To complain about TA comment

[dungandbother]

Dd was told off by a (strict) TA to untuck her PE T-shirt because it didn't look right.

I am outraged that she would comment on the appearance of a child and how they choose to wear their PE kit.
Yr 6 if it matters.

DD always tucks her shirt in because she doesn't like the feel of the waistband on her skin - no matter which uniform she's wearing.

Should I write and complain ?

NDH1980,thanks for reply. What would the chat to the mum comprise of?

If it was me, it’d be lighthearted and telling her that she needs to be less sensitive

Yes, I think that’d be helpful

Presumably said child has been wearing her PE kit this way throughout school and has never been told to untuck?
Also, I’d presume the issue OP had was not so much with the request (reasonable) but with the way it was requested (unreasonable). If she was over harsh I’d consider making comment, but not complain in writing. After all, children learn from what they experience. It seems an overreaction to automatically harshly tell off someone at the first instance than ask them nicely to do something. I equally wouldn’t want to bring my child up to think they have to just roll over and accept rude behaviour so it’s an interesting one.

If the TA didn’t already have a reputation for being overly harsh and strict I’d perhaps tell my child “oh, I’m sorry that happened, perhaps they were having a bad day” but this just sounds like this is normal behaviour for her. And to be honest, doesn’t sound like the actions of someone who really ought to be a TA 🤷‍♀️

If someone told me I didn't look right I'd tell them to F right off it's none of their business.
Why should a teacher say that to a child ?

I often see girls in secondary school wearing skirts so short (J.Marsh belt would cover more ) that I doubt they ever bend at school. They look ridiculous and I wished the teachers did tell them off.

Gosh you are at the end of year 6 . Have you not learnt to let the small stuff go ?

We entrust our children to these teachers . They try bloody hard to manage a class of over 30 children usually with some children with additional needs. Sometimes they don’t phrase things perfectly . Do you op ?

My Ds , yr 6 . I went in to thank him for all the hard work he had done and the Ta.

I don’t think parents shouldn’t complain however I see no reason in this case

That's terrible and certainly not the place for anyone other than a parent to decide.

What does the uniform policy say ?

Just out of interest does she have sen of any kind as I know that sometimes kids with sen don't like the feel of clothes against their skin too ? I'd complain if it was this x^

No, Pengggwn she didn't apologise and I think half the staff would have beaten her to death if she had even considered it. Nonetheless she had to talk to the Head as raving mother was in there demanding everything from apologies to compensation. Head dealt with it and sent mother packing but it's really not pleasant to have a situation blown up over absolutely nothing at all, and just sums up how some parents behave. Half the time they haven't got a life at all and need to make a huge drama out of the most trivial item to somehow justify their existence. In truth 99% of the parents at the school are great; we work together for the best outcome for the children As ever in life it's just 'the element' who need to grow up themselves!

You're never going to build up your child's resilience (the best gift you can give them btw) if you interfere in tiny issues like this.

Maybe her tshirt tucked in did look ridiculous. It could have been all bunched up and bulging looking very unslightly.
Yes it may have not been nice to have ‘barked’ it at her that’s if she did. I sure as heck had Teachers yell at me for minuscule things at school and would have a whinge about them to my classmates but wouldn’t expect my mum to come all guns blazing down the school complaining. Not would she have done. You can’t wrap kids in cotton wool forever.

Where do you live? Is your child going to a mainstream secondary school?

FFS. Grow up. Your child has no hope of survival otherwise. It gets much worse. Pick your battles.

I think it's a good idea to tuck you top in as if you were going to do a handstand for example you top would not expose your bra/vest thus being more modest. My daughter attends an independent school and if a TA had said this to her in yr 6 I would have kicked off but then I'm a paying customer. Having worked as a TA in state schoolsI would say it is out of order to say what they did. It belittled your child which is not on.

I find this thread extraordinary. Many of the posters do not know the difference between a teacher ( graduate and trained to teach) and a TA (stands for teaching assistant - no qualification except breathing in and out needed).

Money talks then Ray Bay?

Teacher22 - I’m not remotely impressed with your comment about a TA .. clearly you haven’t got a clue about the input that many individuals add to services .
Poster : I think you need to get a grip and loosen up . Don’t model this to ur daughter, otherwise you both are in for a lot of upset .

‘Tis a worry to see the fashion police win over practically or comfort in a PE lesson. I don’t think ywbu to mention something to the someone in the school that you trust - though frankly I wouldn’t put it in writing

This is such a non-issue. Choose your battles. This isn’t one.

Teacher22

I don't believe for a second that you are a teacher.

If you were you would understand that TAs are trained and qualified and are highly valued by the teachers they work with.

Signed An Actual Teacher

Oh Ffs. What job do you actually do in a school OP???

I'm still not getting this. The people who'd go in and complain...if you go and and say 'I am outraged/fuming/appallled because the TA told my daughter to untuck her shirt as it didn't look right' and the teacher/TA/HT replies 'That's correct. Her shirt didn't look right because of sensible reason x, y, z.' What do you say next???

God I hope this was a joke thread. Because if you'd seriously waste the school's time complaining about something this minor, you'll be the laughing stock.