A letter to my son's ex-girlfriend...

[QueenOfTheAndals]

AIBU to think that the ex-girlfriend has had a lucky escape? MiL from hell ahoy!

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/14/letter-to-sons-ex-girlfriend-terminated-pregnancy

How dare she judge the girls mother for not being there when her son, the father of the pregnancy was ‘too low’ to attend and support.

She does sound like a total nightmare, I agree.

She sounds like a right one, doesn't she?

She sounds uber-controlling, and her son sounds like a man child.

I'm not sure she sounds a nightmare - she seems to be genuinely wishing the woman well and expressing sadness at the abortion whilst acknowledging she did the right thing in staying out of it at the time.

Her son sounds like a total dick though

And if pregnancy was something her son "didn't need" then he should've worn a bloody condom! I feel sorry for the woman he does eventually end up with.

the girlfriend sounds like she dodged a bullet on both fronts.

She won't send it but she'll publish it in a national newspaper where, presumably, the ex-gf knows she works.

Beautiful, yes, and I could see you shared the same carefree humour, but I saw my strong son tearful and bemused by your quixotic mood changes and possessiveness.

This sentence makes her sound like a low-rent Jilly Cooper.

She doesn't understand the girls Mother not going? But totally fine for the father of the baby not to go to the clinic?!?! Wtaf. Dodged a bullet is right.

Bloody hell! The girlfriend had a very lucky escape from both of them.

Wow!

Wow, some people have to make everything about them. Thank God the exGF got out when she did!

Not impressed with the son not going to the abortion clinic either, but redirecting blame to another woman always works.

Not judging her son for not attending the abortion but judging the girlfriend's mother! He can clearly do no wrong.

Veiled, bitchy slights. Absolutely dodged a bullet!

Her precious son didn’t even bother going to the clinic with his partner, despite “being determined to take responsibility and support” her because he was “too low” at the time.

No wonder he is her ex. Whoever she is thank god she’s not stuck with that loser manchild and his mother any longer.

Her son is an arse for not going to clinic.

Even if he was 'low'. The girlfriend had to go. She doesnt get to be low.

Yanbu.

I can't get worked up over this.

The woman had a termination, as MIL accepts was her perfect right. She and her son were saddened by it - that's also their perfect right. Doesn't sound as though they berated the woman for it, but they are allowed to grieve privately while respecting that the decision wasn't theirs to make.

The woman terminated, presumably, because the relationship was all but over anyway. With that being the case, I don't know why the son should be obliged to be there.

As MIL acknowledges, the woman's own mother wasn't there, and the woman herself has a lot of sorrow in her life as well.

It all just sounds very sad to me. I hope they can all find peace.

Ok actually, on second thought, son should have gone if ex wanted him there. It's not clear if she did. Still don't think MIL is a monster for being sad about it.

With that being the case, I don't know why the son should be obliged to be there.

Because - as the person who helped create the child and as someone in support of the decision to terminate the pregnancy - that is the decent thing to do. It's his decision, but he certainly doesn't come out looking supportive. Yet the woman targets the girl's mother for not being there. Why?

Sorry, cross-post.

It starts badly with "As you know, he’s been through a lot over the last few years and he didn’t need this". If he didn't need it, perhaps he could have kept his penis inside his trousers?

He had cautiously begun to consider how he would make it work if you decided to have the baby. We all had.

I like 'cautiously begun'. This morning, I cautiously began to consider deep-cleaning my house. Naturally, I had another cup of coffee and did fuck all.

TheMobileSite, the writer of the letter isn't a reporter or writer for the newspaper.