To think this pregnancy reveal is cringey?

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Friend invited us over yesterday (group of 6) and then she asked us to play a board game.

One friend lifted the lid to reveal the scan photo and then the big announcement

I’m happy for my friend but I just don’t understand why the big reveal ...

Not sure why you would want to post on here just to open her up to ridicule however.

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OP seems to have slinked off with her tail between her legs from these comments

no I just have a life outside of mn.

Really?

You’d choose to start a topic on a busy forum (which is available to use 24/7) when you’re too busy for the next almost 24 hours to check in and reply to the responses?

And then only reply to that one message of mine?

Oh it’s a bit cringe! I take it there will be a gender reveal party and baby shower too...

And then only reply to that one message of mine?

I think you are very generous to call that a reply.

OP you are no friend to this women. This is a mean thing to post about and it would be awful if your 'friend' comes across it.

Well, true.

Me thinks this whole thread has been made up just to wind people up.

LyndseyKola I have a full on job, mn isn’t my whole world. I don’t think to “check in”

I think that sounds nice shrug

I'm part of a friendship group that watches a lot of horror movies. You bet your arse when I finally get that moment I'm putting it in a copy of Rosemary's Baby and suggesting we stick that on

Yes it is cringy - but she clearly misjudged her friendship with you. Bet she would be devastated if you knew you posted about it on mumsnet. Isn't one of the benefits of friends that you can do the odd cringy thing without your friend shaming you publically on a global website? Its obviously an exciting time - let her enjoy her moment - and I say that from someone who suffered years of infertility.

I think it's fine. Maybe a little thoughtless of anyone was having issues but presumably she knew her audience.

You, however, sound jealous and quite nasty. I hope your friend finds this thread.

Aw she was excited and wanted to share that excitement with people who are supposed to be her friends. People are so harsh!

Blimey, did she hurt anyone? No! Yeah it's a bit cringe but to make a post about it... lovely friend.

Why the fuck is it smug to announce a pregnancy?! Genuinely confused by these comments! A bit excessive and over excited, probably, but snug?! Do these commenters have fertility issues/not a parent yet, or some other reason for being so negatively vile and accusatory?

Its odd and a bit Americanized but it was only a close friend announcing her pregnancy to a small group of close friends.

There are some really nasty comments on this thread. How is that smug, or nauseating or any of the other incredibly mean and judgemental thing that have ben said here? Excited and a bit ott yes. Would I have done it? No certainly not.

Any friend who cant be happy for another about a pregnancy is no friend. Im always happy for mine regardless of what fertility issues there may be.

As for op. It was pretty unkind you you to start this thread and she might even see it. For your sakes i hope she doesnt.

The rest of you get a grip. Some woman you dont even know has gone ott with her pregnancy announcement and you are all bashing her and being rude/mean online. Jesus. No wonder new mums are some of the lonliest people if you lot are whats on offer.

FairiesAndChocolate, absolutely.

""Does she think she's the only one who has ever been pregnant.""

That's been used against Women to shut them up for centuries. It was used as an excuse by Medical Researchers etc when Women wanted answers to their heavy periods/pregnancy symptoms and other health conditions that effect Women. By the same token that same can be said for anyone completing University, learning to swim/drive etc. Except pregnancy is a bigger event in people's lives.

As for the "no-one else cares" comments, then you must have strange
relationships with Friends and Family.

As for the "no-one else cares" comments, then you must have strange* relationships with Friends and Family.*

I agree with this. If you really don't want to celebrate with a friend who is excited to be pregnant, or whatever else she might be excited about, then you really are a self-obsessed twat who is no friend.

Why the fuck is it smug to announce a pregnancy?! Genuinely confused by these comments! A bit excessive and over excited, probably, but snug?! Do these commenters have fertility issues/not a parent yet, or some other reason for being so negatively vile and accusatory?

^I completely agree. On MN you aren’t allowed to celebrate a pregnancy just in case someone is having fertility issues. Ridiculous

I'm a bit of a misery about 'pregnancy/gender reveal' videos and really outlandish methods of doing so. But then I'm always a bit agog at those videos where people announce they're pregnant and their friends and family start screaming and crying. That would be my worse nightmare. So far people have been happy for us but not absurdly over-the-top so.

We will hopefully be 'announcing' our pregnancy in a week or so if all is well at our 12-week scan, but I'm afraid it'll be the bog-standard scan pic (if it looks like a baby and not some sort of swamp beast) and due date on FB. I debated even doing the FB thing at all but it's just the easiest way to let non-immediate family and friends know.

The world is full of hatred for women. A new Mum, in her twenties makes a low key little announcement to her friends and is called all kinds of names for it.

Still, it's a great introduction to the world of motherhood, where everything you do is smug, stupid and wrong, apparently.

What a bunch of miserable bastards some of you are.

Well said Duck.

I completely agree with you duck
Someone is having a bit of fun and then her mate puts her up for ridicule on MN.

Nasty.
As I said earlier you don't have to loke it but it made her happy.

The announcement wasn’t low key, and whether it was fun depends on the situations and perspectives of the friends. It’s not misogynist to dislike showy “reveals”.

It's just someone sharing her good news with her supposed friends.

It's not smug or twattish. A true friend wouldn't start a thread like this one either