Posted thread yesterday about EX using my car! Have received the texts now! Need all the MN advice please!

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So my lovely MN this is the text I received 5 mins ago for ignoring his 5 calls; EX does not even know any of DD & DS friends ever!
Please help on the perfect reply

(My name) its pathetic, u gna hav to talk to me, grow up was jus gna talk about kids, its stupid , oviously there somthing else going on , cant b assed with the childish games injoy ,who ever it is, when u decide to grow up ring me need stuff. Am not putting my life on hold anymre i did best , u hav to many issues an u cant adress any, u have just lost the man who loves u , sometimes people go on an on an pick faults with there loved ones ,then realise when they gone that they had it all an thats whats gna happen to u, i tried to help u but u cant do it u need to c someone about way u are from the past ,coz u cant c way u are, ring later about kids , an also am gna ask (my single hairdressers name)if her kids want to spend time with (DD) over 6 weeks , an (DS) friends as am gna move in my own home an get my life back an somone that apreciates me. U cant c who i am ur to messed up,i deserve to be happy ,ring at lunch 4 kids

I've just been reading your other thread. He is not worth any of your effort, continue to ignore his calls/texts and don't lend him your car!

dnt hav no food,fags spent last my money on fishing.hope u sort urself out.

Fucking lmao.. no money cause he spent it fishing and yet he's telling you to sort yourself out.. that one sentance is enough to tell you everything about him..

Reality is kicking in that you are not going to subsidise him any longer and he is starting to panic.

If you have to respond I would make it "I will drop DD off at yours at x time on Y date. She needs to be returned to me at z time" Then try to arrange it so that you are not there when he returns her and whoever is there will not allow him in.

He's not going to let you go easily as you have been his cash machine/mummy for so long but you can do this!!!

He isn't the boss of you.

You don't have to do what he says (even if it were possible to decipher those messages- it looks like a gorilla slammed his fist on the keyboard and pressed send).

Confused! Why have you started another thread about the same thing?

Weird.

How come he can spell receipt and protein, but almost no other word known to the English language?

Anyway.

I'd suggest you reply 'What time will you collect DD and DS tomorrow?'

He doesn't have any food because he spent his money on fishing? I guess he didn't catch anything.

DON'T ANSWER THAT, unless it's to do as Pp suggested and tell him all future communication will be by email and solely about the kids.

And in case it needs saying: DON'T GIVE HIM ANY MONEY, EVER. You don't owe him a goddamn thing.

Unless he has the kids over night then he's not entitled to a penny from you.

Do as Penfold suggests regarding the emails and insurance. Tell him to only use the email for contact with you and that he cannot use your car at all.

Just seen he wants half of the DLA, even though DC live with you, he won't have them overnight and you end up financially subsidising your ex as it is? He has a nerve doesn't he?

"Nu fone, who dis?"

As the kids say.

I know it's super tempting, but I would avoid any kind of snarky/cutting response. All that tells him is that he still has the power to get a rise out of you.

Detach, detach, detach. Email only, grey rock.

So this isn't much different to his last one - he's just trying a different angle - lets see how many angles he's got - it wont be many - but its all just empty words - he doesnt mean any of it so best not to answer. Buy yourself a new sim card as a treat and stick the number he has in an old phone and stuff him in a drawer and only look at it when YOU decide you want to.
Fill your day today with interesting things instead of the crap he spouts. Let go of the trouble he brings - its nothing to do with you anymore. Think about how often YOU'd like him to see the kids and ask them how often they would like to see him (without all the benefit of the things you used to pay them to do) and then tell him the new arrangements. He is no longer allowed in your home. He can collect the kids himself at the designated time (if he doesnt come on time go out with them instead) - he'll probably get fed up of putting in the effort needed to be a father and disappear but before that there will be a lot of game playing ridiculousness. You can do this op. There are true peaceful times for you ahead. Just keep going.

"Nu fone, who dis?"

^^ genius!!!

Maybe update the other thread with the update Op.

Be the grey rock suggested. Don’t engage!

There’s a saying: never argue with stupid people. They will drag you down to their level and then beat you with experience “ - Mark Twain.

hope u sort urself out.

Right back atcha mate!

But seriously: grey rock. Grey rock, rinse and repeat.

Again, ignore the second text. You are the primary care giver. He has zero right to demand any of the money for the kids. In fact, he needs to start coughing up his own money. And if that text should read mediation, then you don’t talk beforehand but wait and discuss stuff during that mediation to sort stuff like access and the fact that he ought to be paying towards the kids. He doesn’t get to have pocket and spending money from you for his own kids. He only just seen the kids yesterday, so ignore and spent time with them without his bollocks. He has no right to this shambolic ad-hoc access whenever it suits him but has to start respecting a proper schedule.

I wouldn’t even bother to engage with someone who writes like that. Ignore him.

Just send it back to him with spelling mistakes corrected and highlighted and a big shit eating smiley face at the end. Should get the message across nicely.

amideation I assume he means Mediation.

Just keep any responses about the kids. Short and factual.

Ignore ignore ignore

He’s spent his money on fishing and now wants you to buy him fags and food? Is he on drugs?! What a twat! As the dc are resident with you, then he is not entitled to any of the DLA.

Give him nothing.

I can't even bear to try to read that incomprehensible gibberish, but based on your first post on the other thread and other people's comments I gather that A) he's a lazy, good-for-nothing pillock, and B) you have no responsibility towards him at all. Ignore him. And tell him to use proper words. And get a job.

Can anyone explain grey rock to me please.

I replied on the last thread. Ignore!! He just wants to suck you back in.

Also, claim via CSA for maintenance.