to think she's trying to steal my child

[Herringb0ne]

Hiya. Single mum to DS7 here. Have been a single mum from pretty much birth.

Dad has a new partner who he has been with for a number of years. I have gone out of my way to be friendly and inclusive, we have group facebook chat for arrangements, I get her birthday and Christmas presents, etc. In return I am treated like an inconvenience.

They now have a child together, DS7s half sibling.

She has on her Instagram profile that she is a 'Happy mother of two boys!!!' and so help me god I have not been able to rest about it. She is NOT MY SONS MOTHER. But nobody else thinks this is weird. I tried to raise it with Dad and he shrugged it off and said I was being sensitive.

DS7 later told me that she has told him to call her Mummy as it is apparently 'confusing' to his half-sibling (who is not old enough to talk......) if he calls her by name. I am incensed.

AIBU? He's MY SON.

I definitely need to start keeping a (frankly depressing) diary.......

RoboJesus why do you think OP needs therapy?
Surely she is being quite reasonable and understandably distressed by her situation?

I actually wouldn’t contact your ex first. I would ask at school if your DS has exhibited any of the anxiety you mentioned and put it in, in a concerned way, that CrazyMumofOne has been making him feel guilty about leaving her alone.

Then get to the doctor and have it recorded that he is exhibiting anxiety and ask, in a naive way if you need to, whether there are any techniques you can use to help him cope with the big emotions expected of him at their house.

Then speak to your ex.

@walkingdeadfangirl

he has one mother and one father. i'm not grateful - she's GROOMING him.

If she is your DS's dads partner, legally she is just a single woman who has a baby with the same man as you have. She has no rights over your DS whatsoever. Stop playing nice.

Robo isnt the stepmum. The tone and language is different. I've been texting her daily for 3 years, I'd know her a mile off. Robo is just starving for some attention.

Walkingdead have you actually read the thread. Ffs. She is not his mum.

walkingdead RTFT! Ffs

This is frankly scary OP. She wants to create a perfect little family, with no embarrassing ex's, failed relationships etc. I don't mean you're embarrassing, by the way, just that she doesn't want to acknowledge that her bloke walked out on his first child..

I think you will have to at least get some legal advice, if you can, and start to keep records of everything. Any "lost" phones, confusion with names, trying to muscle in at school etc. She doesn't sound quite stable, and if nobody is allowed to challenge her, I can't see how it would stop.

It reminds me of a friend who is a teacher. She had to deal with a boy who broke down and cried in class.Turned out that his step-mum was insisting he call her Mum, as she didn't want people to realise that she wasn't her husbands first wife! He refused, and had been banned from seeing his Dad until he gave in. The poor boy was 16, so it still hurts, even when they are teens.

Hugely relieving to hear your ex is decent. Perhaps if you write out the bare facts of what has happened and it's implications, he can see that, at a bare minimum, they as a couple need to be careful not to upset your DS.
Her behaviour is batshit, but saying that's not likely to get you a good outcome, esp if he thinks PsychoLaura is just being loving and motherly.

I await her cropping up here as PsychoLaura/ CaptainLauraAshley/ CrazyMumOfOne !!!

There’s obviously lots of other issues here but the original thread (and I think a very telling part of the situation) is that another woman is telling OP’s son to call her mum.
I reckon OP needs to go all lioness on her arse

That's good he's with you for most of the summer OP!

Some good suggestions re the GP and the school and DS' anxiety. I'd definitely talk to someone to have it 'on record' before speaking to ex and upsetting the hornet's nest.

Hi all,

We're getting a lot of reports about this thread - and we're deleting an awful lot of PAs, too. We think it's just derailed now, so it would be great to get things back on track. We'd hate to delete it.

Thanks

Just out of sheer paranoia, might be worth confirming with School/doctors etc that all the emergency contacts etc held for Jim are correct and haven't been 'updated' by PyschoLaura.

Can we not delete it as er i dont have a printer and it looks like i could need a) the advice and b) the legal audit trail

thanks.

Jim?! Him... and apologies for double post, MN is littered with them this evening, just be an app glitch.

@vienetta she 'moved' him to her doctors a year or so ago. 'Easier for all the family' etc etc.

I 'moved' him right back.

She moved him over to her doctor?!

Thanks MNHQ
No need to delete, as it has useful info. Just sort out the tossers who are looking to start a fight, and adding nothing useful to the thread.

Herring can you screenshot posts you want copies of just in case?
Or copy and paste them?

She did whaaaatttt???!!
Fuck me, that's bold.
Did his dad say this was ok, or did she do it all off her own bat?