AIBU - wasteful husband in holiday

[trinity0097]

We are in holiday, only DH has got drinks. At breakfast everything is a buffet, other than hot drinks, which they take an order for at the table. He always just asks for coffee. They bring a flask of coffee and a jug of milk. He only ever has black coffee. The milk goes to waste. He gets annoyed if I asked him to only ask for black coffee so that they don’t waste the jug of milk.

Am I being unreasonable, after 9 days to be able to expect him to do this, rather than me having to intervene and ask for black coffee only? He only has to say ‘black coffee please’ rather than ‘coffee please’ - it’s not onerous!

Wow

Poor DH, you sound like very hard work.

I’d feel a bit ‘put upon’ if I my husband made this into a ‘thing’ on our holidays.

This is one of the pettiest complaints I've seen on here, and that is really saying something. You're on holiday FFS! Relax!

Why don't you just use the milk for something?

Total non issue! Why does this even bother you? You are on holiday so relax!

Is there some back story here about other stuff he is doing?

@edwinbear

I think YOU should post in AIBU.

AIBU it should my husband pull his weight with the kids so I can enjoy my holiday too?

You are on holiday and you are moaning about this.

You don't need to intervene at all. There will be loads of waste anyway. Load of people won't use all their milk.

Do you feel the need to intervene and tell them to ask for less milk?

Surely they just reheat the milk again for the next person - where does the OP say it's hot milk?

But yes, this would annoy me. It is wasteful. And unnecessary. The milk could be used in the kitchen or something else.

Edwinbear your dh is a twat. And so are you for facilitating it. Do something, say something. Don't let this go on, and silently scream inside.

Oh, chill out fgs!

where does the OP say it's hot milk?
I think milk should always be served hot for coffee?

If it's not hot milk (and I disagree milk should always be hot for coffee) it will definitely get used for someone else. So no waste.

edwinbear that’s exactly how it works on our holidays too.

God, just thinking about it winds me up 😡

If I let the kids get their own without any supervision, they would either drop their plates or live on chips alone for a week!

As far as petty annoyances go in relationships I can see why you're fed up with it. But strip it all back and look at how silly it is to get annoyed about it. Enjoy your holiday, save your squabbles for when you get home 😉

I’m with you OP. I always ask for black coffee, no milk no sugar because I get sad for the wasted milk.

I’m more amazed by the posters who would reuse milk that’s been sat out though.

Try to let it go though, it’s silly to let something so small annoy you so much. It probably adds up to less than two pints anyway. Which is a drop in the ocean of milk wastage.

happypoobum has it.

DS at AI breakfast: 3,654 mini sausages, beans and the milk supposed to go in my coffee

DH at AI breakfast: I’ll have tea (then exclaims daily about how weak it is)

Me at AI breakfast: daydreaming from behind piles of mini croissants that this is the entire point of an AI breakfast that I have no more input on whether to shovel in the apple or chocolate one next.

Seriously your on holiday and posting on mumsnet about this? FFS just go and enjoy your holiday

What an absolute non-issue.

Leave him alone and get on with your own breakfast. Why are you so het up over nothing.

I’m more amazed by the posters who would reuse milk that’s been sat out though.

How would you know? Loads of places do it. Take the milk of the table, put it Back in the kitchen/fridge. Then get it out for someone else. It's not great but 100% happens.

If my husband 'intervened' when I ordered something I'd tell him to fuck off.

You sound stressed and close to the edge OP. I think you might need a holiday. Oh.

In all seriousness, this isn't really about milk is it?

Jeez after 'milkgate' you're gonna need another holiday!!!

Oh god, some people really find a way to make other people miserable about nothing.. if you think it is reasonable to ruin the breakfast of your husband every morning over 30ml of milk, is justified, there may be other issues behind.

Someone once told me that when relationships are about to end, everything that the other does annoys you, from what they say to the way they hold a spoon.

Time to have a good look into your relationship? You are getting to a level of control that is not healthy and that your husband may, in time, finding asphyxiating.

Another thread where I think can’t believe what some women put up with from their other halves! Not talking about the milk issue.

@edwinbear - why do you allow that to happen?