A letter to my son's ex-girlfriend...

[QueenOfTheAndals]

AIBU to think that the ex-girlfriend has had a lucky escape? MiL from hell ahoy!

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2018/jul/14/letter-to-sons-ex-girlfriend-terminated-pregnancy

I think my son’s pretty much perfect—but he’s only 8!

The real test will be what he’s like when my work is done. I will certainly be teaching him that women can’t ‘get themselves pregnant’, for starters.

I think the letter boiled down to "I didn't like you and didn't really want my son to make you into a single parent but now that the baby is gone, I kinda wish you'd kept it".

I'm pro choice although I think that abortion shouldn't be used as contraception as a small number of women seem to treat it.

I think the writer of the letter needs to stop writing in to newspapers to have her feelings validated and instead use her time to have some counselling.

Sons don't have the monopoly on being shitty. Daughters can be quite good at being shitty too.

The MIL could well be a total nightmare. Or it could be that the girlfriend was abusive (possessive and moody, based on the letter). It could be they were shagging with unprotected abandon, or it could be that a condom broke, or it could be that the girlfriend was lying about taking the pill and then changed her mind when she found out she was pregnant and that it wasn't going to be rainbows and butterflies.
Maybe they had had a blazing argument and the girlfriend told him she didn't want him there, but he didn't want to tell his mother about what they had argued about so he made up a spontaneous excuse and the words " I feel too low to go" left his mouth before he could think of anything else? Maybe she said her mum was goong with her cos she didnt want him there, but she hadn't actually told her mum so made up an excuse as to why she didn't go either?
I have absolutely no idea what it was. And the girlfriend could well have been utterly deserted by a man-child, dickhead boyfriend who had a nightmare mother. I really don't think you can tell based on the letter.

pteradactyl yes it could have been all those things, but it wasn't, BF's DM was the ghost at the feast. GF cut and run from the horror, the horror, and BF and his mother were left to monsterise GF at their leisure.

DM's post on the Grauniad had all the sticky fingermarks of a terribly unwell scorned xenomorph.

I often write letters that I never intend to send just to unburden myself.
Losing an unborn grandchild hurts whether it was miscarriage or abortion, she allowed the gf to make that choice - she can still be sad about it though.
I don't get that she is overly protective of her son, the need to be protective doesn't diminish just because they are grown, you just have to learn to quash it, and if this helps the writer to do that then why not?
She didn't paint the gf too badly or hint at her identity even if she does write like a would-be novelist and she ended with wishing her well.
As for her son, he may have been devastated at losing his child - why should he be obliged to participate? This is not a couple that agreed to abort or a man that forced his ex into a choice she didn't want to make; it was a woman exercising her right to make decisions over her own body, I totally agree that she should have that right but I'm still able to understand that this might be painful to the partner and I actually think that any woman who is considering this and has no intention of allowing her partner any say in the decision, ought to consider if it wouldn't be kinder to actually say nothing.

Nannee
she allowed the gf to make that choice

WTF??? Is that really how you think?

The GF didn't let her son down. They both had unprotected sex or it was an accident. She sees her son all saintly, but he isn't and she can't handle that.