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My Husband has been taken into custody

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Howdyagetstokillaroo · 25/07/2018 20:08

He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

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serialtester · 25/07/2018 21:40

You have been the victim of an incredibly violent assault.

You've taken steps to ensure the safety of your children.

The police, children's services and the medics will know this.

You are safe now - let people look after you.

Tabathatwitchett · 25/07/2018 21:41

Just to say I'm thinking of you tonight. You are strong and clearly have your mum looking out for you. When it's time, tell the police everything and let them throw the book at him.

daughterofanarchy · 25/07/2018 21:42

Goodness me you poor lady!!!!! Truly hope you recover well and your kids are okay. Please get away from this beast. He doesn’t even deserve to be called a human

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Churrolicious · 25/07/2018 21:44

Another one thinking of you tonight Howdya. No advice - there’s much more knowledgeable people here than me. Just thoughts, good wishes and hopes that, whatever the legal/SS steps etc are, tomorrow is the start of a brighter life for you and your DC.

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longwayoff · 25/07/2018 21:47

I wish you well OP. Stick with it and save your kids. In 5 years you will look back and wonder what took you so long.

ineedwine99 · 25/07/2018 21:47

Wishing you and your babies all the best lovely. Stay strong Flowers

juneau · 25/07/2018 21:49

As long as you break up with him permanently that they shouldn't take your DC away, but if you let him come back, or you stay with him then SS may well insist that the DC don't live with you.

You have indeed been the victim of a very violent assault and you need to end this relationship now, for your own safety and that of your DC. Flowers for you OP and I hope you get the help and support you need, but you will have to work with the police on this one if you want to keep your DC.

Kittykat93 · 25/07/2018 21:50

What a bastard. So sorry op. I hope you and your children stay far away from him and have a safe and happy life Thanks

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InsuranceGirl · 25/07/2018 21:51

OP the doctor saying “not yet” may be because they’ve not put your shoulder in yet or that SS haven’t been yet.

My DS was attacked by her ex partner and he made similar threats and that her children will be taken away, they will not!

Speak to the police and Doctors and SS and tell them everything, make them aware you will give evidence (you can do this behind a screen) and request a restraining order for you, your children and your Mum (with children being with her) and emergency alarms linked to the police, you can have wearable ones.

DO NOT go back to your home unless the locks are changed, there is an alarm, you have another adult with you and added security please! We begged my sister not to but she wanted a night there to show she was ok and left her children at our house (thankfully) and the SOB was waiting for her, we managed to get the police there as her phone dialled us but he beat her up again really badly before they arrived.

Please don’t make the same mistake as my sister, keep yourself safe and work with all the services and take action xx

TillyMint81 · 25/07/2018 21:56

If you can try and sleep. Xxx

mydogishot · 25/07/2018 21:58

Press charges, get an injunction.

Look the ss dead in the eye and say "my kids are safe and always will be"
Stay strong.

I've been there. He left me disabled.

My kids have never left my side.

Pm me if you need. Take care of you

Cupcakes12 · 25/07/2018 22:01

Op you will get threw this
Just think about your wonderful children's
Your doing this for them
U deserve justice ThanksThanks

starfish2020 · 25/07/2018 22:02

I am so sorry you are going through this.
I can’t imagine how scared you must be feeling

Ladymadness · 25/07/2018 22:03

Please try to get some rest op Flowers
None of this is your fault and ss will NOT take your children from you.
We are all here to support you in any way we can (hugs)

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 25/07/2018 22:05

Oh mydog Sad I am so sorry

Suspect OP has either dozed off or been taken to theatre

notangelinajolie · 25/07/2018 22:06

So sorry. Stay strong OP you can do this.

centerparcs · 25/07/2018 22:07

This is awful

gottastopeatingchocolate · 25/07/2018 22:11

OP I am so sorry that you and your children are going through this.
YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. Remember and hold on to that. Don't try to make sense of how and why it happened - it happened because HE is an abuser.

Won't repeat the great advice about the legal steps you need to take. You will also need to be prepared to press charges against DH.

Is there anyone that you trust to come and sit with you? I hate to think of you there alone.

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TaggieRR · 25/07/2018 22:13

So sorry to hear your story OP. Hope you’re home with you Babies soon.

mushlett · 25/07/2018 22:17

I am so so sorry, I hope you can get some rest, what he did is beyond despicable. Xxx

Bluelonerose · 25/07/2018 22:17

Oh fuck op I don't have anything else to add other than echo what everyone else has said

This is NOT your fault. Please say that to yourself whenever you think otherwise.
Flowers