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Original poster

To have just had a massive row about food again

181 replies

Metoodear · 23/07/2018 18:19

Aibu

So did a huge shop a few weeks agai double what o normally buy and dh is moaning yet again their is no food

I may add he has decided that he is going on a special diet

We can not really afford anyone in the family eating differently and it’s meaning we’re going through about 9 pints of milk a week
But what ever he told me it’s because i am not meal planning effectively enough

So this week I meal plan with in a inch of my life went shopping 3 days ago

Their is no milk again
No bread no crisps
No cheese
No eggs

I have had non of these items I bought fucking 10 eggs

And I have literally got back from the shop to get my stuff for lunch for the next 3 days

So tonight’s dinners need eggs and cheese I have told dh and fucking ds 18 that I will not be returning to the shop I have been twice today as it is and I am not going to the supermarket daily to replace what their guzzling

Ds 18 is doing fuck all at the moment barr eating i refuse to spend my free time going to and from the fucking supermarket I only get two days off a week
So they can go the fucking shop themselves I told dd when I get back from work tomorrow my expectation will be he will have been to the shop

I have cooked for the kids but not for dh or ds who is currently refusing to go to the shop though he with dh are the worst offenders it’s not the eating of the food it’s the expectation that I will just keep going back and fucking forth like I have nothing else to bloody do

Oh and I also sick of ds leaving a dribble of juice in the jug so he doesn’t have to refil it

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VladmirsPoutine · 23/07/2018 18:36

Yanbu. You clearly wrote this with the rage pouring out of you. You're not the family P.A - everyone in this scenario sounds old enough to sort themselves out. Especially so if they are going to drink milk like its going out of fashion and expect the magic fairy maid to restock it on demand.

wellBeehivedWoman · 23/07/2018 18:36

Your DH needs to do his share of the shopping and meal planning for sure. And you need to talk to your DS about his health. But it also sounds like you aren't buying enough food. 10 eggs for a family of 6 is less than 2 eggs per week. That's not a lot! (Albeit I don't know what else you're buying).

Get your DH on board with planning and sharing responsibility for food shopping, it shouldn't all be falling on your shoulders. And start asking your son to start paying his way if he's eating all the food! He should be working.

keyboardkate · 23/07/2018 18:36

Lazy DS

Theweasleytwins · 23/07/2018 18:37

My dh and I get pre-made protein drinks from PostedProtein.com so don't have to add milk- don't know how big they go but that might help?

Gileswithachainsaw · 23/07/2018 18:37

Pre cook all the meals and freeze then put a lock on the fridge?
They both sound rude selfish and lazy. Poor you op Flowers

Pressuredrip · 23/07/2018 18:38

Please don't buy or cook for your 18 year old and DH anymore. Give your 18 year old a cupboard and food money. Lock the cupboards and fridge. Only meal plan and cook for the younger ones and yourself.

KittyHawke80 · 23/07/2018 18:38

I feel your pain generally, but I must admit I was struck by the eggs. We get through a couple of dozen a week. Me, my mum, three kids.

LittleOwl153 · 23/07/2018 18:42

Can you meal plan, shop and identify what's for what. Put cupboard stuff away elsewhere and use carrier bags or something to separate stuff in the fridge label then for each meal. If they are opened then you have your answer to them.
But definitely don't go running around after them.

QuiteCleanBandit · 23/07/2018 18:44

Bloody hell
30 eggs!
Ive got my own chooks and we dont eat that manyConfused
Its just greed OP, the more you buy the more they will eat.
I stopped buying crisps,biscuits and juice .
They hardly ever think about it now...

MagicFajita · 23/07/2018 18:48

You're working far too hard op. Order the shopping online , get it delivered on a set day and don't order snack foods. Replace only bread and milk if you run low. If your partner wants to eat different meals from the rest of you then tell him he can sort it , you're meal planning for the family meals only.

Be firm and everyone will realise that they need to step up.

Original poster
Metoodear · 23/07/2018 18:51

Dh just ds he’s obese Hmm

Now he’s having a go at me like I said it

It’s to hot for this shit

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flamingofridays · 23/07/2018 18:54

But if one person has eaten 10 eggs that's not reasonable is it.

FermatsTheorem · 23/07/2018 18:56

Buy a second fridge. Put a lock on it. Buy really nice food for yourself - lock it away. Cook just for yourself. Leave the lazy bastards to sort themselves out at their own expense and effort. They're both adults.

gillybeanz · 23/07/2018 18:56

My dh buys the food, I refuse to do more than one small weekly top up.
He has a strict diet due to medical condition.
Send him shopping, he'll soon know how much to buy and how much it costs.

keyboardkate · 23/07/2018 19:01

How would you put a lock on a fridge or freezer. I've heard it is dangerous to drill holes in a fridge door etc. Just curious.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 23/07/2018 19:04

You're working far too hard op. Order the shopping online , get it delivered on a set day and don't order snack foods. Replace only bread and milk if you run low

This ^ - as Magic says.

They are not children and shouldn't be acting like this.

Apart from the fact that they are treating you like a servant, it must be costing a bloody fortune - you must be buying a family's worth of shopping for these two lumps alone, without you and your other DCs.

If your DH is such a smartarse re: meal planning and shopping, let him do it for a couple of months and then he can show you exactly where you are going wrong. And any really expensive stuff that isn't needed for medical reasons should come out of their weekly spending money, not your housekeeping budget.

Undercoverbanana · 23/07/2018 19:04

Why isn’t DS working?

Why isn’t DH doing his share of shopping/cooking or at least sitting down with you and compiling a budgeted list for the week?

Come on OP. Stand up to them. They are taking the piss.

chickydoo · 23/07/2018 19:04

I feel your pain
2 teenage sons and DH here at the moment Adult DS and DD will be here next week Confused
Spent £140 on Thursday, back to shop today another £50 spent.
They consume mountains of bread, cheese, milk, juice. Deodorant seems to be running out very quickly at the moment, as does shower gel.
The huge quantities of fruit and salad, and yes eggs.
DS 19 made a salad last night to accompany home made chicken burgers and chips. ....I left him to it...he used 8 eggs, a bag of salad leaves a pack of tomatoes a whole cucumber a pot of olives and a block of feta, oh and celery and spring onions. They ate the lot.
How anyone can eat in this heat???
Greedy feckers

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 23/07/2018 19:06

Buy a second fridge. Put a lock on it. Buy really nice food for yourself - lock it away

Honestly people talk utter shite on here sometimes.

FermatsTheorem · 23/07/2018 19:07

It was tongue-in-cheek, Marmalade

Honestly, people on here have complete sense-of-humour failures sometimes.

MrsGrindah · 23/07/2018 19:08

Can’t belive people are casually suggesting the OP buys a second fridge!

MrsGrindah · 23/07/2018 19:09

Not sense of humour failure...it read like a serious post

ThePrioryGhost · 23/07/2018 19:09

Chicky - your DS sounds like he makes a great salad though Blush

OP - it’s shopping. It’s not worth being unhappy over, lovely. Set boundaries - leave out a pad, say you’ll buy only what is on it each week, and anything else they have to get themselves?

MarmaladeIsMyJam · 23/07/2018 19:11

Didn't read like a joke post one bit.

Original poster
Metoodear · 23/07/2018 19:11

Undercoverbanana

Why isn’t DS working?

he just finished collages and waiting his references so he can start his traineeship

He works pt at Pizza Hut (were he can eat for free no less) however they don’t really give him many hours he was as Tesco don’t want to go into it too much

But he did somthing and had to resign Sad

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