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To think this pregnancy reveal is cringey?

186 replies

AlwaysAToDoList · 08/07/2018 21:49

Friend invited us over yesterday (group of 6) and then she asked us to play a board game.

One friend lifted the lid to reveal the scan photo and then the big announcement

I’m happy for my friend but I just don’t understand why the big reveal ...

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Watchingthecloudsflyby · 08/07/2018 23:53

Also struggling to see how a low key announcement to 6 supposed close friends makes someone a smug tw*t, she may well know that none of the other friends are even trying yet re the selfishness of telling someone who is ttc that you're pregnant.

Surely this is better that a Facebook scan photo which is far more likely to catch someone struggling to conceive unawares?

And can't believe how many people think no one else cares that this woman is pregnant. Some of you have odd friendships

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 08/07/2018 23:54

Possibly because it wasn’t all that “low key”, it was a performance?

EarlGreyT · 09/07/2018 00:00

Low key is telling your friends “I’m pregnant”. Not inviting a group of 6 around and play a game which opens to your scan photo. That says look at me, look a meeeeee.

Pippa12 · 09/07/2018 00:05

Yes do look at her... hug/kiss her... congratulate her... how beautifully amazing that your pregnant... of corse she must be made a fuss of. Im not so above myself that i cant let my friend have a golden moment when shes fallen pregnant.

Good god some of you lot must have very cold and false relationships with your "friends".

DiegoMadonna · 09/07/2018 00:05

If she invited you round just for that then it's a bit weird, yeah. If it's common for you to go round each others' houses on a saturday night and the "reveal" was just the board game, then it was hardly a huge thing was it?

GunpowderGelatine · 09/07/2018 00:06

I love board games. I'd have been very annoyed if we then didn't play it!

Watchingthecloudsflyby · 09/07/2018 00:06

She's pregnant for the first time and a little over excited, is having a wee look at me moment so terribly horrific? Is it really so awful to want your friends to be excited for you even if you do something a bit silly because you don't just want to say "who wants a drink? I'm on tea cos I'm pregnant. Did you watch the football? No please don't congratulate me or mention it again, I don't want to already smug. It really isn't anything exciting at all"

Fabricwitch · 09/07/2018 00:19

I don't get the board game thing? Like what does it have to do with pregnancy/babies?
And as pp said it's not an announcement, it's a performance, which makes it cringey to me.
I would be making a fuss of a close friend getting pregnant for the first time anyways, no need for the "reveal". But most lots of women get pregnant, so if people don't want to make a fuss that's also fine.

Loandbeholdagain · 09/07/2018 00:23

I think the phrase “each to their own” needs to be your new motto OP.

Really, what your saying is that it’s not how you would choose to do it. Well, we’re all different! When it comes down to it there is quite clearly nothing remotely objectionable to her behaviour.

As for the other posters who were being so unkind. One word: sisterhood.

Iamagreyhoundhearmeroar · 09/07/2018 00:25

Oh, give over.

Ginandplatonic · 09/07/2018 00:31

All stage-managed "Reveals" are cringey - what happened to just telling people things??

DiegoMadonna · 09/07/2018 00:32

It's hardly a huge event though is it. Let's play this board game... tada! I'm pregnant! Give her a break. Not worth making a thread on the internet about it.

GunpowderGelatine · 09/07/2018 00:36

To think when I was pregnant I thought sending a text message announcement was OTT Grin

AynRandTheObjectivist · 09/07/2018 07:11

EarlT, you are obsessed with it being 'smug'. Why on earth would you think that?

BoxsetsAndPopcorn · 09/07/2018 07:33

Stunts like these along with gender reveals are why some pregnancies feel like nine years not nine months. Settle in OP, it's likely to be a long rough ride based on my past experiences.

Quite why people can't just say I'm pregnant and it's a boy / girl is beyond me but I guess the photos don't look as good on social media.

SerenDippitty · 09/07/2018 07:39

I find all staged pregnancy announcements and gender reveals cringey and smug, but perhaps that’s because I’m a bitter jealous old bag who never got to make her own pregnancy announcement and have the golden moment and fuss despite years of ttc.

Mummyschnauzer · 09/07/2018 07:51

Tbh, I really hate the whole gender reveal thing - no one other than immediate family give a shit if you’re having a boy or girl. Most friends are happy you’re expecting, but all they’re going to say on a gender reveal is -ooh lovely!

Mousefunky · 09/07/2018 07:52

She invited her closest friends around to tell them. It isn’t smug. It would be smug to do it all corny and twee for social media and potentially hurt someone with fertility issues or who had experienced loss but this isn’t smug or twattish at all. She presumably knows these people very well and possibly knows they aren’t experiencing such problems.

It’s the most exciting news of her life and you’re ridiculing her for it. Who needs enemies...

Timeisslippingaway · 09/07/2018 07:59

It always annoys me when people think other people car about them having a child as much as they do. I especially hate when people find out the sex of the baby but then keep it as a surprise for everyone else. Ok if they don't want to know themselves and they want a surprise, absolutely fine, but really people no one else cares that much.

LyndseyKola · 09/07/2018 08:06

OP seems to have slinked off with her tail between her legs from these comments 😂

I agree, it’s cringeworthy. But not as bad as the typical Facebook posts people do which always have the specific phrase ‘we’d like to announce the newest addition to our family’ which somehow seems to be used for both a new pregnancy, and a new dog or cat or hamster 😂

It’s the ‘we’d like to announce’ that gets me. So fake formal, just comes across odd as it’s like it’s trying to be the sort of formal announcement you’d get in the New York Times but in a Facebook post with what is usually an extremely tacky photograph such as three different sizes of shoes. The ‘newest addition’ is insufferably twee too.

YANBU to think it’s cringeworthy but also YABU as a friend to share something so identifying here. It’s like you want her to see this and be upset or something. It’s so specific if any of the others there see this it’ll get back to her. And then she’ll be left wondering which of her apparently good friends you are.

Sisgal · 09/07/2018 08:15

I agree - pretty nasty/horrible of you to come on here to ridicule your 'friend'

Kerberos · 09/07/2018 08:15

Holy moly. With friends like you she definitely doesn't need enemies. She's a friend, right? Someone you like and value? Why the fuck would you put this post on a parenting website she's likely to be on.

The reveal itself, albeit cheesy, was IMO low key and lovely. Just for the six of you.

Lizzie48 · 09/07/2018 08:31

This was a very unkind post; it may have been a bit cringeworthy but why can't you just be happy for her? Hmm

CrackerCrisp · 09/07/2018 09:17

Why does someone always have to bring it down to being ‘jealous’? 🙄

labazs · 09/07/2018 18:15

another one of those odd pregnancy ideas doing the rounds personally i think baby showers aka another American tradition are daft anyway people used to buy you a gift when baby was born not all this buying heaps before hand used to be back luck

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