To be topless around the kids pool?

[WaitrosePigeon]

Backstory...

On holiday at an all inclusive hotel with kids club etc. Got some tan lines from my bikini so this afternoon took the bikini top off to try and sort them out. DH comes over and says it is inappropriate near the kids pool. I said that he had his top off so why couldn’t I. He said because I was female.

I didn’t put the bikini top back on but is it inappropriate? It’s just boobs?

This thread is hilarious 😂 😂
Breasts around children!? OMG. The poor innocents. 😂😂😂 What dies that even mean. Adults project their ideas of what's sexual (and shameful) onto children. To children, a body is nothing of interest unless it's made out to be by parents/older kids/the media.

I think kids should be exposed to as many naked/semi-naked bodies as possible (in a non-sexual way) so they understand what the range of normal bodies look like. As they grow into teenagers body changes are totally normal.

Sexual attraction really isn't about nudity, is it? And most nude bodies hold only a passing interest to another person. I don't fancy all men. And no man I know fancies all women. Sexual attraction is a lot more nuanced than that. Oh wait, except our poor children with their access to alltheporn are being normalised into thinking it is about nudity.

There's something wrong when it's OK to view ridiculously staged and airbrushed naked images online, but it's not OK to see a normal woman's breasts at the pool/beach.

I don't sunbathe topless because I don't sunbathe, but I never hide my body around my kids and neither does their dad. I want my kids to understand that bodies are normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

Should we normalise all body parts then. Just all walk round naked if the mood takes us?

Well I reckon about 99% of people would draw the line at genitals, but other than that I'm game

I won't give my own personal opinion because I don't have anything to add that hasn't already been said.

But I wonder how many of the people who have said going topless is fine in this scenario would judge the shit out of somebody dropping the children at school, walking the dog, nipping to the shop etc. In their pyjamas.

I am SHOCKED at the number of people telling you to cover up. Unbelievable. You go topless all you like on your holidays and enjoy the all over tan xx

“You do all know that women nipples are the same as men nipples?”

But clearly they aren’t viewed the same at all are they?
Why aren’t there topless men on page 3 of the tabloids? Why do many men and teenage boys leer at topless women and women in low cut tops? You are being very naïve to think that they are viewed as the same. This thread kind of proves that as well.

I am not at all pearl clutching about women going topless, but I am at the naivety displayed on this thread.

“are you thick? breasts are not the same as a mans chest.

“Why not?”

Erm, if you can’t see that men and women are built differenty I think you should have gone to Specsavers

“And BTW it's bollocks that women don't get turned on by chests”

Nope GunpowderGelatine. That picture does nothing for me.

“What the hell does men's chests have to do with it. No relevance at all. There's a huge difference between the two.”

I agree coolncalm. Some posters are being deliberately obtuse. Men and women are built differently. Accept it. Vive la difference!

Put it away!

Why aren’t there topless men on page 3 of the tabloids?

Because organs designed to feed babies are sexualised by men. Not all of us have or want to pander to that

That picture does nothing for me.

My apologies, I didn't realise you spoke for all women 🙄

It does remind me of my great aunt talking in hushed tones to my grandma about a woman having 'loose bosoms' many years ago. I think theyd have died at the thought of toplessness. Im just old fashioned i guess, respectful, dress modestly. I dont like attention or showing off. I dont show my body except for lower arms as i have a job which means its be inappropriate-mental health worker.
I always think in doubt you behave in order to ensure others are comfortable. If you arent sure then dont do it. Its about being considerate more than anything.

And not one of those photos does anything for me either.

I think it's healthy for kids to be exposed to a variety of bodies so that they realise normal human variation is a thing and we don't all have to look a certain way.

But they can see that just looking around at people in normal swimwear.

Jesus H. Christ. The only thing a child needs to know about breasts is that they’re used to feed babies. That’s just what they’re for. Anything else is just imposing an adult fetish on children, which is very very wrong.

Inalways think in doubt you behave in order to ensure others are comfortable. If you arent sure then dont do it. Its about being considerate more than anything

Gay people holding hands makes some people feel very uncomfortable. As do people with disabilities being out in public. Should they be respectful of strangers and stop? If not, then where do you draw the line?

We had a few days doing school pick up topless the other week during the heatwave.

Also many men's nipples are tittilated ;) when rubbed / licked etc.

Curious about opinions re topless in garden. Is it ok to do so if there is a fence but only just higher than people's height?
I did it the other day but thought someone tall could look over. I'm not bothered in that it's my body but would that be wrong?

I'm going away next week without DD - I used to sunbathe topless when much younger, and actually this has made me think that I can do it again many years later without anyone actually giving a toss - I hate marks, and it isn't just strap marks, I hate when I have two-tone boobs when wearing certain clothes.
It's what happens when you're on the med or in many other places that aren't Britain.

pitterpatter because he would definitely stare ( he is quite an unusual child as it happens) and that would make me feel uncomfortable.

I think it depends on hotel policy, some say no topless sunbathing, on a beach I'd say crack on

I wouldn't be offended, nor would my kids, though my youngest is obsessed with 'boobies' and would probably shout over to you 'hello (big/small/baby feeding) boobies lady'

God the Mumsnet rage again.
OP, sane people don't care.

"My apologies, I didn't realise you spoke for all women 🙄"

Neither do you

Absolutely no issue with this. I regularly sunbathe topless. Breasts should be desexualised as they are simply a vehicle for feeding.

Curious about opinions re topless in garden. Is it ok to do so if there is a fence but only just higher than people's height?
I did it the other day but thought someone tall could look over. I'm not bothered in that it's my body but would that be wrong?

Personally I would say what you do in your own garden is your business within reason. People shouldn't peep if they don't want to see. It's not like you're a man exposing himself or something.

Same on the beach, there is a whole lot of beach and you are only on a tiny bit of it. I'd just consider it inappropriate to do it where you have families all around you and everyone in clear almost unavoidable view of everyone else.

I think despite the fake right on stuff here, most people would not go topless in that situation.

Gay people holding hands makes some people feel very uncomfortable. As do people with disabilities being out in public. Should they be respectful of strangers and stop? If not, then where do you draw the line?

I would probably draw the line where somebody tries to make ridiculous comparisons thatchange the subject to racism or homophobia.

OP are you intending to walk about with your tits out all the time? If not I see no reason that you would need a tan all over them. your husband is nbu.