To complain about TA comment

[dungandbother]

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

OMG stop the world I want to get off!

OP stop lying and changing your story to try and get everyone on your side. What DID the TA actually say? Most have said YABU - but you seem to persist. I mean, surely you will do what you like - why post on here if you are already set in your way?

Your daughter wont last a minute in her new school if her mother is going to complain about every 'sharp' telling off.

Many of the posters do not know the difference between a teacher ( graduate and trained to teach) and a TA (stands for teaching assistant - no qualification except breathing in and out needed).

Firstly, how rude. Secondly, what does the qualification level of a TA have to do with this?

teacher22 I will mention to my daughter's TA that she is unqualified and only breaths in and out while she carb counts, finger pricks, injects, deals with hypos while not getting paid any extra and generally keeps my daughter safe in school!! Oh and she has been on hospital courses to be trained on how to deal with her diabetes!! She goes above and beyond so i find your comment a bit shitty to be honest!!

@dungandbother assuming yesterday was DDs last day, what did you decide to do in the end ?

The OP isn't going to reply to any of you, you're all wasting your time continuing to tell her off. She will have hidden this thread.

I wonder why @Lizzie48? She's been way off the mark here, been told that by the vast majority and is still refusing to accept it....bizarre.

Very clearly a troll. I am a TA and have quite a few qualifications to do with the job!

My post above was aimed at @teacher22

But that's just it, she isn't doing that anymore, her last post was on Thursday. And it's hardly bizarre, it's what a lot of OPs do on here. What is bizarre is you all continuing to pile in to attack a now non-existent OP. That's one of the bizarre things about AIBU, what's the point???

@Teacher22 fuck off. For your benefit I'm assuming you're a troll because I feel sorry for any RL TA that supports you. What a shitty attitude you have.

Wow. Teacher22
I regularly found myself more qualified than some of the Teachers l worked with, particularly in Autism and Challenging Behaviour. Particularly those with the old Cert Eds. I think the issue with this TA is her personality. There is a problem in some schools, particularly Acadamies, paying very low lates and employing unqualified staff but whatever the qualifications, it needs certain qualities in addition to experience etc to be a good TA.

Academies*

It‘s parents like you who are responsible for the recruitment crisis in schools. Are you sure you‘re mature enough to bring up your daughter?

Smudge parents who don’t complain but ponder incidents on MN are responsible for the recruitment crisis in school? How d’you work that out? Because of course you’ve read that the OP hasn’t complained about this and actually said in the whole of her DD’s time at primary she’s never complained about anything. So I really don’t get how you can blame parents who don’t complain for that. But you can console yourself that you’re not the only person to have made that (and various other) leaps on this thread.

There are TA's who are wonderful, nurturing and to be treasured and others who love picking on kids and gaslighting them. Let it go and let the other parents deal with her when it's their turn. Funnily enough it's not important until it happens to your own. Enjoy your summer.

I'm with you. I wouldn't bother complaining (unless the person does this sort of thing frequently) but I'd deffo say to my child that it doesn't matter if they have their PE kit tucked in or not, so that they didn't end up feeling weird for doing something completely reasonable with their clothes.

This is outrageous. This is contagious.

an outbreak of forced tucking.

people who'd go in and complain...if you go and and say 'I am outraged/fuming/appallled because the TA told my daughter to untuck her shirt as it didn't look right' and the teacher/TA/HT replies 'That's correct. Her shirt didn't look right because of sensible reason x, y, z.' What do you say next???

But they wouldn't be able to give a sensible reason, that's the whole point. There is absolutely no reason why it was a problem for the child to have her tshirt tucked in.

Anyway, the OP decided not to complain. Posters come on here to vent and once they've done that, they move on. The thread then goes on with other posters continuing to lecture them thinking their opinion is oh so important.

The term has ended and it's the weekend, so I suspect that she's very likely hidden the thread and forgotten about it.

@Lizzie48 I don't recall the op saying she decided not to complain did she ?

Having looked through the thread, no I admit she didn't say she wouldn't, but she hadn't when she last posted on Thursday, so she probably didn't. She would have had to do it on the last day of term, and I would guess she probably didn't bother.

She might actually have updated you to actually confirm one way or the other, if you hadn't all been so ridiculously OTT. But you won't now.

You need to get a stack of paper and at least 100 pens ready for when she goes to secondary as you’ll be complaining pretty much every day 😂😂

It’s because of parents like the OP that teachers and teaching stuff are constantly leaving the profession ... parents like this just looking for any excuse to make a complaint instead of helping their kids to be resilient and prepare for life, it’s always the others fault but not their children.