Posted thread yesterday about EX using my car! Have received the texts now! Need all the MN advice please!

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So my lovely MN this is the text I received 5 mins ago for ignoring his 5 calls; EX does not even know any of DD & DS friends ever!
Please help on the perfect reply

(My name) its pathetic, u gna hav to talk to me, grow up was jus gna talk about kids, its stupid , oviously there somthing else going on , cant b assed with the childish games injoy ,who ever it is, when u decide to grow up ring me need stuff. Am not putting my life on hold anymre i did best , u hav to many issues an u cant adress any, u have just lost the man who loves u , sometimes people go on an on an pick faults with there loved ones ,then realise when they gone that they had it all an thats whats gna happen to u, i tried to help u but u cant do it u need to c someone about way u are from the past ,coz u cant c way u are, ring later about kids , an also am gna ask (my single hairdressers name)if her kids want to spend time with (DD) over 6 weeks , an (DS) friends as am gna move in my own home an get my life back an somone that apreciates me. U cant c who i am ur to messed up,i deserve to be happy ,ring at lunch 4 kids

I don't understand a word of that! What's he saying?

Wow. That is completely unintelligible. What's his problem?

Don't waste your time or energy replying to whatever that's meant to mean!

Without knowing the huge backstory I’m sure there is, the perfect reply is polite and focusing solely on the kids. And not getting any digs in at him. For your kids sake.

Send him a text back saying it’s their not there.

I'm not clear what he's saying either
Maybe just text him to arrange when he can see the kids and nothing else

Please link your previous thread?? I think we need context and backstory!

I cannot make out any of that except you seem to be being told to 'grow up' by a toddler who is struggling massively with language skills

Agree with a response that is polite but firm and focussed on the children without any favours (such as lending him a car).

I have teenagers and their texts are far more readable than that.

I would text back

"I don't understand your message, maybe you were drunk when you wrote it? Please communicate with me by email in future at [email protected]. You are blocked from my phone."

How about “In English, please....”

errrrrr. I barely understand what he's saying....

Is it out of the ordinary for him to send long texts op? If so, it sounds like he is trying every different way he can to get you to respond in your normal manner - when you give in to him.

You are getting this sorted. There is no need to give in to him anymore. Its ok if he doesn't like you for standing your ground. You are allowed to be firm. He isn't your child but he wants you to rescue him like a toddler all the time. Its on not to reply. Just keep ignoring until or if he sends a text that makes sense and is talking about reasonable issues in an adult manner. This is just more of him spouting a load of rubbish to get you to react.

A new urban dictionary should be developed to understand that sorry mess. Deary me.

It doesn't matter what he's trying to say: he's an oaf who's been parasiting off the OP for some time. She's just called a stop to it. So, good for her!

Hi all how do I link other thread ?

Sorry it's so hard to understand. I read your thread yesterday, so take it that's after you said no?

Translation:
"Dear OP. Basically you're bits and I'm fantastic. You'll realise I'm fantastic eventually. Call me at lunch.."

Without the backstory, I'd imagine he's a cock, trying to put all the relationship issues on to the OP without accepting he's equally at fault.

Here's the other thread.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3314090-oh-promising-lifts-to-friends-using-my-car-as-he-doesn-t-have-one

He's just having a temper tantrum because he isn't getting his own way... leave him to it... have a quiet laugh to yourself at his ridiculousness and wait to see what trick he tries next!

Basically he is saying he is going ask my friend/ hairdresser who is single if her DC want to come and play / meet up with him and my DD!
Bare in mind she can not stand him!
This is how egotistical he is about himself!
And basically blaming me I need help etc etc !

Reads very much like:

I'm the only man that will ever love you. But as you have so many issues, I'm going to have a bash at the single hairdresser if you don't toe the party line.

Fuck him off. He is a dick.

Continue to ignore his calls. You do not have to speak to him. He is not your master and he cannot dictate when you are to take his calls. All of that waffle is irrelevant. If and when it is necessary to arrange time with the kids, he can email or text. Albeit more legible. He is huffing and puffing because he knows that you are changing and taking back control. Continue with that newfound attitude. You owe him zero justification. If he shows up at your door, don’t answer. He has absolutely no right to pester you.

Grey rock grey rock!

Ignore ignore ignore.

Until he sends you messages minus the abuse, id ignore and stop taking the bait.

Received another text ; stuff from house by the way has been here for ages and never took after been asked time and time again!

Listen ain ringing for u , i have alot to discuss about kids an we need to go amideation, to talk about kids an i need my own contact with the school ,an the kids money when i have them so i can decide what i feed them or do with them an also (DS sen) dla i will want half so can take him out etc ,i will provide all the receipts to show that it was spent on kids an not on me or me useing it to pay my bills , ill exspect the same from you , just want whats fair nothing else u have evarything else , dnt want to argue just want to be nice to each other work as a team for kids, its important we dnt curse each other infront of them ,even on a phone to anyone ,ill take (DD) swimming an (DS sen) y u sort (DD2) out tomoz , need to get stuff from hovse need it washing dnt have anything clean ,also protein , dnt hav no food,fags spent last my money on fishing.hope u sort urself out. Lets be nice 4 kids ok ,bY

Set up a dedicated email just for dealing with your Ex. Text him with this email address and tell him it for communications re the children only. Then block him on your phone.
If he continues to harass you report it to the police.
If you haven't already ring your insurance company and get him off your car insurance.
You can do this