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Original poster

To think this pregnancy reveal is cringey?

186 replies

AlwaysAToDoList · 08/07/2018 21:49

Friend invited us over yesterday (group of 6) and then she asked us to play a board game.

One friend lifted the lid to reveal the scan photo and then the big announcement

I’m happy for my friend but I just don’t understand why the big reveal ...

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Ohyesiam · 12/07/2018 15:04

I’d cringe.
It’s really myopic to imagine that other people would be as excited as you are about your own pregnancy.
But ultimately harmless I guess.

Lizzie48 · 12/07/2018 16:48

I'm also speaking as someone who couldn't have DC biologically, my DDs are adopted. But I wouldn't have cringed or held it against a friend if they had announced the pregnancy in an OTT way. I could share the happiness of a close friend or family member who announced a pregnancy. I would have had a cry later, but it wouldn't have been because of the way they announced their pregnancy.

And why wouldn't you be happy for a friend who was excited at being pregnant? We're expected to accept ridiculously OTT behaviour from bridezillas after all, which is after all only one day.

Claredemoon · 12/07/2018 17:05

When we got got engaged I ordered a sign for our dog that said "my humans are getting married" and then posted it on Facebook, I intend to do something similar if and when I get pregnant Grin I think it's lovely she found an inventive way to tell you all!

BunsOfAnarchy · 12/07/2018 17:13

Poor friend. Shes just excited. So what of she chose to do it this way.

Im sorry but you're pretty horrible for posting negatively about it on MN of all places! She just wanted to share her happiness. How awfully bitter of you.

I think she deserves better friends than you!

AynRandTheObjectivist · 12/07/2018 17:22

Nobody thinks that others care about their pregnancy AS MUCH as they do. They do, usually, think that a friend would care A BIT.

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AlwaysAToDoList · 12/07/2018 17:26

It’s very boring that someone had to drag this boring thread back up. I lost interest in it and I bloody started it.

Just because I said it was cringey it doesn’t mean I’m not happy for her. She’s just very much someone who has to make a huge announcement about everything. It’s BOOOORING.

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AlwaysAToDoList · 12/07/2018 17:27

Claredemoon I would have unfriended you instantly

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PixieCutRegret · 12/07/2018 17:30

Can't be that boring if you've taken the time to read the replies and respond Hmm

Fleuried · 12/07/2018 17:35

Yeah big reveals, gender reveals etc are a bit naff but no harm done and it makes her happy. I hope you told her how much you enjoyed it (even if you lied).

Lizzie48 · 12/07/2018 17:35

That's a bitchy way to talk about someone who is supposedly a friend, you don't seem to like her very much. As another PP said, with friends like you who needs enemies?? Hmm

AynRandTheObjectivist · 12/07/2018 17:37

boring

You keep using this word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

AynRandTheObjectivist · 12/07/2018 17:39

She’s just very much someone who has to make a huge announcement about everything.

FFS OP. You clearly dislike her. You dislike her enough to attempt to whip up online bitchfests about her. Put everyone out of their misery and just end the friendship. Shouldn't be hard, it doesn't exist.

Lizzie48 · 12/07/2018 17:41

I don't think it would be any loss to her if you do end the friend, you sound very unkind.

Lizzie48 · 12/07/2018 17:42

Friendship, that should say. Blush

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 12/07/2018 17:43

I do think it's a bit narcissistic! Such a dramatic reveal kind of assumes this is going to a life changing event for you all when clearly it's just some nice news. That said it's harmless enough, I'd just cringe in silence.

AlphaBravo · 12/07/2018 17:45

OP you sound boring as fuck and somewhat jealous of other people being happy and excited about something. Like a bit of a twat overall really, and quite childish.

Tink2007 · 12/07/2018 17:46

Hopefully you won’t be her friend for long....

We are all entitled to our opinions and by no means do you need to have liked the way she announced her pregnancy but to put it on a very well known forum which is often in multiple newspapers is the sign of a pretty shitty friend.

You made the post for people to agree with you. Nothing more and nothing less.

Claredemoon · 12/07/2018 17:47

@alwaystodolist We would never have been friends in the first place Wink

Claredemoon · 12/07/2018 17:48

@AynRandTheObjectivist brilliant PB reference! Grin

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AlwaysAToDoList · 12/07/2018 17:51

Grin I know these comments are probably suppose to upset me but they don’t. None of you can ever say a friend did something they found annoying? Or sometimes have traits they don’t always like?

Didn’t realise you all lived in a world where you get on with every single person 100% of the time.

I’m just laughing at your comments because they don’t mean anything. None of you know me. So your opinions on me are irrelevant to me.

It is funny to see you all get your knickers in a twist about this though Grin

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traceyturnblatt · 12/07/2018 17:57

@AlwaysAToDoList why post then?

I think you didn't expect this thread to go the way it did and now you've gotten a touch defensive

Lizzie48 · 12/07/2018 18:09

I think you care a lot actually, hence why you're so keen to persuade us that you don't care. Methinks the lady doth protest too much and all that.

Most of us might roll our eyes at another friend in the circumstances you've described, but we wouldn't start a thread slagging your friend off. That's very unpleasant. Hmm

AynRandTheObjectivist · 12/07/2018 18:10

Nobody is trying to upset you, why would we want to do that? We're trying to make you see that you are being unkind and indeed somewhat hypocritical, since you presumably pretend that you're this person's friend in real life.

As it happens, you get so upset over naff pregnancy reveals that you rush to start online bitchfests about them, so I do find it hard to believe that you don't care in the slightest what anyone's saying. Certainly you're engaging...

ClaryFray · 12/07/2018 18:11

I've nene trying months and my god I will flog it like a dead horse if it ever happens for me again. Is it hurting anyone? Jesus, we do like to tear other women down don't we?

GoodFortuneAttendThee · 12/07/2018 18:12

Is she happy? Are you happy for her? does it really matter then? meh. Different strokes for different folks. Leave her be.