To be topless around the kids pool?

[WaitrosePigeon]

Backstory...

On holiday at an all inclusive hotel with kids club etc. Got some tan lines from my bikini so this afternoon took the bikini top off to try and sort them out. DH comes over and says it is inappropriate near the kids pool. I said that he had his top off so why couldn’t I. He said because I was female.

I didn’t put the bikini top back on but is it inappropriate? It’s just boobs?

And can we please stop infantilising 12/13yo boys as some sort of snivelling embarrassed walking erection. The ones I meet have no problem making their feelings known about breasts

Or my favourite

you know exactly what to do

*Just wondering all those who think topless sunbathing is fine, would you be happy being photographed doing so and would you be happy to share the photos with family and friends?"

Do you mean would I or should I be ashamed if so?*

No not ashamed, just wondering if you’d think it appropriate. I’m bemused by the notion that’s a fine thing to do amongst strangers but not for friends to see.

I don’t tan and it would be a bloody miracle if I got strap marks. So no point in taking my top off.

It makes you look a bit old fashioned but if you don't mind that then carry on OP.

We always have beach holidays in Europe and I can't remember the last time I saw a woman sunbathing topless. It's just not the done thing any more.

Also massive LOL at one poster in particular trying to draw stupid comparisons - next it'll be WOULD YOU GOT TOPLESS TO A FUNERAL OP!!!! DISCUSTING!

If you've breast hang ups don't push your regressive bullshit onto other women

WOULD YOU GOT TOPLESS TO A FUNERAL OP!!!! DISCUSTING!

Dont trust jacques' word she has (whispers)....tattoos

Meh. Says the poster who hasn’t yet managed to move away from a “usernumbers” type name.

On one hand I don’t know why anyone would want tanned breasts or risk of burnt nipples. On the other hand it’s not a big deal, people will probably look and people probably will find it attractive, but the same could be said about legs, bums, shoulders etc anyway

Not bothered about nudity. Get it all out if you like.

Wouldn't bother me. DS might have said something (he's 2.5 and was breastfed until fairly recently, he didn't stop of his own accord and is somewhat bitter about that ).

I really can't understand why people would mind to be honest.

I might raise an eyebrow at someone topless in the supermarket, but sunbathing? Nope.

YABVU. You should sunbathe in a burqua to avoid offending any teenage boys who are present.

If it is fine to have your boobs out in public, would you be okay walking round at home with just knickers on if you had teenage boys/your dh's friends round? Or if you had a teenage boy at his mates house and the mum/older sister walked round like that? I would think it was weird.
I'm not offended by it, I wouldn't care if a man had his penis out but other people might be. The only place I would go topless is a secluded place, like private balcony.

I myself, wouldn't care.

But I'd think my kids would be sniggering.

I think anyone that suggests all men will definitely get an instant erection looking at their boobs might be flattering themselves somewhat.

HWBU I breastfed my baby by the side of the childrens playground my son was in today... did I mentally scar all the children who saw a naked boob??
Why do people still insist that breasts are 'rude'??
They can be in certain contexts just like any body part... but they are not genitals. Men dont have to cover their nipples around a pool, its just part of the massive sexualisation of womens bodies, as though their sole purpose is to arouse men.

I love the replies on this thread
Most men have bigger moobs than I have boobs so I really don’t think anyone would find me offensive.

are you thick? breasts are not the same as a mans chest.

You haven't said where you're on holiday. If it's somewhere where topless sunbathing is normal, then no problem. If not, don't do it. Respect local norms.

I really couldn't care what anyone does (I'm too busy making sure I'm covered as much as possible nobody wants or needs to see much of me unfortunately) but I suspect my dds would be a bit curious about it. They often query why men walk around topless in the sun (to be met with either it's hot/I don't know/mind your beeswax/shhhhhhh depending) so I expect it would be the same question for a woman, probably loudly in the case of the 3 year old.

You're in Ibiza where its the norm - I would happily be topless as my boobs are perky.

If it was this country or somewhere equally conservative, I would respect the custom.

As a pp said, it’s all about whether it’s culturally acceptable where you are. If you were in a nudist resort they’d consider you rudely over-dressed.

I used to sunbathe topless on Spanish beaches when I was younger, so I’m not against it at all. However I haven’t seen anyone sunbathing topless at the resorts we have been to since we had children.

My daughters wouldn’t be phased if they saw me or any other women topless, but given they are still of an age that I frequently have to supervise stop them fighting then I’d feel a bit silly doing the gritted teeth hissing with my well-used baps flopping around!

I guess my question is whether topless sunbathing is normal around the other pools? If you’re the only topless woman in the whole resort then you will look a bit exhibitionist.

Actually kids are very accepting of these things and learn disapproval from their parents. So they see their parents huffing and puffing about it and learn the message that the female body is somehow shameful

This, in spates

I guess the thing that bothers me the most is that surely if you are doing something that causes others to feel embarrassed or uncomfortable or whatever, the kind and polite thing to do is to stop

But only if you're a woman, usually. Some people are uncomfortable seeing women, or gay people, or black people in public. Should those people go home?

petrolpump28 you are the thick one if you think years of conditioning makes something an indisputable fact. Women used to have to cover their legs for fear of arousing men or being thought obscene. Women often have to cover their hair and/or their shoulders across the world because they are considered 'sexual' in a similar way. The difference is that women are veiwed as passive sexually and so men can wander about with their nips out as they see fit.... but men cannot control their strong sexual urges so women have to cover whichever body part is considered erotic right now.

And thats just utter bollocks isnt it!

You haven't said where you're on holiday. If it's somewhere where topless sunbathing is normal, then no problem. If not, don't do it. Respect local norms.

I have, repeatedly.

Would you pick up your child from school topless?

😂😂😂😂😂

It beggars belief how stupid some people are