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My Husband has been taken into custody

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Howdyagetstokillaroo · 25/07/2018 20:08

He has broken my nose, my left cheekbone and dislocated my shoulder. My children are with my mum and the police have called social services. I am paralytic with fear that they will take my babies away. He always said they would because one day he would kill me.

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FrancisCrawford · 26/07/2018 07:33

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Cuttingthegrass · 26/07/2018 07:38

I hope you've managed to get some sleep overnight. You must be exhausted physically and mentally. I hope the consultant has positive news about your cheek.

As others said can you stay with your mum for a bit? Made me shiver reading your posts. Please let everyone help you and trust what they say.

strawberrisc · 26/07/2018 07:39

The Police and SS are not bogeymen. PLEASE don’t be scared but PLEASE be completely honest. It’s the only way.

Ariclock · 26/07/2018 07:39

Hope that all goes ok in hospital today and that you can go to your mum's home soon Flowers

Elliebobbins · 26/07/2018 07:47

I don't have anything to add to the advice you have already been given but I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you.

Memom · 26/07/2018 07:54

As long as you assist the police and can satisfy SS that you will do everything in your power to keep your children safe from physical and emotional harm they won't take them away. Hopefully they will be able to help keep him away! Hope everything goes well.

BloomsButtons · 26/07/2018 07:59

I agree with a PP. The Police appear scary in their uniforms but they want the best outcome for you and to help keep you safe.

Lellikelly26 · 26/07/2018 08:01

You have to show SS that you will not have him back. Any whiff of that and they will take the kids.

rainbowruthie · 26/07/2018 08:08

Just sending some more kind thoughts this morning, hope you are able to leave the hospital today and stay safely at your mums Flowers

UrsulaPandress · 26/07/2018 08:15

You poor love. Sending love and strength.

Jozxyqk · 26/07/2018 08:26

Try not to worry, sweetheart. The police may look scary, but it's not you that needs to be scared. They are there to help you - co-operate with them & SS as much as you can, tell the whole truth, they want to help. Don't try to protect your XP - he wasn't bothered about protecting you, was he?

stopfuckingshoutingatme · 26/07/2018 08:38

Police and medics hate wife beaters
They are there to help you x

ScrubTheDecks · 26/07/2018 08:40

The police from the Domestic Violence team were my friend’s most effective ally. They looked after all the court stuff about getting him kept out of and away from the house. They put together a case to prosecute him for coercive control.

The police and SS will be there to support you.

And you can get support from Women’s Aid, too.

pinkbraces · 26/07/2018 08:41

I have no practical advice but sending you all the good vibes I can muster. This is not your fault Flowers

LittleLionMansMummy · 26/07/2018 08:42

Be strong op. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please, please don't go back to him on the basis that it's the first time he's done this. This marks a frightening escalation, he won't change, it will happen again and again until he succeeds with his threats and kills you. Do everything you can to protect yourself and your children. Lots of good advice and support here. Please trust the police and give them as much information as possible to help them protect you. If ss see what you're doing to stay away from him they will not take your dc away. Stay safe, wishing you strength to get through this. Flowers

cjdamoo · 26/07/2018 09:14

I am so sorry this happened to you xx

Lizzie48 · 26/07/2018 09:46

I'm sorry, @Howdyagetstokillaroo what an awful thing you've been through. You'll get past this, though, you're stronger than you know, and you've been very brave. ThanksThanks

beeefcake · 26/07/2018 10:14

I am so so sorry you are going through this. I hope this bastard gets what he deserves. Is there any way you can stay at your mums with your kids?

Bluntness100 · 26/07/2018 10:27

How are you today op?

UniversalAunt · 26/07/2018 11:03

Hello Howdy, I hope today is going well for you.

I’ve read the first few posts on your thread & jumped to message mode to reinforce the many PPs who are sending their support to you & your family.

Just to reinforce the message: the police & SS are there to help you.

He has tried to break you & certainly broken the law.

Tell the police & SS everything you can - the little threats, intimidation, everyday glancing blows, the big lies & the big injuries he has inflicted on you. It all pulls together as a pattern of behaviours.

No matter how sorry he is, no matter what he says, he will do it again.

Keep away from him, get police & SS support to keep him away.
Follow their advice to protect your children.
Do not let him take you off the path of child protection, no matter what he says.

Snowysky20009 · 26/07/2018 11:29

I'm so sorry you are going through this OP. But you are stronger than you realise. You will get through this, and you won't have your dc taken away, for reasons others have already stated. Take one step at a time. I appreciate this must be so frightening and confusing. But you can do this. X

Hortonlovesahoo · 26/07/2018 11:31

OP: hope that it’s all gone well this morning at the consultant and you’re not in too much discomfort. Everyone has given advice that I’d give but wanted to let you know that you’re not alone x

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Howdyagetstokillaroo · 26/07/2018 11:44

I am waiting for the consultant. The police came here and not mums. They have taken a brief statement and want to use it to convince the cps to keep him on remand. I am feeling clearer today but I am on less morphine and they are moving me to regular painkillers. I have to visit the gp for codeine if paracetamol doesn't cut it. I will need to see more people once I am home. I have asked the police not to visit hospital again People are looking at me. Is that wrong?

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MrsMrsMrsMrs · 26/07/2018 11:44

Bless you OP Flowers I hope that this is the beginning of a new chapter for you. You did what ever mother would do and thought of your kids first and getting them to safety. So brave. xx

InsuranceGirl · 26/07/2018 11:47

No it’s not wrong, they are looking at you because they want to make sure you are ok.

Nothing wrong with asking the police not to come to you at hospital, they might be worried if they don’t you will think it’s not so bad and not press charges or he could convince you to change your mind.