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To think this pregnancy reveal is cringey?

186 replies

AlwaysAToDoList · 08/07/2018 21:49

Friend invited us over yesterday (group of 6) and then she asked us to play a board game.

One friend lifted the lid to reveal the scan photo and then the big announcement

I’m happy for my friend but I just don’t understand why the big reveal ...

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Iamtryingtobenicehere · 08/07/2018 22:55

I don’t know what’s wrong with just saying “hey, fantastic news, we’ve just found out we are expecting a baby in December “
On the other hand, her cringey announcement is not harming anyone, no skin off your nose she so be happy for her.

InfiniteVariety · 08/07/2018 22:56

I too would have been nonplussed

SerenDippitty · 08/07/2018 22:56

Saw a video of a reveal party on YouTube in which after the gender reveal the father to be pulled of his jumper to reveal a t shirt emblazoned with the message “real men make twins”.

schoty77 · 08/07/2018 22:56

Does it matter if it's cringey? She's happy and excited, she wanted to share that with you, her so-called friend. If you think it's cringey, don't do it yourself. You just sound judgmental and jealous tbh.

LisaSimpsonsbff · 08/07/2018 22:58

Saw a video of a reveal party on YouTube in which after the gender reveal the father to be pulled of his jumper to reveal a t shirt emblazoned with the message “real men make twins”.

Oh, bleurgh. Some of the worst announcements I've seen (online - thank god no one I know has done anything like this) are the ones where men boast about their 'swimmers'. My other least favourite sort are the ones where they make a big deal over how shocked they are, which always seem smug as hell.

bringbackfonzi · 08/07/2018 22:58

Maybe it was "Game of Life"? Or "Operation"?
OP, what was the game?

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 08/07/2018 22:58

Oh, don’t do the “jealous” thing, please. That’s for 12 year olds.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 08/07/2018 23:00

Real men make twins Grin. I couldn’t be friends with such a knobhead.

dinosaurkisses · 08/07/2018 23:15

So your mate gathered a small group of her friends privately and announced what is probably the biggest news of her life in a quirky, and still fairly low key way and that’s to be judged?

I wouldn’t have chosen to do it that way, but if one of my friends did I’d be absolutely delighted for her.

It’s one thing to plaster a gender reveal etc over social media in an attempt to go viral, but if I was your mate I’d be devastated that someone I thought I was close to judged me like you have.

lidoshuffle · 08/07/2018 23:20

I'm imagining you saying, "oh, right" and carrying on laying out the board pieces Grin

EarlGreyT · 08/07/2018 23:22

Real men make twins. I couldn’t be friends with such a knobhead

@Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar I entirely agree with not being friends with such a knobhead comment and with the real men make twins comment (which I assume is a joke.)

BertieBotts · 08/07/2018 23:23

DH wanted to invite people over to announce our pregnancy! I thought it was a bit weird. In the end he told a few people at work since he wanted to come to some of the earlier appointments etc so he wanted to explain the time off but then we just did a FB announcement to let most people know. We'd told family earlier.

Tara12 · 08/07/2018 23:24

Not sure even why that is cringey, probably thought everyone would be pleased. How mean to ridicule her.

EarlGreyT · 08/07/2018 23:26

So your mate gathered a small group of her friends privately and announced what is probably the biggest news of her life in a quirky, and still fairly low key way and that’s to be judged?

Yes. If you act like a twat, it’s still to be judged. I say this as someone who had 6 rounds of ivf to become pregnant and therefore my pregnancy was probably the biggest news I had for a long time, but still even I wouldn’t have done something that twattish and if I had done I would expect to have been judged and told to have got a grip.

EarlGreyT · 08/07/2018 23:28

Not sure even why that is cringey, probably thought everyone would be pleased. How mean to ridicule her.

Because it’s as smug as fuck.

JayRayDay · 08/07/2018 23:31

Surely she will recognise this as her?

Pippa12 · 08/07/2018 23:32

Cringey? Self absorbed? Really... this lady is your good friend and you post on here to let total strangers poke fun at her news... you are no friend.

Baby showers, gender reveals, weddings (especially destination weddings!) Hen/stag/childrens parties etc all deemed the work of the devil in mumsnet land. Some of you need to loosen up abit, crack a smile- who has this lady really bothered announcing her pregnancy like this? I hope the others were kind and genuinely pleased for her.Hmm

PlatypusPie · 08/07/2018 23:33

It is cringey , OP, and gauche- an earlier poster said they would have been nonplussed and I think that’s would-be a common reaction, hastily followed by ‘oh, how lovely ‘ whilst mentally eye rolling .

Pippa12 · 08/07/2018 23:34

Smug? A tat? Tattish behaviour- For doing a pregnancy announcement? My god... thats vile.

CoffeeCoffeeTea · 08/07/2018 23:35

I agree with Bear......

dimplesmccutie · 08/07/2018 23:37

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EarlGreyT · 08/07/2018 23:38

Smug? A tat? Tattish behaviour- For doing a pregnancy announcement? My god... thats vile.
It’s not the doing a pregnancy announcement which is smug and twattish. It’s HOW the announcement that is done which is smug and twattish.

dinosaurkisses · 08/07/2018 23:40

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Pippa12 · 08/07/2018 23:43

How is it smug and t*atish? Im genuinely perplexed???

6 close friends sat round a table open a box to a scan picture... not surrounded by 50 people they hardly know in a restaurant etc? I found it hard to slip into conversation i was pregnant, i just blurted it out. Sometimes i wish I'd of made it more special (however I'm glad i didn't in fear of being branded a t*at!)

EarlGreyT · 08/07/2018 23:50

If you can’t be happy for a close friend sharing some good news then I’d be amazed you had any close friends to be honest.

Of course I can be happy for a close friend sharing some good news. As I said above, its not the sharing of good news per se, it’s how the good news is shared and the manner in the OP is a cringeworthy way of sharing it.