AIBUto think this is a disappointing anniversary present

[RoseandHarry]

Me and DH are married 2 years tomorrow. We have 1DS whose 7 months and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. We are off on holidays this evening and a bloody great fruit bouquet has just arrived as my anniversary gift. My DH explained he thought it would be better as we could take it away with us (we are driving) and flowers would get wasted. I'm really disappointed and think it's such an unromantic gift. I'm also dreading driving in a car on holiday with a grizzly baby and a basket full of rotting fruit !!!

That's a bit weird that he chose ransom photos! Was it buy two get two free?!

Why do you keep NCing?

@roseandharry That could be said for the earings too though 😉
Let it go and just hint next time.

Absolute scenes

I think if i'd received Tiffany earrings forgive DH any shite presents for about ... 24 months i recon

The photo thing - although 2 out of 4 were a miss i DO think that showed effort and thought.

Your DH has gained a few points off me after your updates OP

Like someone else said, what did you get him?

@GreatDuckCookery it's bloody MN doing it ! I started the thread on 'rose and Harry' but Mumsnet keeps defaulting back to by original name MN101!! Very sorry it must be confusing !!

I got us a voucher for lunch at a posh restaurant

You are not the only one with NC issues, it seems. Another thread looks like it happened to them as well

That's weird OP, how annoying for you. Have you emailed MNHQ?

That's a bit weird that he chose ransom photos! Crikey, that is a bit dark for a present!

I think he has tried to put some effort in and also has tried to come up with original ideas each time, shows he cares OP. Another one for freeze and enjoy lovely smoothies for the next month or so

We usually got out for a meal for our anniversary & don't really do presents as well as that is the present-for both of us, so anything else to me would just be a bonus.

I appreciate that Op put in the effort of choosing the place & booking, but it's not as if she didn't also "benefit".

Also, if it's family money, does it really matter if it cost more?

Some sectors of Mumsnet are fucking obsessed with fruit and it's unchallengeable brilliance. No wonder you are being told, nice gift. It's not. It's shite.

Also, don't you know that you supposed be grateful if your "fella" picks his nose and flicks it at you because it's the thought that counts and any other emotion is ungrateful and grabby.

I'd like to see the bloke who would think fruit was a great present, I don't bloody think so.

We don't do gifts but if DH bought me fruit, he'd have it suggested to him that he could eat it, preferably through his arse hole.

@OftenHangry there was nothing in particular I wanted. Just something to make me feel a little bit special I guess?

lol - You need presents to make you feel special.

SaltyPeanut

I'd never given fruit bouquets a great of (any!) thought until now. But now I think I'd be insulted if I got one

I think it’s quite sweet!!!

I'd quite like that. But if you don't, I guess your problem is that he doesn't know what you like. What did you get him?

I think it’s a nice gift!

What this man has done to you is emotional abuse. He is obviously a narcissist and you should LTB.

Joking of course Francine? You are, aren't you?

OP has answered loads of times what she got him. why can so many not read the thread? Yes she's namedchanged but no that hard to figure out!

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Just because lots of people would like fruit doesn't mean the OP has to like it.

I'm not that into fruit, and would be really disappointed in a gift like that. If the OP isn't big on fruit (and her DH presumably knows that because he lives with her), then it's not a suitable gift.

However, the other presents he got do sound thoughtful. 2 out of 4 photos being what the OP wanted is a pretty good success rate, and it shows personal effort (choosing the pictures, getting them printed etc). So on that basis, maybe the fruit was just a blip.

I would be disappointed with a fruit basket too! You can buy fruit anytime from the supermarket! I would have to tell him how I felt tbh.

Have you communicated to him that you'd like to feel more special/less like Mum? He might not understand the emotional value you're putting on the anniversary otherwise.

DH and I plan something together (usually a nice meal or a mini-break) and do away with presents. It means the expectations are all on the table and it's hard to disappoint.

FWIW, I'd be annoyed if DH got me Tiffany earrings as it's a bit generic (like googling 'what jewellery would my wife like) but we are all different!

My OH just told me that if he did that to me, he would expect to be wearing the fruit and there have been 'choice language' going on.