AIBUto think this is a disappointing anniversary present

[RoseandHarry]

Me and DH are married 2 years tomorrow. We have 1DS whose 7 months and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. We are off on holidays this evening and a bloody great fruit bouquet has just arrived as my anniversary gift. My DH explained he thought it would be better as we could take it away with us (we are driving) and flowers would get wasted. I'm really disappointed and think it's such an unromantic gift. I'm also dreading driving in a car on holiday with a grizzly baby and a basket full of rotting fruit !!!

Thanks Laiste, I missed that because the OP NC.

OP you've had a nice meal out as part of your gift. Stop moaning.

@OftenHangry there was nothing in particular I wanted. Just something to make me feel a little bit special I guess? It's just really so randomif I was a huge fruit fiend I could understand it more but I'm not! I can take it or leave it

Tell him to prep and freeze it himself. I'd be annoyed to

I can't believe that anyone would be this ungracious about a well-meant gift.

It's MN, a twig and a bit of dirt is considered thoughtful.

I’d give him a break at least he had give it some thought .

Yes, for him he gets to eat the gift. Flowers are hardly the only option, a book for her to read while he is the one driving would be also thoughtful. Didn't get her that though did he? The OP made is in the process of making a second human for them both in two years. Some effort would be nice.

Wow. Do people really give this much of a shit about receiving presents? You're not five years old, it's your wedding anniversary.

It's our 10th anniversary in a couple of weeks. We're having a meal. I don't expect a fucking present.

OP - There are some fucking weirdoes on here these days. Nice present my arse.

What does he expect to happen - him eat out at pubs all holiday, with the child, whilst the wifey sits in the car eating the fruit before it goes off?

Want continental breakfast by the beach dear?

No thanks I have a browning banana to finish off, and 200 blueberries are getting squishy and oh, I now have the shits so will be staying in all day.

He bought groceries, that's his gift.

he might as well have hoovered for her

Sorry you're disappointed. I get like this - and I haven't been pregnant for over a decade so I have no excuse. I once was inconsolable after DH bought me a set of WeightWatchers cook books for my birthday, which I translated to mean: "Get your fat arse in the kitchen and cook my tea."

Chop the fruit up, violently, and imagine it's him. 👍🏻

If even you don't know what you wanted, how could he?
He probably thought it would be lovely, unusual and considering you are pregnant even healthier than a box of chocolates.
Next year, give him a nice hints if you will know what you fancy.
I have to admit, I am on his side, because I send my mum chocolate covered fruit bouquet every birthday. She hates cut flowets and can't fit anymore live ones into hers. 😁

Don't be ridiculous Tellseveryone. The fruit will be ok for a few days and I'm guessing the DH didn't expect his wife to be eating it while he's dining out!

Eurgh. I'm out. This kind of 'my present wasn't perfect' stuff and a thread on MN to whip up support for being really quite unpleasant about someone trying to do a nice thing is fairly grating.

Enjoy your holiday OP.

It's our 10th anniversary in a couple of weeks. We're having a meal. I don't expect a fucking present.

You don't want a present, just a medal I see.

Also, married 10 years. Don't expect a gift, we've gone beyond that and have fuck all time for such niceties. Would have been really disappointed if we had both given up two years in though. Clearly to the Op, presents are nice. So what? maybe your dh shows affection better/ differently more in general, you have no idea. But no need to be so bloody rude.

I personally wouldn't like it BUT he's really thought about it which is sweet

From the reactions here (wow, aren't some of you angry creatures) I guess some don't know how these bouquets look.
I would be happy to get that

Don't be ridiculous Tellseveryone. The fruit will be ok for a few days and I'm guessing the DH didn't expect his wife to be eating it while he's dining out!

If she is eating out with him, who is eating this fruit as it starts to rot in the back of the car then?

Are anniversary presents even a thing? After two years?

Op bought them food to share, he bought them food to share.

I would be happy to get that

I am sure if you send the OP your address, the manky basket can be yours for the price of the additional postage. Lucky you.

Fruit isn't eaten as a meal! It's just something to snack on. Do you really think the H bought it for the OP to eat while he goes out for food? Really.

I think OP's DH has put thought into it and it's a lovely gesture, even if the guest itself is a little odd. I'm sure you'll all enjoy eating the fruit, OP.

He probably thought it would be lovely, unusual and considering you are pregnant even healthier than a box of chocolates

So there pregnant lady! You don't even get chocolates, have these groceries! Maybe he should have got her some Folic acid!

I have to admit, I am on his side, because I send my mum chocolate covered fruit bouquet every birthday. She hates cut flowets and can't fit anymore live ones into hers.

Mother and sexual life partner should maybe get slightly different gifts? Dunno. Also re your mother flowers are not actually the only option.

Women do not only like flowers.

GreatDuckCookery - Don't be ridiculous Tellseveryone. The fruit will be ok for a few days and I'm guessing the DH didn't expect his wife to be eating it while he's dining out!

This made me laugh

However - i have to remain in the ''i'd be peeved camp too''. See - posters are talking about thought and effort with this present, but i'm not sure there's any more ''effort'' or thought involved with this fruit any more than there would have been with the ubiquitous bunch of flowers.

I'm guessing he bought the fruit online and got it delivered, not cruised round M&S himself carefully picking out unusual and perfect fruit specimens before arranging it beautifully himself?

Posters thinking he gets kudos for managing to remember at all, and that they're going on holiday! Men really get the bar set low on here sometimes.

In the end it's not the end of the world of course. Presents don't make a marriage.

Are anniversary presents even a thing? After two years

Unless you have literally no friends, and this is your first time on the internet, you know that anniversary presents are a thing.

Fruit isn't eaten as a meal! It's just something to snack on. Do you really think the H bought it for the OP to eat while he goes out for food? Really.

I literally have no idea why he bought a basket of fruit to take on holiday...

I'd love a fruit basket (and I hate getting flowers when I'm about to go away so am with your DH).

Off to drop some hints to my DH - not that we actually bother with anniversary gifts most years, so anything we do get is considered a bonus!