AIBU to not move from this seat?

[Namechangerr2018]

Hi all, I’m a regular poster that’s nc because I don’t want people to find me irl.

So today I was traveling into work on the DLR and the front seat became available (you can see where this is going). I took my chance and sat there because it’s quite frankly fun.

Next stop a family gets on and the DS starts having a tantrum because he can’t sit there (bear in mind it’s getting really full up).

His DM asked if I could move but as my hip was hurting I replied that I could not as I can’t stand for long journeys.

WIBU?

The op had moved from her original seat to the one at the front.

I know, because I read the OP's posts. What's your point?

SnotGoblin Mon 23-Jul-18 11:34:06
I think I was on the carriage with you this morning and if so, the mum asked you to swap seats rather than give your seat up and in my opinion ywbu to refuse.

@WaxOnFeckOff

Just scrolled back and found the comment as you posted, yes it was @SnotGoblin.

I think I got confused because BackStabbath was saying OP's hips didn't cause a problem when she swapped seats. Or maybe that was someone else, I've totally lost track now!

Liverpool

I have literally no idea why I typed that! Good god! That's what happens when you read Mumsnet whilst trying to make tea! But also YANBU

Is anyone else wondering if the OP has made it home yet, and managed to sit in the front seat again on the return journey/

OP was polite and reasonable if in pain. DS's family if they had wished to give in to the tantrum could have got off and only had to wait a few minutes for the next DLR train.

Okay, it was me who was on the DLR and witnessed this scenario today. No idea of it was OP but seems odd that two curmudgeons would be reusing toddlers on the same day but the world is a strange place.

The woman I saw nimbly moved to the front seat in front of the boarding family leaving the toddler, younger than 4; more like 2 or 3 to whinge and declare that he couldn’t sit there now. It wasn’t s tantrum, just that annoying declaration of injustice from children too young to understand. The exasperated mother asked the woman in my scenario because she literally scurried in front of them and there was only one of her. If it is the OP, I imagine she felt moved to ask AIBU because the people on the other seat offered theirs and resolved the situations.

I am not the mother involved, though used to commute with two toddlers so the mother in this scenario has my full sympathy. There was no mention or evidence of hip problems in my scenario but regardless there were other seats.

I know, because I read the OP's posts. What's your point?

It’s anything you want it to be.

If it is the OP, I imagine she felt moved to ask AIBU because the people on the other seat offered theirs and resolved the situations.

So the kid got to drive the train after all and nobody was disappointed.

The End?

That’s about the sum of it.

@AnyaChristinaEmmanuellaJenkins the mother was totally BU to ask! What the fuck right does a four year old deserve to demand a specific seat? I hope you don't have children!

I’d give up my seat for a child, unless if they were kicking off and tantruming. This is the precise moment you don’t give in to their demands.

I keep having to check the date on this thread.

I am sure we had this exact same thread months ago. Even some of the responses I seem to remember.

OP glad you said no 👍🏻

but the kid wanted a fucking go at pretending to be train driver for 5 minutes

And it didn't happen and now he knows that you don't always get what you want within the millisecond that you want it.
It's a lesson that needs to be learned.

That's a well deserved and much needed learning curve for this over indulged child.. Which he obviously is if his mother felt such entitlement as to ask a complete stranger,who was already seated, and had no affinity whatever to this stranger's child to move seats to accommodate her child's whim.

There really is no other way to look at it.

It was A child but it was not HER child.

It is not the rest of the worlds duty to acquiesce to your children, and if you think it is then you are overly-entitled.

I keep having to check the date on this thread

I am sure we had this exact same thread months ago. Even some of the responses I seem to remember

There's been quite a few repeats of threads recently even down to the same replies.

If my gdd throws a tantrum the last thing she'll get from me is what she is tantruming for.

I thought it was one of those revival threads too. Not just the same subject, but uncannily similar. Odd.

If the child was having a tantrum no way I would move. That just reinforces that if they kick off well enough they get what they want and rewards bad behaviour. If a child was disappointed but accepted it then I would move (if there were other suitable seats) and make their day.

This thread reminds me of the poster who was annoyed that people didn't offer her child a seat on a train and then just kept bleating on saying 'just be kind people'.

I'm very kind thank you, too kind for my own good actually, but it's my opinion that people on an internet forum preaching to other people about kindness are actually inconsiderate twats in real life.

@ShumpaLumpa - too true! And how judgemental! I was just reading through and someone has called anyone agreeing with the OP and not giving up a seat as "fucking vile"! Talk about extreme.

If the child was having a tantrum no way I would move. That just reinforces that if they kick off well enough they get what they want and rewards bad behaviour

God I would move. In part from a totally selfish point of view as I don’t want to listen to a tantrumming child all journey