Man told my baby to shut up.

[InTheLightOfTheMoon]

Was on the bus earlier. Dd (14 months) was fussing and moaning, more of a moan than a full on cry. I was trying to soothe her the best I could she was on my lap. Anyway after a few minutes a man opposite me said "shut up!" I turned to him rather shocked thinking maybe I had misheard so I said "excuse me?" he proceeded to tell me that she was giving him a head ache and she needs to shut up. Aibu to ask how others who have reacted to this? I was so shocked that anyone would tell a baby to shut up.

Did it work though? I actually used to feel a bit grateful when someone would shock my daughter into silence by saying that or even pleasantly telling her to be quiet.

Thank goodness he wasn't speaking to me or my daughter about either of my grandchildren. My filter doesn't work very well when twats behave like that. No idea where my daughter gets it from........

This is why I get so stressed out when out with dd :(

What an arsehole.

This reminds me of many years ago, I arrived at the gp reception to wait for my appointment. Unfortunately my 18 month old had woken early for a nap and was massively kicking off, I was holding him and trying to jiggle him at the reception. The rexeptionist said “we can’t have him in here making all that racket it’ll disturb the other patients waiting. You’ll have to go outside”.

Obviously she didn’t know that I’d just had a miscarriage and was vulnerable, I had to go wait outside the main entrance in the drizzle, teary, other patients from the waiting room started coming out to see if I was alright, a nurse got wind of what happened, told me to come back in, I said I wasn’t allowed, anyway she persuaded me back in, went round the back and tore a strip off the receptionist. The whole place heard the dressing down she got. So there are bloody rude people everywhere.

he proceeded to tell me that she was giving him a head ache and she needs to shut up.

I would have suggested he got off the bus and had a nice brisk walk to get rid of his headache.

when things like this happens you just have to really try and let it hit you,hurt.then move quickly on.youll find no answers from thinking why it happened or what should have been said or done.
he might be sn.he might be cruel.he might have a toothe absess and ranting.he might be regretting and hating himself now.or still fuming over screaming child.
he was wrong to react this way.but that's on him.
we all like to think we have to have patience.no matter what...it take something big to change that.but again that's on him.
so just start tomorrow with a smile knowing your child is wonderful and not all passengers are the same in lifes buses.

Can't believe the people who are saying "he is just saying what everyone is thinking". You are already doing your best to comfort your baby and his response was not at all helpful.

If it had been me, I would have already been stressed and his remark would have reduced me to tears.

Just what did he expect you to do? Say "gosh I am terribly sorry, I just love the sound of my baby upset, I didn't think to try and soothe her!" or maybe "so sorry, I shall take my baby and myself off the bus right now and walk the rest of the way, so I don't inconvenience you any further?"

Next time maintain eye contact, hunch your shoulders up by your ears and Hiss really loudly until you spray some spittle in their direction.

Shuts people right up.

^^ Omg 😂😂😂

I would have said shut up under my breath,and then hoped for some peace and quiet.

Lemons sorry to hear that you had a rough time but I really think that having a screaming baby in a gp waiting area is unreasonable. Maybe you could’ve walked outside or towards the doorway out of consideration to other patients (sick, elderly etc) without needing to be prompted. A similar thing actually happened to me when I had my first mc and it was incredibly distressing to hear a baby acting up when I had just lost mine.

This is a different scenario altogether to that of the OP who was stuck on a bus with nowhere to go.

It's very noisy in public places these days with people talking loudly on mobile phones. I think it is stressful to travel on public transport now and hearing a baby whining probably sent him over the edge.
Not right and I don't condone it, but he may be struggling with everybody else's noise.

You should have started singing loudly to to your child, really give him a headache.

Oh god I'd be tempted to say "you know she's a small baby, she can't understand the words 'shut up'!!"

dianat That could well be the case, but I'd put money on the fact he wouldn't say the same to a burly bloke shouting down his phone. He felt comfortable to say it to a woman on her own with a baby.

Really rude and unkind. I hope you're OK. It can unsettling when ppl display that kind of bullying behaviour in public. It's not like you can have a go back at him whilst holding a baby. You're in a vulnerable position and he knows it, I'm guessing.

Remember that there are more nice people who will say 'Awwwww cute baby' than grumpy /pissed off /angry /shouty types who say horrible things.

Tbink about the nice people and don't give the horrible ones headspace.

He should just do what most people do on public transportation, wear headphones and let their music drown out the sounds of crying babies, whiny toddlers, gossiping teens, people who talk way TOO LOUDLY on their cell, chavs, and people who want the whole bus to hear their conversation.

When my DD was about 18 months this happened to me, an old woman shouted down the bus for god sake shut that baby up. I decided to get off the bus, before I did I decided to tell the woman there was no need to be so rude she's only a baby