To just want my DH to answer the question he's been asked?

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This drives me mad.

Just now he said there was no melon left. I said "who ate it?" He replied "there were only three pieces left."

He does this all the time. I ask a question and he answers a completely different one.

How can I make him stop? Does anyone else's DH do this?

This is my dh! Driving into town last Saturday dd asked where are we parking? His answer? "We're parking for free"

Interesting that some people think it’s my fault for wanting to know who ate it.

I wanted to know because it was my son’s and I wondered if he’d eaten it or if his sister had.

Dh had actually binned it.

But it happens all the time.

“When are we visiting your cousin”

“She lives in Cornwall”

“Are you taking dd to school today or am I?”

“She’s eaten her breakfast”

It is infuriating and yes as a previous poster said it makes him sound thick.

There are plenty of reasons to ask who ate it - if it was kids, then you can happily not bother to try and feed them any more fruit/investigate where they might have left the peel/ensure that the one who ate it doesn't tell the other that they have had melon until you can get another one to avoid a row.

Either way, if the OP's husband wanted to know why she was asking, he could have said 'Why do you ask?' rather than just not answering.

Cross post there OP, but glad that it's not just me that has to check these things to ensure that sibling harmony can be preserved!

I'm with your DH - you know who has eaten the melon, it doesn't need to be verbally expressed and he's justified why its been eaten therefore cutting the nagging conversation in half.

I get annoyed the opposite way, I'll say something knowing perfectly well that DH knows what I'm talking about and then he'll ask me to explain it. WHY?

My DP does this, I always assume the worst/ what suits me, he'll clarify at that point as he realises his error.

It doesn't annoy me though so a bit different.

But I didn’t know who had eaten it. I knew I hadn’t. But any one of three people could have eaten it.

It’s so weird how many of you think I’m wrong for even wanting to know!

The thread is not about melon or the lack thereof!

Slightly different but when I ask DP a question he often repeats it back to me before answering. It frustrates the shit out of me. He hates being wrong about anything so I think he does it to buy time so he can think about his answer first. Not entirely sure how much of a difference a few seconds makes though.

My boyfriend does this and just reading this has given me the rage.

Oh that is annoying! My DM occasionally does this, but we gently teased her about it and she now catches herself doing it and will stop and answer the question that you asked.

My favourite example was talking about an old school friend who I could barely remember.

Me: Did they used to live on the next street over?

DM: no, he's dyslexic

Oh yeah mum, we want none of those lousy spellers in this neighbourhood!

I'm with your DH - you know who has eaten the melon, it doesn't need to be verbally expressed and he's justified why its been eaten therefore cutting the nagging conversation in half.

Yes, as you've realised by reading the cross-post, you've have assumed you have a psychic ability to determine the reason behind the question, and arrogantly answered based on what you thought the person wanted to know, rather than taking them at face value. That's why you, him and my wife, who also does this, are so bloody annoying.

Ahhh yes my DP does this to me all the time. Never answers the straight forward question, always beats around the Bush and give random answers, usually indicates he's lying. Drives me bloody mad.

If only we knew all their annoying habits before we married them 😂😂

Oh god my mum does this!! She also doesn't send 'proper' messages. Instead of "Can I [something something] ?" I get: "is to be [something something?]" and similar. It drives me absolutely batshit.

Op my DP does this and it drives me insane

I find now I just keep repeating the question until the actual answer comes....

It's making me worse than him

My DH does this and it is so fecking annoying.

He is anticipating what he thinks I need to know and answering that question rather than answering the question I actually ask.

I wish I could think of an example.

I've tried asking the same question over and over again, though increasingly gritted teeth. After three or four attempts, DW usually loses her rag with me. She somehow manages to understand that I'm not satisfied with her answer, to what is usually a very simple and straight-forward and uncontroversial question, but can't work out that it's because she has hasn't answered it.

My dh does this. Also, I get really long winded answers I never asked for, so boring. He’s turning into his dad.

Yes, he’s privately educated 🙄 ffs, just give me an answer!

I do this sometimes, it's because I'm sometimes already at where the next line of conversation will go. As in "it's obvious I ate them..." "but in my defence there was only 3 bits left". I just fail to say the "obvious I ate them" part of the conversation. It makes sense to me!

DP Boarding school educated also. Is this a thing then.

how annoying!
If you slightly change the way you word the question would it help?

In one word answer, Who ate the melon? And stare at him with a flashlight.

It's fruitless to ask him.

That's a really good one!

Only on mumsnet could the OP be wrong for wanting to know who ate the melon

At least it's not "whatever you want" or "it's up to you". I'm ready to fucking murder my husband if he says either one again. NO ITS NOT FUCKING UP TO ME I'M ASKING YOU TO MAKE A DECISION BECAUSE I END UP MAKING ALL OF THEM ALREADY YOU BLITHERING TWUNT.

I love him really

OP, just throwing it out there... maybe they had a piece each 😁