To ask his mum to stay at the party?

[heywhatsgoingon]

Have name changed. My 6 year old son wants a full class party for his 7th birthday in August. The class are really nice and all get on well ... aside from one child. I don't know if he is on the spectrum or not but what I do know is that every day he is physically abusive to the other kids - but mainly the girls. He has only punched my son once but some of the other kids have had continuous physical abuse from him on a regular basis. My son doesn't want to invite him to the party at all - which is if course an option - however I would feel bad not inviting one child - and before anyone says anything I am not going to have a scaled down party just because one child doesn't behave - that's not fair on my son or the other kids. However I don't want to carry the responsibility of watching him as I will have 30 other kids to watch over. I also don't know how to deal with the child if he starts behaving like this. AIBU to say to his mother that I need her to fart to ensure there are not incidents?

I'm sorry but had to giggle at the last part 😂 not sure what her farting will achieve!

not sure what her farting will do stop incidents.....

Howling...sorry!

YANBU but YABU to make her fart 😀

“Not sure if he’s on the spectrum”

Yes because all badly behaved children are on the spectrum.

This is going to be like the snapped and farted thread isn't it?

Uh-oh. Autocorrect fail

Oh dear. Hilarious auto correct there. But YANBU to ask her to stay. Do most parents not stay anyway at that age?

Yanbu, especially if the farting helps

I think I might ask her to stay. Farting will just smell up the place🤣

Could his father not fart instead?

Howling

I don't think she would be pleased if you asked her to fart ... I think YABVU !!! (Although I am howling with laughter)

It was all going so well....
Yes, ask her to stay. You could also ask some other parents to stay; you’ll need lots of people to ride shotgun if you have 30 children to wrangle.

@NotMyCircusMonkeys

What is mother of boy like? Is she aware of the violence and trying to stop it? Are you friendly?

If she knows what he’s like then she’d probably stay anyway (I would), if she’s oblivious it’s a bit trickier. Could you ask her to give you a hand?

Alternatively, if she’s approachable tell her you’d love her son there but know there are a few friendship issues in the class and you’re asking a few parents to stay to help supervise.

And name change fail??

I wouldnt invite him at all

great typo! That seems like a fair compromise; that he can attend and not be the only one left out on the proviso that his mum stays to manage his behaviour.

YABVU just for the "on the spectrum" comments alone

In terms of the actual question, asking only her to attend the party would be quite rude and probably make you a few enemys. I think your options are either putting on the invite that parents are asked to stay (you could say not enough adults to supervise lr whatever), or downscaling the party to maybe 15 friends or so.

Wouldn't a large proportion of the parents stay? My DC is the same age and a good 75% of parents stay at the parties.

So that's all there is to making your kids behave, good to know

Don’t invite him, you can’t help everyone.

He is probably a little spoilt, nasty brat rather than on the spectrum. My nephew is autistic and he is so well behaved, the behaviour of other nt children sets him on edge.

I find that an offensive statement, next time just state that the child is challenging and skip the disability dig.