to wish my name wouldn't always come up in the baby names threads?

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NC for this. My name always comes up in the baby names threads. Always as 'dated' or 'common' or 'chavvy' etc etc. Sick of seeing my name slagged off and I never felt down about it until mn. To the point that I have hidden the baby names threads and never read them, even though we are currently trying to think of a name for DC1. AIBU to think that we don't think of these things when we slag off other people's names on the internet? That people actually have these names?

Calm down Tracy

The thing is, people post about the baby names they are thinking of using to find out what people think about it. If the general reaction is yuk, they may still decide to go ahead with using it but will be far more prepared for the rl reaction. Which is a good thing. Or they may chose not to saddle the child with a name most people don’t like. Another good thing.

Yabu imo. It really is a case of don’t click on a thread with your name on it then you won’t be hurt.

Me too. Mine is massively overdone apparently 😂

It was actually very unusual when I was a child (I’m 42).

17yo DD’s name is also terribly common now, especially with under 10s. Oh well 🤷‍♀️

Tarts

Now I really want to know what it is?

I've only seen my name on a baby name thread once. It was almost universally hated

Chloe?

@ThroughThickAndThin01 most of the time the thread isn't even about my name. I saw it in about 6 threads used as an example of a chavvy, common or awful name in a few threads when looking for names for DC. Just not nice seeing your name described as ugly or a chav name.

No my name isn't Chloe and I'm not disclosing my name.

I'm only 23 and guess I am just realising that my name is a bit shit - never realised it was so disliked before!

Tarts have to admit though, Tracey was my 1st thought!

I dislike name threads because no-one can seem to give an opinion without being unkind.

I’m sorry you’re upset

MN isn't real life - I imagine no one even considers your name in real life

Balonz?

I’m going for Amanda

My 2 daughters names are always described as 'boring', 'dull', 'popular' etc. I have to say that it doesn't bother me in the slightest

Jesus Christ.

What fucks me off is people starting threads about their name and then not saying what the name is.

I’d put my mortgage on your name being absolutely bog standard for the era you were born this making you entirely unidentifiable.

I've got an Evie named after her great grandmother. There isn't another in her age group and an Oliver in his twenties. Neither were anywhere near the name lists when they were born. I only realised how terribly they are thought of since joining MN.

OP posts a thread saying it's hurtful when people associate her name with being chavvy and common and what do PPs do? Pile on with the names they think fulfil the criteria. GOOD WORK GUYS. Ether you get it right in which case you've proved OP right and hurt her feelings, or you're wrong and you're probably upsetting someone else. Be kind or be quiet!

OP, YANBU. Names mean different things to different people and what matters is your name was given to you as a beautiful gift from people who looked at you and felt the greatest upswelling of love in the world. It doesn't matter if someone else hates it, because opinions are like arseholes. I can absolutely see why it's hurtful when people are rude about your name, but try and remember just how irrelevant those people are

Baby name threads can be cutting. Every
now and then someone will start up a “what name can’t you stand” thread and I guarantee every single name will be on it. (Until it gets deleted because it becomes a slanging match)

Shannon?

Why bother name changing if you're not going to say what you're real name is?

@dingdongadingding maybe people don't want to disclose their name online? I've got a fair few threads I've commented on on here and don't want anyone (yes, even mn moderators) being able to attribute them to me through my name.

Sorry you are fucked off but you knowing my name doesn't change a thing.

Why would you even care?

Nice thread policing there wellBehived

I wonder if your first name is the same as mine, OP? I saw someone reference it again today on a thread and wondered why it's such a joke on this site 🤔

I hated my name growing up 70schild but I don't mind it any more. In fact I don't know anyone with the same name these days.

You’ve name changed for this thread though? How would anyone connect your other threads?