To complain about TA comment

[dungandbother]

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

Wow, I really hope this is a hairy-handed interloper because if OP is for real, I dread to think just how delicate her little snowflakes are...

You are right. This is outrageous.

It must be tiring being so outraged all the time at minor things.

Good luck to the teachers of secondary school your child will be attending.

You really are ' that ' parent. Unbelievable. I feel very sorry for the teachers in your child's up coming secondary school.

Absolutely. Write to the chair of governors, the local paper and OFSTED. She should be sacked.

Also if it were from another child no it would not be bullying. Bullying is repeated. Look up the definition if you don't understand what i'm saying. This has never happened before and won't happen again as she is leaving. It pisses me off that you label it as such, you clearly haven't got a clue what you're talking about.

Get a grip and be prepared for much worse when your special snowflake heads off to secondary school.

Let it go. There's a song in there somewhere.

She's got one more day in the entire school - not just in that class, with that TA, but in the entire school. Has she been well served by the rest of her 7 years in primary? Perhaps focus on that.

I think you should refrain from your letter writing as going by this you will be doing a whole lot more of it once DD is in High School!!!

If it were another child saying it then it would be clear and simple bullying.

Well yes - because another child isn't in a position of authority over your child and has no right to enforce any rules. But a TA is a figure of authority and does have that right.

I think you're being a bit precious, and so is your DD. Kids are forever being told to pull up their socks and tie up their hair and tuck in their shirts and unroll their skirts and straighten their ties and all manner of other things that are part of a school's general investment in keeping them look presentable. This is just an example of that - it isn't bullying, and you can't raise your daughter to believe that every time she is told to do anything by an authority figure she is being bullied. Teach her instead to have some resilience about the petty annoyances of every day life.

Oh yes and another child telling another child "take that shirt out of your shorts, it looks weird"? Definitely, definitively NOT bullying.

OP I don't understand some of these responses my 7 yo DD gets very upset about her waste band on her stomach (She takes medication which makes her bloat).

I wouldn't be happy if looking right took precedent over comfort either

*waist!

Is this a joke?

Ah, MNers love to jump on the bandwagon.

Teachers are supposed to be supportive and nurturing. They have a job to do and of course should talk to students if their behaviour is preventing them from doing their job, but it doesn’t sound like that was the case here. It sounds like an unpleasant adult embarrassed a young girl in front of her classmates for no reason at all. It would be reasonable to complain in my opinion, but be prepared to be labeled “that mum” as has happened here.

Wow
You sound rather unpleasant and aggressive and entitled

OP I don't understand some of these responses my 7 yo DD gets very upset about her waste band on her stomach (She takes medication which makes her bloat).

A teacher would know that they wouldn't they? A child with medical issues would have a care plan and allowances would be made.

I understand why you might not be happy with the situation, and feel you're getting unfair treatment on this thread, but it doesn't warrant a complaint. Instead I'd use it as an opportunity to discuss with your daughter the best way she could have politely stood up for herself.

The TA had no right to tell your kid she didn't 'look right'. People need to be mindful of the words they use, words can and do have a harmful impact. Telling a girl that she doesn't 'look right' could lead to problems for the child. TA needs retraining with regards to how to communicate with children.

Bloody Hell, the school won’t miss you

It sounds like an unpleasant adult embarrassed a young girl in front of her classmates for no reason at all

This is what I don't get.

I would like to know what "doesn't look right"

On a girl

With a tucked in t shirt ( they have to tuck shirts in don't they what's different )

In a pe kit visible to no one but the other kids in the hall/field

With legs covered in grass stains

Or filthy feet from the hall floor

Where kids where oversized designated supplier or tops

What doesn't look right and why

because it didn't look right.

because you don't look right.

Which is it?

TA said It didn’t look right not the daughter didn’t look right
MsBagelLady
There is a difference

Get over it.

You’re being a drama queen. Feel free to complain, the staff room always needs something to gossip and laugh about.

Your child is going to have a very hard life as an adult if you carry on being this hysterical over the smallest of perceived slights to her. If this is actually real think about what messages you are giving her.