AIBUto think this is a disappointing anniversary present

[RoseandHarry]

Me and DH are married 2 years tomorrow. We have 1DS whose 7 months and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. We are off on holidays this evening and a bloody great fruit bouquet has just arrived as my anniversary gift. My DH explained he thought it would be better as we could take it away with us (we are driving) and flowers would get wasted. I'm really disappointed and think it's such an unromantic gift. I'm also dreading driving in a car on holiday with a grizzly baby and a basket full of rotting fruit !!!

YAbu, chocolate would have melted, flowers wilted and alcohol wouldn’t be fair at the moment so I think it’s quite thoughtful really.
Can you take some almond oil and get him to massage your feet when you’re settled in the rooms. Send him out to buy sorbet from the nearest Waitrose?

When I first met my DH (1985!) he inadvertently created high expectations over a gift he gave me. We had been together for a few months when I was going away over Christmas with a friend. He dropped me at the airport and gave me a small box as a Christmas present to open on Christmas Day. In the first 10 days of the holiday before 25th December arrived, my friend & I speculated about what was in the box and she kept saying, "I bet it's jewellery" because it was the right sort of box. The sensible part of me felt it was too early for such a gift but I secretly hoped it was....

With great anticipation we opened it on Christmas Day - it was a funny little pewter elephant sitting under a palm tree and we almost wet ourselves laughing.

Many years later told him the story of the speculation he had caused. He was horrified because it had never occurred to him it looked like something that might contain jewellery!

He has given me many lovely pieces of jewellery in the 30 years we have been married.

Dice it up, freeze it, some can go in your wine the rest could be kept in a cooler frozen and be eaten later lol. We love our fruit and always pack some on a holiday.

He made a mistake this time. Thought outside the box and got it wrong, but I don't think it deserves the venom behind some of the comments. It was probably the right gift but at the wrong time. How long have you known each other? My wife and I so often postpone our anniversaries because with the kids are ill, or one of us is ill or broke. It was a thoughtful gift for he loves you enough to want children with you, he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he married you and buys you gifts. It's only your second anniversary and to be honest if you can laugh together over the silly, daft things that happen in a relationship you're going to have a great time.

You won't forget it..

if you can laugh together over the silly, daft things that happen in a relationship you're going to have a great time

This!

The pewter elephant is the stuff of family legend - I'm looking at it right now and our 3 DDs have laughed at the story too

My DSIL is like this. No present bought for her is ever quite right . Yet bizarrely every present she buys has to be wildly appreciated as she explains just why you like it.

I think it's nice that he has thought about it. He is right - flowers would be pointless.

I've just had my tenth anniversary. I felt like this was a reasonably special occasion.

I didn't get anything except a card!

Hmmm... I think this is thoughtful. Perhaps you’re a bit hormonal

I think it’s pretty sweet actually, YABU

I just asked my wife....her reply was “if you got me that you’d wake up and I’d be gone on holiday and left you with the fruit basket and the child!!” YANBU

The op is expected to be grateful for a pile of fruit?! I'd be cross. It shows no thought whatsoever. And it's a colossal waste of money!

Maybe you could of made a light hearted joke about the fruit. & say that you were expecting a romantic present. I hope you don’t let it spoil your holiday.

It sounds boring but he put thought into it. Maybe he will also treat you to something on holiday and wonder if the holiday is part of your anniversary

My husband passed away unexpectedly in March just gone. I know men aren't good at presents. Just be glad he is here to give you a bowl of fruit as unromantic as it is

Very sad for you Keffie.
but your loss does not mean that everyone else should be grateful for poor levels of behaviour from their own husbands.

Best wishes to you Keffie
In earlier days I had a cartier ring ( one of the less expensive ones ) and I bought DH a piano ( again not fabulous - indeed the tuner called it a honkey tonk piano - so rubbish - we binned it rather than pay for it to be be moved from one house to another) Once children - he gets a home made card and we eat out occasionally. I am not sure huge anniversary presents are the norm - but maybe jaded after nearly a quarter of a century & indeed just out of step with current mores.

did he perhaps think this was a really thoughtful pressie.if he did actually put thought into it and wanted to be good and kind and thoughtful then think hes a plonker but a sweet one.
thres a big difference between trying to do the best and being a lazy slob picking total inappropriate pressie because he doesn't give a crap

I had three Christmas parcels to open from dp, all in jewellery-looking boxes. One was a scarf ring, never use them. The second was another scarf ring, different pattern. Guess what the third one was. Yep.

YABU. Flowers and fruit, get over it. It is your gift (be nice), but his ideas (bit daft) about what to do with it. Say you are grateful but are a bit too busy to deal with it and hand it back to him to deal with. He was a bit of a chump to choose flowers and fruit before a holiday drive, so he will learn this if he has to deal with it. Men respond well to empowerment !!!

I really don't understand people not thinking this is a nice gift?!

I really don't understand people not thinking this is a nice gift?!

i really don't understand people thinking this is a nice gift.

Now, a fruit tree - yes.

But a basket of fruit? Would you also like a tub of washing powder? Or any other groceries with the addition of a ribbon?

Even worse one that I have to lug around on a driving holiday?

@RoseandHarry Well I'd be pissed off but I wouldn't post it on AIBU, I'd just tell him straight! Tell him the kind of thing you'd have liked to receive. BTW what did you get him??

Last anniversary he got me a handmade teapot. It might sound naff but it was so thoughtful because I make a pot of tea every morning and sit in the garden drinking it.

I bought my husband a beautiful handmade silver bracelet which was engraved with a message. It made him cry and he wears it every day. If you want to be spoiled you better learn to spoil him too.

Oh yeah, washing powder is the same as a hand-crafted fruit basket.