a prison sentence he deserves.

Don't worry about ss taking your children away. As long as you can show you are putting your children's needs above his they will be happy. They will want to support you so let them help.

Glad you got your shoulder sorted. Time will heal the physical wounds. And time and much love to yourself will heal the mental scars too.

Hope you're doing as well as can be in this situation.

Again like others didn’t want to read and run. So sorry to hear what you’re going through. It is not your fault. You don’t control him. You couldn’t have stopped him. But now you can focus all your energy on protecting yourself and your children by getting the support you need and deserve from social services and police.

Sending you virtual flowers xx