To be topless around the kids pool?

[WaitrosePigeon]

Backstory...

On holiday at an all inclusive hotel with kids club etc. Got some tan lines from my bikini so this afternoon took the bikini top off to try and sort them out. DH comes over and says it is inappropriate near the kids pool. I said that he had his top off so why couldn’t I. He said because I was female.

I didn’t put the bikini top back on but is it inappropriate? It’s just boobs?

Yes I’m so stupid with a degree in nursing working in a busy A+E department possibly looking after you or your children one day

Even though each time I kept a hat over my face, if someone wanted to take a picture of me and put it online that would be their responsibility and their shame and their low morals - not mine. Let’s not victim blame now shall we - because that really wouldn’t be in the spirit.

how did we go from a boasting thread about parading half naked in front of (hopefully) young kids who don't give a monkey to accusations of victim blaming?

This forum cracks me up.

Youre hardly a victim waitrose, what with your pseudo liberalism and all. Do the NMC support making others deliberately uncomfortable through your own actions? Thought not.

Do the NMC support making others deliberately uncomfortable through your own actions? Thought not

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Funny how now youre trying to take a moral stance and backtrack.

As long as you would be happy with my 4 year old going "look, mummy, boobies!!!" then I would be more than happy for you to hang around my pool. If I had one.

I see the OP's husband is not an "attention seeker" for getting his manly pecs out.

Yes - let's get you struck off immediately! You are DESCUSTING HOOMAN

When was I immoral and when did I backtrack, from what exactly?

I would still go topless again

I think you need to sign off User, this thread is clearly too much for you.

I have no problem with male or female nudity

That's my view.

However, it's not the view of everyone, and as with other behaviours in my life I choose to moderate in front of other people because I would not assume their comfort with it.

I think moderating your behaviour around strangers is a pretty normal and decent thing to do

NMC support making others deliberately uncomfortable through your own actions?

No my dear, we are there to preserve life and not pass judgment on anyone

You know very well that there is a difference between a man going topless and a woman going topless.

How often do you see men in public in hot weather, walking around or playing sports etc whilst topless? Quite often.
How often do you see women in the same scenario? Never.

Why do you think men's swimming costumes are a one piece, pair of shorts? And women's are either a bikini set, or a one piece costume covering breasts?

Like it or not, breasts are sexualised (except when serving their original purpose of feeding a baby, and even then most women are relatively discreet).

You just sounds like a difficult, argumentative attention seeker.

I think user is referring to your nonexistent immoral post when you indicated going topless was merely the first step in your attempts to turn Ibizan hotel into a den of depravity...

If you do view it as entirely innocent and without repercussion then why does it make a difference that you'll never see these people again?

Just popped up on my Facebook.

www.the-pool.com/news-views/latest-news/2018/29/Mumsnet-discussion-suggests-topless-sunbathing-is-inappropriate

I wouldn’t personally, I’m not really a “naked” sort of person. But I wouldn’t be particularly bothered if I saw another woman do it. My reaction would probably be a mix of surprise and “fair do’s”.

However it is true about people always having their phones, and therefore a camera, to hand. I’d find that offputting even I was inclined to sunbathe topless.

I have no idea why you started this thread OP when it's obvious you don't think you were wrong to sunbathe topless round the kids pool!

It’s on Daily Mail too. I’m cringing a bit but it is funny

I have no idea why you started this thread OP when it's obvious you don't think you were wrong to sunbathe topless round the kids pool!

I started it to gather opinions on whether I was being unreasonable or not. After listening to all opinions next time I would only go topless in the adult area, I think

What's wrong with boobs being sexualized? If people begin to see each other naked all the time, there would eventually be no sexual attraction left as there would be nothing to wish for, everything in the open.

The OP is loving the attention, expect a sad face over a topless body in the DM follow-up story anytime soon

You wouldn't go topless in a kids playground so why a pool? If your children had friends round you wouldn't sunbathe topless? Presume you also wouldn't answer the door or get the bins in without a top on too? You are asking why ISNT it ok, I am asking why it IS ok. Saying its just boobs is not an answer.

Presume you also wouldn't answer the door or get the bins in without a top on too?

You wouldn’t do either of those things wearing a swimming costume either usually...

The OP is hardly suggesting that we should be starting a tit movement allowing us to breast boobily all day. Just you know, around the pool.

I’m more concerned for the number of posters who can’t seem to grasp the difference between very different activities

Katriona I am loving the weird and wacky replies that’s for sure

OP did you answer the question regarding whether you would walk around and go to the bar topless like the men with their chests out?

You're trying to be woke and cool and yes it's just skin, so why do you have an issue with genitals.

Stay at home, read the Grauniad and flash your tits at your children in the privacy of your own home but making others feel awkward so you can prove a point is unreasonable.