To complain about TA comment

[dungandbother]

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

@dungandbother what a horrible and vindictive behaviour from those girls.

There we go! Bet the other mothers are all having a sly giggle too.

It disgusts me that this happened.

Good for the girls. I doubt the "tucking in" incident was isolated. I suspect the TA was universally disliked and the class voted with their scissors. I hope the pile of photos makes the TA think about her attitude to young people that look to her for guidance.

If this thread is anything to go by it won’t, pretty clear teachers think teaching staff can do no wrong and that children are bitches if they reach the end of their tether.

Cutting out someone’s photo and leaving it in a pile is pretty repulsive.

I just asked DD, "In PE, at your school, are PE t-shirts tucked in or out, and does your PE teacher care?" She answered, "Meh." Very sensible, imo.

I've just spoken to my DH(who is a headteacher of a secondary school) and he says that this 'cutting out' incident would result in at least a week's exclusion at his place.

Not as repulsive as adults calling primary school children bitches.

How could it result in a week's exclusion when those responsible have left the school?

Interesting that there is an assumption that the children who did this were 'bitches', as the OP didn't specify that they were all girls, some of them may have been boys for all you know.

Obviously it wasn't good behaviour, and I would be annoyed if one of my DDs did it, not least because these photos cost money, but the question does need to be asked why the children felt that way. It's not something that schoolchildren do often, is it, as they're mostly proud of their school photos, I can speak for my DDs. And even more so as it was the last class photo before changing schools. It sounds to me like this TA had been bullying them and this was their way of getting back at her.

Let's not pretend that teachers are never guilty of being bullies, though some Mumsnetters find that hard to believe. I don't, as I suffered abuse at the hands of nuns at the convent school I went to. (I wasn't the only one.) There are teachers who are bullies, same as there are bullies in all walks of life.

It's not as black and white as some of you would like to think.

The kids must have really disliked the TA to do what they did. They obviously feel like this TA has treated them unfairly. Maybe if this unfair treatment would have been sorted at the time it happened, by parents going in, then it wouldn't have resulted in the kids doing this.

Lizzie has it.
Not the girls.

And the photos were gifts from school so no parental cost input.

But cost to the school ?

So what does QueenoftheSilverDollar12 call nasty boys?

And boy are they in for a shock at secondary school!

I have read this a few times on threads. We've never had any issues at our sons secondary like this, yet there were at primary. I have found the teachers treat the kids with respect at secondary, more so than primary. My sons friends and parents agree.

Wee shites @JuliaSevern. HTH

Bitches sounds quite a bit nastier though.

QueenoftheSilverDollar12

I think calling them names is a bit much. People have disagreed on here but that's too much.

Well, cos it’s hot and I can’t sleep I’ve just read through all of that.
Am gobsmacked.

Year 6 kids cutting the TA out of the photo and gleefully leaving it on the classroom floor is horrible.
If you’ve got a problem other than her telling your daughter to untuck her games top then you should have had an appropriate word.
That poor woman

Darling,you are going to have to learn to pick your battles as your kid/kids grow up.
Let me reassure you,this is not even remotely a battle.