To want the double bed no the twin?

[DramaLamasunited18]

Long story short.
On an extended family holiday. Sharing with an in law and their child, DH and our two children.
The house has one double bedroom and two twins. All kids are between 8and 12.
Unlawful got there first and wanted the double bedroom for them and their child to share the bed and put me a DH in twins with our kids in the other twin.
Dh and I had to be a bit blunt in requesting that we share the double bed.
In law was a obviously put out.
WIBU?

I don't think you've been unreasonable at all op. Initially I assumed you'd gone halves on the cost of the house, with you essentially taking 2 bedrooms to their 1 and that the single in law was as such taking back what they felt they were owed, but given your update that you've paid more, I would have given you the double.

When I arrived 1st recently in similar situation, I left my stuff in a twin room as felt awkward going straight for the nice double with en suite without discussion! More fool me as the next to arrive walked straight into said room and set up for the weekend without any discussion 🤣.

Ordinarily, I go by who plans, arranges, organised payment etc, get first dabs on room. That's the law isn't it?!

What...? Why would the couple not be given the double? Her husband decided not to come so why would she expect the double? I wouldn't if I went away with the kids without my husband...

YABU for accepting that YABU because YWNBU!

You were not BU at all! I'm confused by why they didn't think that obviously the couple would want to share the double bed?? Seems obvious to me!

1 x double bed = 4ft 6 between 2

Double beds are awfully small for two people

Doubles come in different sizes. A standard double is 5 ft.

" Who would want to share a bed with an 8 year old child (especially in the hot weather)."

But equally-who would want to share with a spouse in this weather?

I think I read somewhere that a double gives each adult the same or less width than a cot!

For clarification she asked if we wanted the double when we arrived and we said yes

In that case YANBU to take it.

She didn't want to have to walk from the shower in a towel to her room in front of your family. And she shouldn't have to! And as you paid the same PP and she arrived first she bagged the en-suite. YABU

I expect she didn't want to share the family bathroom with your kids. I think you were really rude to push her out!
I would rather an ensuite with my own child than a family bathroom shared with someone else's kids!

She didn't want to have to walk from the shower in a towel to her room in front of your family. And she shouldn't have to!

She could always get undressed and dressed in the bathroom if the prospect of having family members seeing her bare legs and shoulders for 20 seconds gives her the vapours.

YWNBU IMO

I would rather an ensuite with my own child than a family bathroom shared with someone else's kids!

And a married couple would rather share a double bed than have to sleep in twin beds because two other people who are not a couple (and one of whom is a child) have selfishly bagged the only double bed for no good reason!

God, this family holiday sounds dreadful tbh.

Haha the idea of my burping, noisy farting, poo discussing in law worrying about walking between shower and bedroom I front of any of us when we’ve been swimming together is quite funny.

read the thread people - they didn’t share a bathroom with my children.

Are you all still there now? If this is about sharing a bathroom ( ), I would go with getting your kids to share your en suite and the other pair use the 'family' bathroom. They can't be very far apart unless it's a mansion so hardly an inconvenience to them. So you have to put up with your kids coming through your room, but it might work as a compromise.

It would never have occurred to me that a solo parent and child would have taken a double room.

Also, I prefer no en suite, don't need to hear bodily functions in close proximity if I can avoid it, betting the walls are pretty thin. It may be perfectly natural etc, but I find it puts me off my cornflakes hearing DH having a shit in the morning!

It's bloody obvious that the couple should have the double and the OP's in-law was being bloody weird and unreasonable to have taken the double in the first place knowing that the couple would then have to go in a twin.

I disagree, I'm with those that say the obvious ways to share is by bathroom, and the non-en-suite is naturally the bathroom for two rooms, so the family who fitted into one room should take the en-suite.

You spend very little time in the bathroom compared to the bedrooms, and the OP has already explained that her children shared the ensuite.

I never realised people put so much importance on bathrooms.
Lesson learnt

I never realised people put so much importance on bathrooms

Don’t attach much significance to the preoccupations of MN.

It’s a no brainer that the marrried couple would have the double and the mother and child the twin. Irrespective of bathrooms.

I would be so pissed off if I turned up to a family holiday and a couple had taken a twin room leaving me and my kid a double bed... there’s no way I’d choose to share a bed with my child!

The couple should get the double, it’s just the way things work. Single beds for single people 🤷🏻‍♀️

This reminds me of my kids thinking they can sit in the front seat of the car if they get there before me! Er no. Adults get front seats, kids in the back. Always.

I'd expect the en suite as a single person on holiday with a family. That's common sense surely? I don't think the double bed is relevant.

I find this thread utterly bizarre.

I'm with you op, YANBU. Of course a couple should m take the double bed. As long as everyone had access to a bathroom then I fail to see why on earth people think you would be unreasonable.

Can't believe the ridiculous responses on here, you can't tell me that if you lot rocked up to a holiday cottage and one person had taken the double bed and left you and your husband in two beds that you'd be happy about it!

I find it bizarre that some couples can't imagine a few nights in a different bed to their OHs!

I find it bizarre that a woman without her husband would (a) prefer to share a double bed with her practically teenage child rather than sleep in separate beds, and (b) expect a married couple to sleep in separate beds in order for her to do so.

As I said above, I bet you any money the child would rather be in a twin bed.